rgeere, that's about right. As far as settling goes, don't settle if you don't want to. It's your choice. Some people have way too high, unrealistic standards, or their awareness/perception is not up to par to their reasoning so they can't see the good when it's there. If you don't think it will work between the two of you, it probably won't. Just try to understand that people are difficult to get along with when you're first starting to get to know them. Give them a few months or years and you'll be getting along much better. THat's the hard part about relationships. It takes time to get it to work.
Everyone is the same in my book. Everyone is selfish. You seek a relationship because you're lonely believing that that will change everythign in your life. It might or it might not. If you don't get along well it won't change much. If you do you might get married and live happily ever after. Who knows. But don't hurry getting into marriage. Try to live first and see what's out there on the market. Don't be naive believing that everything will be alright after your lonlines has disappeared.
Btw, I'm not coming from reading the bible even though I do relate to many of things said in the bible through personal experience. I've been there and done that, observed, made my own realizations and rationalizations. AND! I still have a long way to go. It's life. Nothing is set in stone and nothing will ever be. The most powerful people are the ones with life experiences.