Chick with a boyfriend...Should I just move on?

[Falcon25]

Let me preface this by saying I do not have oneitis. I currently have 3 girls I am seeing, 2 of which I ef pretty regularly.

Okay, here's the deal. I have been talking to this girl I like, who has been with a guy for a year and a half. We flirt pretty hardcore and she admits that she is interested in me and that she wishes we would have dated before she met her current bf. The problem is she's direct and says she is in love with this guy and doesn't want to leave him. The other day she pretty much told me that and said some bs about how she still wanted us to be friends, which is wierd because I am no where near the friend zone with this girl. Maybe it's the challenge of the whole thing but I really want to get this chick. Should I just take her word that she is in love with this guy and will not leave him and leave her alone? I hate losing so I really don't want to do that. Give me some advice guys...

I tried to magnify the character flaws of this boy, so you can figure out what he should do. Usually, a woman, if she is interested, will RUN towards a man she likes, even if she is taken. SHE WILL BREAK UP WITH HER MAN JUST TO BE WITH HIM. You don't even need to show intent. All you have to say is "Sorry, but it's just not the right time." And then go date others so she sees it. SHE WILL RUN TO YOU, if she wants you. But, if a man is to pursue another man's girl (especially after she clearly told him no), he should be beaten. Bottom line.


How would you feel if you had a girlfriend who told you "There's this moron named KG, that is hitting on me. I told him DIRECTLY, I was in love with you. But, he won't stop. He says he doesn't like losing, even though there is no competition here, especially since I suvk your divk and let you fuvk me in the ass everynight. What do I tell him?"

 

[Energy25]

So what? Those of us who date attractive women know this, which has been written in this forum many times: attractive women nearly always have boyfriends. Most of them stay single only for a few months in between, or they move straight from one to another. Some get boyfriends simply to fill in the space while looking for something better.

If a guy wants to get a highly sought-after woman, he has to be prepared to hit on her even when she is in a relationship. If she didn't consider switching boyfriends, she would reject the attention. If she doesn't reject it, it means the guy has a chance.

If she isn't married she is fair game. Now stop being such an ass.

So true. Not to mention that girls with boyfriends a lot of the time are really interested in ANOTHER GUY, but will not break up with their current bf until they KNOW for a FACT that the other guy wants them too. You have to make your intentions known.

 

[KG33]

I tried to magnify the character flaws of this boy, so you can figure out what he should do. Usually, a woman, if she is interested, will RUN towards a man she likes, even if she is taken. SHE WILL BREAK UP WITH HER MAN JUST TO BE WITH HIM. You don't even need to show intent. All you have to say is "Sorry, but it's just not the right time." And then go date others so she sees it. SHE WILL RUN TO YOU, if she wants you. But, if a man is to pursue another man's girl (especially after she clearly told him no), he should be beaten. Bottom line.


How would you feel if you had a girlfriend who told you "There's this moron named KG, that is hitting on me. I told him DIRECTLY, I was in love with you. But, he won't stop. He says he doesn't like losing, even though there is no competition here, especially since I suvk your divk and let you fuvk me in the ass everynight. What do I tell him?"

Wow!!! You are a serious d0uche bag. How long since you have been laid? You can sniff my finger if you want chump. On second thought, take your tired punk-a$$ home.

 

[The_411]

Easy with the proselytizing, Falcon.

You're not going to change someone's viewpoint by insulting them telling them they are wrong. We've all seen how arguing with a girl about a break up works so well

There is a subtlety here. You have to put her on the B or C list as in a girl who interested but but someone you should put little or no effort into.

Unless you just want a one time hook-up, this girl is broadcasting that she is entertaining the idea of branch swinging with you which means the same could happen to you.

Don't waste time here, j keep up your normal game and pursue more plates. Scarcity will up your value immensely and it may force her in the direction of leaving her boyfriend to pursue a mysterious had to put a finger on you.

 

[hurrdurr]

move on...how would you feel if someone tried the same thing with your girlfriend?

 

[Cherokee]

Actually where I live, its immensely rare to come by a decent and beautiful girl who is single.

They are taken for a reason.

and those that are single... well...

 

[ELMER_GANTRY]

Let me preface this by saying I do not have oneitis. I currently have 3 girls I am seeing, 2 of which I ef pretty regularly.

that is good. sounds like you do because you are tryng to get her not the other way around.

Okay, here's the deal. I have been talking to this girl I like, who has been with a guy for a year and a half.

a girl in a LTR

We flirt pretty hardcore

not good gf material

and she admits that she is interested in me and that she wishes we would have dated before she met her current bf.

classic line by taken girls

The problem is she's direct and says she is in love with this guy and doesn't want to leave him.

That should be your answer right there

The other day she pretty much told me that and said some bs about how she still wanted us to be friends, which is wierd because I am no where near the friend zone with this girl.

wants you as an ego boost or maybe a future possible back up plan

Maybe it's the challenge of the whole thing but I really want to get this chick.

who wouldn't?

Should I just take her word that she is in love with this guy and will not leave him and leave her alone?

yes you should


I hate losing so I really don't want to do that. Give me some advice guys...

you win some and you lose some. how can you lose something you never had to begin with?

If she really wanted to be with you, she would dump her bf to be with you, not just want to be friends. If she wanted to sleep with you she already would have. If she said she is in love with him, she probably is, then your chances are pretty slim. She probably wants an ego boost or a guy to keep her bf jealous. Why be friends with a girl when you can actually have another? She was direct with you so thats not a good thing. You have a good thing going with the others. So keep at it. If you really want her then tell her "you can't be friends" and if she really wants you she will come to you. If she talks negative about her bf, (which she prob doesn't, because she is in love with him) then you can chip away at his faults and make her realize that you are the better catch. I would say, move on and find another single girl.

 

[Veridin]

Veridin,

You are a dumb ass. If she isn't married, she is fair game? So, with that logic, you are not a man, but a puvsy. You know why? Because you think that your friends' girlfriends are fair game. If I had a friend like you, I would hate myself.

THIS GUY IS TALKING ABOUT GOING AFTER A GIRLFRIEND WHO IS IN LOVE WITH HER BOYFRIEND. DID YOU GUYS READ THAT? HOW DO YOU FUNCTION AT SCHOOL?


SHE ALSO WANTS TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM. HE IS CLEARLY DISRESPECTING ANOTHER MAN. DO YOU UNDERSTAND THIS???? THIS IS HOW PEOPLE GET KILLED.

Blah blah blah. You have a serious attitude problem. Maybe someone took your girlfriend once and now you need to spew your aggression all over a forum thread to compensate. Let's see if you can get over it.

Also, stop using caps. If you can't get people to read what you write without putting it in caps, you're a failure.

 

[Veridin]

So true. Not to mention that girls with boyfriends a lot of the time are really interested in ANOTHER GUY, but will not break up with their current bf until they KNOW for a FACT that the other guy wants them too. You have to make your intentions known.

Exactly. If there is a girl who we seriously want, we make our intentions known. She then decides. If she has shown interest, then maybe she wants to make a change in her life, and that means finding a better boyfriend.

Or you can stand silent and let another man marry what should have been your wife.

Especially when you are 26+ you realize that all the most attractive women are almost always in relationships. And they often don't want to leave that comfort before they find someone new. If you never approach any of them, even when they show interest, then you'll have to settle for an UG and spend your middle age surfing XVideos.

 

[Falcon25]

Blah blah blah. You have a serious attitude problem. Maybe someone took your girlfriend once and now you need to spew your aggression all over a forum thread to compensate. Let's see if you can get over it.

Also, stop using caps. If you can't get people to read what you write without putting it in caps, you're a failure.

I put it in caps so that illiterate people like you, who have Zero reading comprehension skills, can understand. Learn how to read, before you attempt to write. Not once did I say anything about not making our intentions known. I told him to stop being an idiot and go after single women, especially since she told him he's a friend and that she LOVES ANOTHER MAN. It is because of idiots like this that guys can't find women. They go after women they have ZERO chance with. Reading is fundamental. Go back and read carefully. How did you finish school?