Childhood impact on Adulthood

jhonny9546

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When children are born, they often exhibit two distinct types of personalities: some children possess an inherent strength that drives them to challenge and defy rules, seeking independence and sometimes indulging in mischief. Others are more compliant, trained to be docile and sweet.

You can see it. It's in your every day. You can observe these differences in children.
The "lively" ones tend to be restless, often requiring multiple reminders to stay in line. Despite their challenges, parents often feel a sense of satisfaction because their child is vibrant and full of energy.
On the other hand, the "calm" children are cherished and adored, as they naturally adhere to the rules without much prompting.



Can you imagine how our childhood experiences shape who we become as adults?
For an instance, consider the first child, the "lively" one, who embarks on social, sexual, and career experiences much earlier than the second child, who is more reserved and obedient. We are born with certain predispositions that are further influenced by our upbringing. This innate desire to challenge rules set by parents often coexists with an awareness of their expectations.
Children who rebel may not care about parental disapproval, while those who conform might later realize that they have missed out on opportunities. This will create their "answering machine" to the future society and environmental feedback life will present them by exposure.


As they grow older, children in the second category may find themselves reflecting on their lives at 20 or 30 years old, realizing they have achieved little by strictly following the rules. They may find themselves in situations where the "lively" child engage and have sex with someone they secretly desire but feel unable to express their feelings due to their adherence to societal norms. That's just an example, but these dynamics also play out in school, sports, work, and other areas of life.


The real question arises: after being born with a certain predisposition and raised in a rules-based environment, can one truly change to be like the "lively" boy, even if later in life? Is it possible to break free from these early influences to achieve success and live a fulfilling life?

In my personal experience, I have seen nice guys change in their 30s and 40s, and the people around them notice the change, and respond positively.

I am one of those, and I started mine at age 25.
I apologize every day for waiting so long.
 
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