Chick with a boyfriend...Should I just move on?

[KG33]

Let me preface this by saying I do not have oneitis. I currently have 3 girls I am seeing, 2 of which I ef pretty regularly.

Okay, here's the deal. I have been talking to this girl I like, who has been with a guy for a year and a half. We flirt pretty hardcore and she admits that she is interested in me and that she wishes we would have dated before she met her current bf. The problem is she's direct and says she is in love with this guy and doesn't want to leave him. The other day she pretty much told me that and said some bs about how she still wanted us to be friends, which is wierd because I am no where near the friend zone with this girl. Maybe it's the challenge of the whole thing but I really want to get this chick. Should I just take her word that she is in love with this guy and will not leave him and leave her alone? I hate losing so I really don't want to do that. Give me some advice guys...

 

[JMoneyINC.]

Let me preface this by saying I do not have oneitis. I currently have 3 girls I am seeing, 2 of which I ef pretty regularly.

the fact that you just said that i think proves you have oneities

The problem is she's direct and says she is in love with this guy and doesn't want to leave him. The other day she pretty much told me that and said some bs about how she still wanted us to be friends, which is wierd because I am no where near the friend zone with this girl.

take this advice from someone who has posted 4 threads asking for help on a similar situation. i was in the same boat you were. met this hb 9 through class, turned out she had a b/f.

flirting was all there, kino was all there, def didn't feel like a friendzone. was close "in my opinion" to f-closing.

all of sudden chick stops coming to class. ignores all attempts of contact. i became "hyper-aware" of her actions. mind you i had plates too, but still wanted her, maybe because like you said, it was a challenge.

i developed oneitis for this chick, accidentally or not.

once i took the time to step back and access the situation, i realized, like anyone with good advice on this forum will tell you, that i was the prize, not her. so i quit worrying about her, went out, got new plates.

soon enough she was texting me apologizing, blah blah. but u know what, i didn't care. found new, better plates.

bottom line, its not worth it. like u said man, u have other plates, continue to spin them. continue being friends with this girl (if you can), and let the situation with her b/f play its self out. if she truly likes you, she'll dump and branch swing to you. if not, she did you a favor.

gl man

 

[Falcon25]

You are an idiot. Go get your own girlfriend.

 

[KG33]

She also admitted that the one of the reasons she is with this guy is because he does whatever she wants and puts up with her being, in her words, "a *****". I just don't believe that a woman can really be in love with a guy who acts like a chump yet she is acting like that is exactly what she wants...

 

[KG33]

Thanks Falcon for that helpful info. I love when punk-b*****'s post stuff on a msg board they would never say to someones face. Enjoy your night chump...

 

[Falcon25]

I would say this to your face, not only to your face, but I would knock your ass out. Respect your elders. GO GET YOUR OWN WOMAN. You, are the chump. You want someone's girlfriend. Do you know how much of a puvsy that makes you sound? Go on little boy, walk away. If I saw you tomorrow, I would say the same to you.

I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR A BOY WHO WANTS ANOTHER MAN'S GIRL.

 

[KG33]

"I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR A BOY WHO WANTS ANOTHER MAN'S GIRL." LMAO!!! This must happen to u a lot for u to be this upset. Just take it again and move on chump...

 

[KG33]

No girl is off limits unless she is married. If a girl wants to be exclusive then she will get married; until then, she is on the market and fair game.

 

[Falcon25]

Is that how you treat your buddies' girlfriends? As fair game? You pursue your friend's girlfriend as well? No girl is off limits till she is married, right? You seem like a great person! Very ALPHA guy. haha lol

Is this what you live by? I feel sorry for you. You have no ethics, morals, or even common sense. Hey, good luck man!

 

[KG33]

Thank you Jesus for your insight into my shortcomings...I will try to live my life more in your holy image.

 

[IamJosan]

No girl is off limits unless she is married. If a girl wants to be exclusive then she will get married; until then, she is on the market and fair game.

I'm with you on this one. I'd go for a girl that has a bf and I've had a few that dumped their bf for me. But I won't go into marriages. But whatever, not everyone is down for the gf-stealing thing and I don't think it's bad to steal a girl. It's always a game.

 

[KG33]

I'm with you on this one. I'd go for a girl that has a bf and I've had a few that dumped their bf for me. But I won't go into marriages. But whatever, not everyone is down for the gf-stealing thing and I don't think it's bad to steal a girl. It's always a game.

Thanks man...I just genuinely feel that everyone is technically "single" until they are married. What's the point in closing yourself off to meeting new people if you are just dating someone? If you want that then get married, otherwise it's game-on.

 

[runner83]

Is that how you treat your buddies' girlfriends? As fair game? You pursue your friend's girlfriend as well? No girl is off limits till she is married, right? You seem like a great person! Very ALPHA guy. haha lol

Is this what you live by? I feel sorry for you. You have no ethics, morals, or even common sense. Hey, good luck man!

Words mean nothing, action are all.

I agree with Falcon25 that it's a waste of time thinking about her as an option AT THIS STAGE.

But in reality, there is nothing morally wrong with taking another guy's girl. Even if she is married.

Bros before h (.)(.) s, but if you aren't friends with the dude, there's nothing wrong with it.

Just be aware that some (or most) guys would react violently if they knew she had cheated on him with you.

But then again, all of life is a risk.

Pursuit of her is a waste of time:

- Best thing to do is pursue other options, tease her at every opportunity, and make sure to (but not in explicit detail, let her wonder a bit) let her know about other girls you're seeing.

This may get her so wound up that she won't be able to help herself. But that's her choice...

 

[Your_Royal_Flyness]

(To the original poster)

You're wasting your time if you want anything other than a quick "ef" or smash with this girl. Trying to make another man's girl YOUR girl MIGHT work...but if she gets with you, she'll most likely cheat with someone else.
A flakey chick is a flakey chick.

Never chase (keyword CHASE) another man's girl, especially if she TOLD you she's in love with her dude. Even if she's bluffing, you're losing your pride by chasing her. This is known as "thirsty" behavior and the only thing you're doing in boosting her ego.

 

[vatoloco]

Sounds to me like she wants orbiters for when she's ready to branch swing. You didn't honestly think you were the only one, right?

Plus if you get together with this girl, it sounds to me like she'd be willing and able to fuck around since she seems to be the unfaithful type...

 

[search1ng]

I'm of 2 mindsets on this. Really depends on the scenario.

1. If i know her bf i won't touch that with a 10 foot pole. I may want to, but i won't. It's fcking principle and I'm never going to stab my fellow brother in the back.

2. If I don't know her bf, I'll probably try it anyway. It's not a matter of results, I'm interested in her and if she's interested in me i want to see where this goes. However, i will keep in mind, in some little corner, that this woman left her bf for me.

This is a minor point but I also hate cheating. If she's going to hook up with me i expect her to breakup with her current boyfriend. Likewise, I'd do the same.

 

[trrush]

you hate losing?
well what's the prize up for grabs? a girl with a boyfriend who she loves and doesn't want to leave him? and if you did get her, she'd probably cheat on you with him and flip flop back and forth between you two. and you'd be in for years of heartache, then the missed opportunities to be with other beautiful women because you're all tied up in her drama...
wow... what a prize to be won.

if you "lost", what do you get.. wow less drama and peace in your life and other girls

 

[aron77]

U r a back up plan in case things don't work out with her bf and if she is doing that to him then who wants her? If u got her then u would no longer be the forbiden fruit or the greener grass making u no longer as intense of an interest.

 

[Veridin]

I would say this to your face, not only to your face, but I would knock your ass out. Respect your elders. GO GET YOUR OWN WOMAN. You, are the chump. You want someone's girlfriend. Do you know how much of a puvsy that makes you sound? Go on little boy, walk away. If I saw you tomorrow, I would say the same to you.

I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR A BOY WHO WANTS ANOTHER MAN'S GIRL.

So what? Those of us who date attractive women know this, which has been written in this forum many times: attractive women nearly always have boyfriends. Most of them stay single only for a few months in between, or they move straight from one to another. Some get boyfriends simply to fill in the space while looking for something better.

If a guy wants to get a highly sought-after woman, he has to be prepared to hit on her even when she is in a relationship. If she didn't consider switching boyfriends, she would reject the attention. If she doesn't reject it, it means the guy has a chance.

If she isn't married she is fair game. Now stop being such an ass.

 

[Falcon25]

Veridin,

You are a dumb ass. If she isn't married, she is fair game? So, with that logic, you are not a man, but a puvsy. You know why? Because you think that your friends' girlfriends are fair game. If I had a friend like you, I would hate myself.

THIS GUY IS TALKING ABOUT GOING AFTER A GIRLFRIEND WHO IS IN LOVE WITH HER BOYFRIEND. DID YOU GUYS READ THAT? HOW DO YOU FUNCTION AT SCHOOL?


SHE ALSO WANTS TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM. HE IS CLEARLY DISRESPECTING ANOTHER MAN. DO YOU UNDERSTAND THIS???? THIS IS HOW PEOPLE GET KILLED.