I'm really starting to get annoyed with myself!
Most of the time when I go to the club I usually feel uncomfortable, and almost out of place even though I know that I'm not. I don't have problems socializing or talking to women and I usually will run into various friends both male and female while at the club and I don't go alone I go with friends who are outgoing and fun, so there is really no reason for me to not enjoy myself, but most of the time I don't. Then every once in awhile for whatever reason I have the time of my life, I approach any female that I want without fear or hesitatation, I round up girls for my friends too if they aren't having any luck. I keep trying to get myself into the mindstate of these times when I actually have good times but it never seems to work out that way. I am more outgoing when I drink but I drink the same amount wheather I end up having a good time or a bad time so that's not it, and I always go out with the intentions of just trying to have a good time basically expecting the worst but hoping for the best. Where I'm from the guys that hit the danceflooor in groups or by themselves almost never have any luck picking up chicks this way.
so it's not really something I'm comfortable with doing, I'm a good dancer and will take HB's to the dancefloor after a successful pickup if they're game for it, but this usually only happens on the good nights.
I know I'm not the only one with this problem and I don't think it's possible to go to the club and not be thinking about trying to pick up women so I don't really buy into that "focus on having a goodtime not picking up chicks stuff" I would like to hear from anybody who can relate to what I'm talking about and has had success at overcoming club anxiety.
Most of the time when I go to the club I usually feel uncomfortable, and almost out of place even though I know that I'm not. I don't have problems socializing or talking to women and I usually will run into various friends both male and female while at the club and I don't go alone I go with friends who are outgoing and fun, so there is really no reason for me to not enjoy myself, but most of the time I don't. Then every once in awhile for whatever reason I have the time of my life, I approach any female that I want without fear or hesitatation, I round up girls for my friends too if they aren't having any luck. I keep trying to get myself into the mindstate of these times when I actually have good times but it never seems to work out that way. I am more outgoing when I drink but I drink the same amount wheather I end up having a good time or a bad time so that's not it, and I always go out with the intentions of just trying to have a good time basically expecting the worst but hoping for the best. Where I'm from the guys that hit the danceflooor in groups or by themselves almost never have any luck picking up chicks this way.
so it's not really something I'm comfortable with doing, I'm a good dancer and will take HB's to the dancefloor after a successful pickup if they're game for it, but this usually only happens on the good nights.
I know I'm not the only one with this problem and I don't think it's possible to go to the club and not be thinking about trying to pick up women so I don't really buy into that "focus on having a goodtime not picking up chicks stuff" I would like to hear from anybody who can relate to what I'm talking about and has had success at overcoming club anxiety.