And the other obvious thing that needs to be said is this: You can't write an interesting, engaging, and personal message to someone if their profile is vague and lacks detail. That's a general point; based on the messages she cited it sounds like there was enough detail in her profile to do that.
Furthermore Katey, if we're going to be legit about this, let's see some of the brilliantly crafted intro messages that you sent out to the men on the site? Ohhhhhh, that's right.
Hypocrite.