For the gents 27 and over, how do you deal with the fact that as you get older, more women start to have kids? I cant help but be mega turned off my single moms. However, I know as I get older, they will flood my dating pool more. I gotta be realistic and know I wont be young forever (im 27) and that if Im still single into my 30s, a good portion of my dating pool will have kids.
Hell, even if the girl is 25 and attractive, seeing her profile say she has a kid, or having a girl mention it to me turns me off. I have a few reasons;
1. I have no kids, and because she already has a kid, I know if there were any kind of slip ups, shed likely make me a father. Clearly she didnt opt for abortion or morning after pills before.
2. I cant get over thinking what the kid might have done to her body, especially her lady parts. Shallow sure, but in my mind it screams that shes less elite physically than other women. Doesnt matter if she still looks good as a mom in her 20s, it just bugs me.
3. Lord knows kids will get top priority and this zaps a lot of spontaneity out of dating.
4. I feel less prideful if I pull a single mom, cus tbh...they have to lower their standards because of how a lot of men generally feel about them. It feels like itd be too easy, and who doesnt want a girl thats well sought after?
So for the childless older gents, how did you deal with the reality that many women eventually will have kids. Sure some people will say "well just always date younger". But the reality is that generally much younger women want men near their age. And plus, I see women under 22 as kids already. The maturity level aint there...and I prefer someone within a few years of my age. We click more and its less headaches.
Thoughts?
Hell, even if the girl is 25 and attractive, seeing her profile say she has a kid, or having a girl mention it to me turns me off. I have a few reasons;
1. I have no kids, and because she already has a kid, I know if there were any kind of slip ups, shed likely make me a father. Clearly she didnt opt for abortion or morning after pills before.
2. I cant get over thinking what the kid might have done to her body, especially her lady parts. Shallow sure, but in my mind it screams that shes less elite physically than other women. Doesnt matter if she still looks good as a mom in her 20s, it just bugs me.
3. Lord knows kids will get top priority and this zaps a lot of spontaneity out of dating.
4. I feel less prideful if I pull a single mom, cus tbh...they have to lower their standards because of how a lot of men generally feel about them. It feels like itd be too easy, and who doesnt want a girl thats well sought after?
So for the childless older gents, how did you deal with the reality that many women eventually will have kids. Sure some people will say "well just always date younger". But the reality is that generally much younger women want men near their age. And plus, I see women under 22 as kids already. The maturity level aint there...and I prefer someone within a few years of my age. We click more and its less headaches.
Thoughts?