Chicks with low cut tops 'covering' themselves while talking to you?

[Naughty Ninja]

I posted this thread in the DJ discussion forum and was wondering the mature man’s opinion on this:

Don't know if anyone's experienced this but I happened to notice something AFTER talking normally with a few chicks at work.

Now not even looking PURPOSELY at their v-neck tops and cleavage, talking to chicks I talk with pretty regularly who wave and say hi that I work with I noticed something they've ALL did and I'm not sure if it's just me or has this happened to other posters here.

Going up, just talking about random crap etc. NOTHING sexual or hitting on. (At work) I've noticed now that I think about it at LEAST four chicks 'covering' with shawls or 'adjusting' their v-neck work shirts as soon as I or approached or they've approached me and started talking without me even looking at their cleavage on separate occasions.

Now these chicks are friendly and very good looking and I've known them for a little while now and come off with basically my everyday 'wise assed' funny non-chalant attitude to everyone.

What I'm wondering is have other dudes experienced chicks 'subconsciously' adjusting 'covering' themselves while walking up to you or them that you know personally and do you feel they subconsciously WANT you to notice what they are doing? Or are all chicks these days subconsciously paranoid that you may be 'looking' at their 'charms' even if you PURPOSELY aren't?

I swear I start wondering: Does she think I am or am going to stare at her t!ts? Or does she WANT me to take a look so she can 'catch' me?

Funny thing is these chicks though younger DO flirt with me and smile a lot when we talk. Touch me or 'hit' me playfully. But these chicks are much younger. Hot as hell though. I work with LOADS of hot co-workers and customers in my second part time job. (Only reason I stay there. lol)

I don't mind. Fvck it. If I DID get caught I would simply say: Yep. Too late. I already looked.

It's almost like a dude 'adjusting' his junk as soon as he starts to talk to a chick..Though from a guys point of view who did that he either consciously or subconsciously WANTS her to notice.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Ninja,

I work at a university and I talk to 18-22 year old co-eds all the time. (Poor me.) I have a great rapport with them (and the guys too). They are generally comfortable around me, and although I'm professional, the tone of our conversations can be mildly flirty/very friendly without getting into dangerous territory.

I'm telling you this because I've seen many of them do what you're describing. I wouldn't read too much into it. People want to be looked at but they don't want to appear gratuitous. Sometimes I get the lean forward/cleavage shot like there's no tomorrow; the deniability is that it can't be helped sometimes. Other times there's a shy cover up. And I'm sure you've checked out many a female a$$ walking outside, only to see her pull her top down. Women have sensors on their backsides!

Perhaps you've walked around at home alone naked thinking that it would be great if a hot woman passed by your window and caught you. But if that happened in reality your defenses would be raised because there are all kinds of variables and implications to being exposed to someone. That's an extreme case, but I think it's similar to women and boobs. Yes, they want you to look, but they want to maintain some semblance of respectability depending on the context. (In a nightclub you would get a much better view.) The cover-up (or exposure) at the office isn't necessarily a telegraph to you. It's her getting away with what she can and pulling back when she thinks she should.

True indeed. Never had a chick pull her shirt down if I got caught looking at her ass. Most likely because they know I don't care and I smile and look like: Oh well. You 'busted' me. And what? lol

 

[zekko]

This way she can feel slvtty when she dresses like that, and appear chaste when she tries to cover herself up.

 

[Lexington]

I would be more concerned if the women didn't care at all about modesty. Think about it. Girls often have no qualms about sharing a bed with gay guys or even changing in front of them. Why? Because the gay guys don't even register on their sexual radar.

It's better to have a girl feel something rather than nothing at all.

 

[Nutz]

They know full well they are going to get attention there. When they don't cover up I suspect it's because they want you to look. It could be because they want to tease you, like you and want you to be attracted to them, or any number of things.

If they cover up it's because you either make them uncomfortable being seen as a sexual person, or they're afraid you'll judge them, or don't want to be seen as though they're flaunting their sexuality for one reason or another (like risking a job if the boss is talking to him/her).

 

[Johnnyventana]

I mostly see the opposite. Chicks being way to open with that shyte. Even the so-called good girls seem to get off forcing their cleavage down your throat.

If they are covering up, you are creeping them out. And if they all are covering up, they all are talking about you. Not good.

We had a guy at work that the chicks nicknamed booby-looker because he seriously talked to their breasts and not their eyes. He was creepy, they all said. Needless to say, he wasn't getting any dates. He was on the "ewww" list.

 

[Nutz]

Relevant:

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/q3kxm/ladies_how_do_you_feel_when_you_catch_one_of_us/

If they have their tits hanging out at a bar or club, a fun ****y funny thing to do is just stop talking mid sentence....stare at her boobs...then say something about how awesome her boobs are. Stop again, look some more , then really bust on her about it. You're going for a "I can't believe you just said that" reaction.

 

[Burroughs]

quote from reddit...this about sums it up.

____________


"I've had homeless, scraggly men stare at my chest and I've had nightmares about it. But I've also had incredibly hot men stare at my chest and give me a seductive wink and eyebrow-raise and... despite it being a little creepy, it's insanely hot."

and

"If you are hot = ogle away. If you aren't = eww creeper! stay away.
This is my reaction personally."

 

[MatureDJ]

I think that it is a sign that she thinks that you are not alpha enough to be getting the sexual signal that she is trying to send out (only to be directed at the alpha man.) Think about it - if Brad Pitt were talking to her, do you think she'd cover up?

 

[Naughty Ninja]

LMAO at some of these responses! Trust me. The SAME chicks who attempt the cover up. (I'm not talking about putting a burka on, or a jacket, sweater, zipping up so you can't see anything etc.) I'm talking about either adjusting their shirt while looking directly at you or using a scarf or shawl to 'cover' themselves. (Though they don't stay covered for long.) It's more like they KNOW you aren't looking and are purposely TRYING to make you look while using reverse psychology of 'covering' themselves quickly with something that will shortly show again. Kindof like a chick with a short skirt you know purposely 'adjusting' it in front of you and then it goes up again and she doesn't bother trying to 'cover' or adjust it.

Believe me dudes. These chicks touch me, smile, laugh, come talk to me etc. I think it's a semi "I don't want to look like I'm showing too much..but let me make sure you notice me adjusting myself ONCE." Maybe to some dudes I'm sure they cover up to COVER up. But it seems like it's more of a LOOK HERE because you haven't noticed my clevage.

 

[MatureDJ]

It's more like they KNOW you aren't looking and are purposely TRYING to make you look while using reverse psychology of 'covering' themselves quickly with something that will shortly show again. Kindof like a chick with a short skirt you know purposely 'adjusting' it in front of you and then it goes up again and she doesn't bother trying to 'cover' or adjust it.

That's a reason I had not thought of!

 

[Die Hard]

You think too much, Ninja.

When you're sitting on a couch at a party and some hot chick walking by falls onto your lap, you can do two things:

1. Be afraid.

You do nothing, act like you are not interested in her and just let her get up and go her way. If you would signal her your wish to stay on your lap and tried to escalate things, you might make a fool out of yourself, right? After all, it may have been an accident and she never intended to fall on your lap! Hell, she might even DISLIKE being on your lap!
Next day, you come on here, asking us guys whether we ever experienced women falling onto our lap on purpose, reasoning to us: "perhaps she fell on purpose...or perhaps she really fell by accident...or perhaps she fell HALF by accident and then subconciously decided she liked the idea of falling FURTHER so she would land on my lap..."

2. Be pragmatic

You look her deep in her eyes, put a smirk on your face and tell her: "Good things just keep falling into my lap! " or something else (I just made this one up as I'm writing, lol). If you're lucky, she responds interested and you got her in the bag. If you're unlucky, she decides to get up and walk further. Who cares...



When a certain element of sexuality (no matter how big or small) is added to the situation between you and a girl, don't overfocus on the question whether she added that element to the situation and if so, whether she did it on purpose or not. Just focus on the fact that a sexual element HAS been added to the situation and use it to your advantage: it makes it easier for you to escalate things.

If a girl covers her tits up, it adds an element of sexuality to the situation. Coz you are gonna notice her doing it...(whether you notice it consciously or subconsciously, doesn't matter. Nor does it matter whether she did it consciously or subconsciously)
And she will notice you noticing her tits...and you will notice her noticing how you noticed her tits (each of which may be consciously or subsconsciously)...and at this point, even though the two of you talk about financial statistics at this moment, there is now an added sexual element to the situation.

Whether intentionally, accidentally, consciously or subconsciously, there is an added sexual element to the situation! In order to escalate things, all you need to do is look at them puppies a few times more and play that "I notice how you're noticing me noticing you" game with your eyes some more.

Who cares whether she covered them up in the hope you would look at them or whether she covered them up in the hope that you WOULD NOT look at them? All that matters, is she put your attention to them when she covered them up and that created a precedent for you to look at them again and escalate.

Once she notices you checking them repeatedly, she will either join you in escalating the sexual tension (starting to play with her hair, holding lots of eyecontact, smiling a lot, lots of different notes in her voice etc.) or she will give you opposite signals (cross her arms, avoid eyecontact, monotone voice etc.)

Added sexual element to situation = opportunity to escalate

And you always grab that opportunity (unless she's your best friend's wife or something, lol) You just escalate, you just look at them titties a few more times and see how she responds. You do this REGARDLESS! You do not need to know who added the sexual element to the situation and if it was her who added it, you do not need to know what her motive behind it was. All you need to know is IT'S THERE and it allows you to escalate easier.

Sh!t works the same as with asking a girl to dance... You can either ask everyone at the whole damn party whether that one girl would like to dance with you, in order to get that certainty and approach her without fear. But she's probably dancing with someone else by the time you finished your quest for answers, plus she thinks you're beta coz you didn't have the balls to approach her right away

You gonna find out if she wants to dance when you ask her, nothing more to it! Likewise, you gonna find out if she wanted you to notice her tits when you try to ESCALATE, nothing more to it. Hell, you don´t even need her to give you an excuse by covering that sh!t up... Just look at her damn tits and create a sexual atmosphere whenever you feel like it!

 

[Johnnyventana]

Bold things, to show your super serious.

 

[Nutz]

Another thought: call them out on it.

:covers herself:
You know if you don't want people looking at your boobs, you shouldn't wear shirts like that.

Just blurt it out and put it out there and make her squirm. Alternatively:

:covers herself:
Oh stop, that's a nice top, it really shows off what your momma gave you! You should be proud! :smirk:

 

[Naughty Ninja]

It's not that serious people. Just a question.

Believe me when I'm out or at a party I'm anything but afraid. lol.

I've spanked chicks at a Halloween party whom I didn't know (I was dressed in a white Hefty bag with Douchebag written on it.) None of them minded.

Put my hand directly on two chicks asses at my second part time job. (In a discreet area.) Both want me though. One keeps asking me if I'm dating anyone the other told me it turned her on and BOTH smiled like crazy when I did it. Went from waist right down to ass.

Pointed at a chicks hat out at a club and yelled "What the hell is that!" She laughed and came up to talk. (Hooters chick)

Know and talk with literally every hot chick that works or worked at my second part time job. (Where A LOT of even younger guys don't or never talked to.) Have them coming up to talk to me, ask me to meet them out etc.

And waaaay more different things during my life with chicks.

Trust me brothers. After a while you say fvck it and don't give a crap about chicks and just have fun. No DJ Ninja tactics needed.

 

[Die Hard]

It's not that serious people. Just a question.

Right... Coz that's what people do when they are not that serious about a question: They create two seperate threads about it and write incredibly long posts about it, basically repeating the same thing over and over again in those posts. And at first, they say they are unsure about the answer...but when other posters voice opinions contrary to what they HOPE the answer would be, they suddenly go to great lengths to convince the other posters that they pretty much DO know the answer themselves, after all.

Yeah man, it's totally obvious that you are not waaaay too occupied with this question

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Right... Coz that's what people do when they are not that serious about a question: They create two seperate threads about it and write incredibly long posts about it, basically repeating the same thing over and over again in those posts. And at first, they say they are unsure about the answer...but when other posters voice opinions contrary to what they HOPE the answer would be, they suddenly go to great lengths to convince the other posters that they pretty much DO know the answer themselves, after all.

Yeah man, it's totally obvious that you are not waaaay too occupied with this question

It was done because I most likely wasn't explaining what happened in the 'covering' up or people forgot to read my replies when they answered. I figured it out on my own anyway. No problem. It really isn't that serious. lol.

 

[Die Hard]

I figured it out on my own anyway.

Great to hear. Now stick with it!

 

[ilikecharlene]

Women with big tits have a double edged sword to deal with.

Yeah, our society values big tits over small to some extent. But well endowed women don't like men looking into their tits when they speak with them.

It could be reverse psychology, or in a non-sexual environment, she just wants to talk without men staring at her tits. I do think though that many big boobed women wear low cut tops since they KNOW men will stare. it's their way of teasing us lol...

 

[scrouds]

Back to basics. A woman adjusting herself is IOI. that's it. Lets keep it simple guys. She's adjusting her shirt. IOI.