Chicks who act Indecisive

[WORKEROUTER]

I was trying to strike up a relationship with a girl I've seen many times, and she throws some sh*t out about how she just doesn't know what she wants right now and that although she's attracted to me, she doesn't think theres an "emotional connection." What a crock of sh*t. She also claims to be too tied up with things right now to get attached to me. In between, she tried to pull a "how about friends" line on me, to which I told her that I don't have friends I'm attracted to.

She seems like someone living in a fantasy, wanting to "fall in love." Anyway, I told her that she needs to loosen up (and helped do this by appying kino).

But I think this is just a waste of time due to her seeming lack of decisiveness/maturity level. But, could all of these "reasons" just be because she really isn't attracted to me (even though she claims otherwise)? Have any of you guys experiences a situation similair to this?

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Dementia, thank you for kicking my ass into gear!

I think you are TOTALLY right. My first mistake was that I didn't put the romantic vibe out AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Instead I let AFC ways come over me.

I tried to pull out the "relationship" discussion thinking it would help propel the romantic vibe, but that was a mistake. Instead it turned me into an AFC.

The ultimate mistake was not "sweeping her off her feet."

So in the end she LJBF'ed me.

CONCLUSION: Time to kick that AFC piece of sh*t outa me!

 

[Wyldfire]

She can think you're attractive and still not be interested in you. It sounds to me like she just wants to focus on other things right now and doesn't want to get involved with anyone. She probably is someone who doesn't sleep around and is confident enough to not need a guy in her life to feel like a whole person. I think you totally miss the mark by thinking she isn't mature. Quite the opposite is true...she seems to have her head on pretty straight. You're just angry because she doesn't want to get involved with you.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
She can think you're attractive and still not be interested in you. It sounds to me like she just wants to focus on other things right now and doesn't want to get involved with anyone. She probably is someone who doesn't sleep around and is confident enough to not need a guy in her life to feel like a whole person. I think you totally miss the mark by thinking she isn't mature. Quite the opposite is true...she seems to have her head on pretty straight. You're just angry because she doesn't want to get involved with you.

Right, but the point is that her IL isn't THAT high...or else she would have already fallen for me, anyway.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Right, but the point is that her IL isn't THAT high...or else she would have already fallen for me, anyway.

"Fallen" for you? Come on...that's kinda sappy. No one "falls for someone" that quick. They just get infatuated and try to morph the new person into fitting their image of their "ideal" partner.

It sounds like she just doesn't want to get involved with anyone right now, and if that's the case, it doesn't matter what her interest level in you is because she has no interest level at all in any romantic involvement. That happens sometimes. You need to just move on.

 

[jakeyboy]

IMO, based on past experiences, the girls that can't make up their minds are just fvcking with your brain.trust me, she knows what she wants, and she'll get it when she wants it too. she would never be hesitant about something she wants

this hesitation that arises, is due to low interest, but at the same time she does not want you to stop liking her, because it boosts her ego of sorts

one girl was like the aforementioned, threw me some stupid line about being friends and mumbling that she wasn't ready.

i told her " sorry rene, i have enough friends. i'm outta here. "

a few months later, i guess she realized her loss, because she begged me to accept her, but it was already too late.

true, she may like you a little, but it aint enough, she's got to want to rip your clothes off! why else would you want to be with a woman with low interest level anyway?