warning: this is a long post and has a lot of questions.
I numbered and italicized the things I'm looking for answers for.
1. Could it be said that if a girl spends 1on1 time with you she most certainly has SOME level of interest in you?
I was passing through the area so I called up this girl I went to highschool with before hand. We hung out once before (about a month ago) since we graduated highschool, but it was more through a friend that we hung out but we became aquaintances before then. It was a "hey im gonna be passing through your town so what are you doing" She said she was studying for a midterm so she might or might not be able to hang out. 6. do you think because she hung out with me the night before her midterm it would mean she has SOME interest in me?
Since she only lived one freeway exit and a half a mile out of my way I decided to pay her a visit anyways. I didn't even call before hand I thought i'd just be unpredictable and show up. 2. was this a good idea to show up without calling before hand?
I came back from the racetrack and she told me to take some pictures for her of the racetrack. I didn't have a camera so I didn't take any pictures for her. She asked me if I took pictures and I told her I brought her back something else. I gave her my best time slip (a reciept looking piece of paper that shows how fast you drive down the quarter mile) 3. was this a good idea that could be thought of as something sweet or just a stupid boy thing that girls wouldnt care about? It turned out that she only wanted pictures because she had to take pictures of culture/things you dont see everyday for a school project. So I thought it was a good thing she didnt get to use me in that way.
When I saw her I greeted her but didn't really hug her or anything because I usually dont like to initiate those types of things, but if someone hugs me I certainly hug them back and initiate the hug when we say good bye. 4. should I just be really assertive and give her a hug when I see her anyways? But when I saw her she didnt really seem that excited to see me so there was no hugging, but I still wanted to initiate the kino so I was like "brr im cold lets go to your room," so I put my hands on her shoulders and turned her around in the direction of her room... 5. is that a good/or bad maybe to rough of kino?
When we were up in her room I helped her study for her test, I think it was really successful at first. At times she was really struggling to say things and would get frusterated and I would assert myself to tell her to slow down... to give me examples of certain things... etc. I think she might have got annoyed or something. because she said she wants to go eat and then i should leave after that. i only have a few ideas for why it seemed like she wanted me to leave after we went out and ate...
1. after 10 minutes of successfully helping her study I got kinda bored. and started going off topic.
2. i would tease her sometimes about little things she was doing... but not too badly.
3. when she wouldnt let me get involved for second time i would sort of retaliate by using my phone. i think she suspected that I was texting other girls because she knows that there are other girls at her school but I only decided to hang out with her. 6. should have I just left her at this point for other girls b/c she seemed rather eager for me to leave? but then again she DOES have a midterm tomorrow. 7. why do you think I came off as annoying... im sure if the girl absolutely liked me that she would never think I was annoying, am i right?
while she was studying I told her that I called her and two other girls and she was the first one to return my call so I decided to visit her. 8. is this too mean or ****y? maybe she was offended or upset that I picked her over other girls? when another girl called me WHILE i was helping her study, I picked up but then lied to the girl who called me that I was tired and just wanted to go home. 9. was this a bad move... did I seem too nice or too exclusive to the girl i was helping study? Did I seam too mean to the girl who called? I kinda regretted turning down the girl who called me later because this was before the girl who i was hanging out with started to imply that I need to leave after we eat. She said she wanted to eat fast food I kinda wanted to take her to a nice restaurant or something but I didn't even ask since she arleady said she wanted fastfood. 10Should have I taken her to restaurant anyways, and do you think she just wants fast food so she can get rid of me sooner?
Anyways we went out to eat and when we were out I didnt really know the town that well (Ive only been there like 2 days in my entire life) but I still didnt ask for directions (not so much because I want to be manly and not ask for directions but more because I wanted to challenge myself to see if I could find the way. Anyways we got to the general area and then asked a person, I wasn't far off. When we got there I asked her if she wanted to eat there or get drive through. she said drive through. At this point I decided to neg hit her because I really wanted to get her back for her pretty much telling me I need to leave after only chilling for what ended up being no longer than an hour. Anyways I kinda wanted to go in and eat and we got in arguement So I gave her the neg-hit "oh you dont' wanna go in and eat cuz you look like **** right now mrs sweatpants and sweatshirt? 11. was this too much of a neg-hit? I tried to imply that I wanted to go in and eat and said. "dont worry I look good enough to cover for both of us." Anyways I still gave her what she wanted and went through drive through.
When I got to the window I asked for "spread" and she's like "whats spread" I answered: "you know, can you spread your legs" and looked at her with the blankest serious emotionless face... and then cracked a smile and im like "just kidding. youll see what spread is" So I've been pretty much trying to flirt and be ****y and funny the entire time.
On the way back we had another interesting dialect when she said her strawberry shake was really sweet. I wanted to taste it so I asked her if she believed in germs... she said "what do you mean?" and then im like "lemme get a taste" and she said "no, i never share my drink" At this point i was feeling pretty ****ty with her not letting me drink her drink and her wanting to get rid of me 12. is it pretty apparent she doenst have any interest in me?
On the way home I was kinda dancing and singing in the car she thought it was funny and i definitely got some good smiles on the way back. There was a guy on the street and shes like "waoh watch it" I was like "naw im gonna run him over" but of course I waited for him to cross anyways. she said "no hes cute dont do that" This was sh!t test so i said
"are you sure?"
"yeah he is, go look"
so I turned onto the street he was walking on and said "okay then we gotta impress him right?"
before driving by I changed the music to some rap, blasted it and rolled down the windows while flooring it by him and she laughed at that and said "no hes not cute" 13. how would you say i handled the test?
Before we left shes like "alright i need to study now" and I said "are you kicking me out" she said yes. I should have done something funny at that point but didnt think of anything so I just said okay.... fine.
When we were outside near my car she asked me if I'd go to the street races in a town REALLY close to hers on friday (she kinda wanted a ride home for the weekend and not so much wanted to go to the street races) so I said "I dont know yet." and tthen she said "fine" and turned around without saying good bye or giving me a hug or anything so I spread my arms out and she said "no" In response i said "*****" but in a joking manner. 14. too far/not funny? how would you say the time went? CRITIQUE IT.
thanks in advance.
I numbered and italicized the things I'm looking for answers for.
1. Could it be said that if a girl spends 1on1 time with you she most certainly has SOME level of interest in you?
I was passing through the area so I called up this girl I went to highschool with before hand. We hung out once before (about a month ago) since we graduated highschool, but it was more through a friend that we hung out but we became aquaintances before then. It was a "hey im gonna be passing through your town so what are you doing" She said she was studying for a midterm so she might or might not be able to hang out. 6. do you think because she hung out with me the night before her midterm it would mean she has SOME interest in me?
Since she only lived one freeway exit and a half a mile out of my way I decided to pay her a visit anyways. I didn't even call before hand I thought i'd just be unpredictable and show up. 2. was this a good idea to show up without calling before hand?
I came back from the racetrack and she told me to take some pictures for her of the racetrack. I didn't have a camera so I didn't take any pictures for her. She asked me if I took pictures and I told her I brought her back something else. I gave her my best time slip (a reciept looking piece of paper that shows how fast you drive down the quarter mile) 3. was this a good idea that could be thought of as something sweet or just a stupid boy thing that girls wouldnt care about? It turned out that she only wanted pictures because she had to take pictures of culture/things you dont see everyday for a school project. So I thought it was a good thing she didnt get to use me in that way.
When I saw her I greeted her but didn't really hug her or anything because I usually dont like to initiate those types of things, but if someone hugs me I certainly hug them back and initiate the hug when we say good bye. 4. should I just be really assertive and give her a hug when I see her anyways? But when I saw her she didnt really seem that excited to see me so there was no hugging, but I still wanted to initiate the kino so I was like "brr im cold lets go to your room," so I put my hands on her shoulders and turned her around in the direction of her room... 5. is that a good/or bad maybe to rough of kino?
When we were up in her room I helped her study for her test, I think it was really successful at first. At times she was really struggling to say things and would get frusterated and I would assert myself to tell her to slow down... to give me examples of certain things... etc. I think she might have got annoyed or something. because she said she wants to go eat and then i should leave after that. i only have a few ideas for why it seemed like she wanted me to leave after we went out and ate...
1. after 10 minutes of successfully helping her study I got kinda bored. and started going off topic.
2. i would tease her sometimes about little things she was doing... but not too badly.
3. when she wouldnt let me get involved for second time i would sort of retaliate by using my phone. i think she suspected that I was texting other girls because she knows that there are other girls at her school but I only decided to hang out with her. 6. should have I just left her at this point for other girls b/c she seemed rather eager for me to leave? but then again she DOES have a midterm tomorrow. 7. why do you think I came off as annoying... im sure if the girl absolutely liked me that she would never think I was annoying, am i right?
while she was studying I told her that I called her and two other girls and she was the first one to return my call so I decided to visit her. 8. is this too mean or ****y? maybe she was offended or upset that I picked her over other girls? when another girl called me WHILE i was helping her study, I picked up but then lied to the girl who called me that I was tired and just wanted to go home. 9. was this a bad move... did I seem too nice or too exclusive to the girl i was helping study? Did I seam too mean to the girl who called? I kinda regretted turning down the girl who called me later because this was before the girl who i was hanging out with started to imply that I need to leave after we eat. She said she wanted to eat fast food I kinda wanted to take her to a nice restaurant or something but I didn't even ask since she arleady said she wanted fastfood. 10Should have I taken her to restaurant anyways, and do you think she just wants fast food so she can get rid of me sooner?
Anyways we went out to eat and when we were out I didnt really know the town that well (Ive only been there like 2 days in my entire life) but I still didnt ask for directions (not so much because I want to be manly and not ask for directions but more because I wanted to challenge myself to see if I could find the way. Anyways we got to the general area and then asked a person, I wasn't far off. When we got there I asked her if she wanted to eat there or get drive through. she said drive through. At this point I decided to neg hit her because I really wanted to get her back for her pretty much telling me I need to leave after only chilling for what ended up being no longer than an hour. Anyways I kinda wanted to go in and eat and we got in arguement So I gave her the neg-hit "oh you dont' wanna go in and eat cuz you look like **** right now mrs sweatpants and sweatshirt? 11. was this too much of a neg-hit? I tried to imply that I wanted to go in and eat and said. "dont worry I look good enough to cover for both of us." Anyways I still gave her what she wanted and went through drive through.
When I got to the window I asked for "spread" and she's like "whats spread" I answered: "you know, can you spread your legs" and looked at her with the blankest serious emotionless face... and then cracked a smile and im like "just kidding. youll see what spread is" So I've been pretty much trying to flirt and be ****y and funny the entire time.
On the way back we had another interesting dialect when she said her strawberry shake was really sweet. I wanted to taste it so I asked her if she believed in germs... she said "what do you mean?" and then im like "lemme get a taste" and she said "no, i never share my drink" At this point i was feeling pretty ****ty with her not letting me drink her drink and her wanting to get rid of me 12. is it pretty apparent she doenst have any interest in me?
On the way home I was kinda dancing and singing in the car she thought it was funny and i definitely got some good smiles on the way back. There was a guy on the street and shes like "waoh watch it" I was like "naw im gonna run him over" but of course I waited for him to cross anyways. she said "no hes cute dont do that" This was sh!t test so i said
"are you sure?"
"yeah he is, go look"
so I turned onto the street he was walking on and said "okay then we gotta impress him right?"
before driving by I changed the music to some rap, blasted it and rolled down the windows while flooring it by him and she laughed at that and said "no hes not cute" 13. how would you say i handled the test?
Before we left shes like "alright i need to study now" and I said "are you kicking me out" she said yes. I should have done something funny at that point but didnt think of anything so I just said okay.... fine.
When we were outside near my car she asked me if I'd go to the street races in a town REALLY close to hers on friday (she kinda wanted a ride home for the weekend and not so much wanted to go to the street races) so I said "I dont know yet." and tthen she said "fine" and turned around without saying good bye or giving me a hug or anything so I spread my arms out and she said "no" In response i said "*****" but in a joking manner. 14. too far/not funny? how would you say the time went? CRITIQUE IT.
thanks in advance.
