Chic Flakes, but then I have one of the greatest club nights EVER!

[alpha_ash]

Hey guys,

So this one chic I had been seeing started flaking, I went NC, she came back and wanted to see me, so we met up once. Then a week later, she asked me when we will hang again. I told her straight up, Friday night, _____and ______ in the city, i'll pick you up at 9. She goes, "we'll see, I'll let you know but that sounds great."

Stupid ho didn't get back to me until 5 o clock day of (tonight) and says she may not be able to make it, makes a counter-offer for tomorrow night, to which I reply, "I have plans for the rest of the weekend". She says, " i really wanna come but i found out an hour ago that they're having guests over, but still may be able to come, will let you know." Then she texts me at 8:30 saying she can't come because of some bull**** reason even though she says she really wants to go. I'm thinking no loss because I was expecting her to flake so I had made plans with my buddy. I didn't respond to the last two messages, she said "i'm sorry" a couple of times.

Me and my buddy end up going to the club, PERFECTLY dressed with the right moves! First, we get in FREE because of a special lol. and then we end up having the time of our lives. I danced with 3 of the ABSOLUTE HOTTEST girls at the club, actually 1 of 3 was the hottest girl i have ever come across. Unfortunately, I was too ***** to get names/numbers, but then when I think about it, I wouldn't want to bring home a chic I met at a club anyway.

Thank you ho for flaking otherwise I wouldn't have had this experience. Just got back home a few mins ago.

EDIT: My question is, should I contact the chic again? I didn't respond to any of her messages today except the very first one which asked, "can we go tomorrow night instead?" to which I replied stating no, i have plans.

 

[spiegel549]

Honestly bro I have been going through the same crap recently. From my personal experience over the past month if a chick is into you and wants to see you she is not going to flake or cancel on you. Have you banged her already? I started seeing a girl and after we fcuked a few times she went off the map and went NC. I reached out twice spread out over 2 weeks and she never got back to me. Oh well lol.

You gotta look at it like this. You went out, you had a killer club night. Thats what you should be doing ALL THE TIME. Forget this broad. She is a waste of time. If she is really into you SHE will make time and come see you.

9/10 girls that I kept in touch with, pursued down the road that flaked. ALWAYS ended up to be a dead end road. If you banged her already, cut her lose. If you didn't bang her yet, just act like you don't care that she flaked. Never show that it bothers you EVER.

GL brooo

 

[alpha_ash]

Honestly bro I have been going through the same crap recently. From my personal experience over the past month if a chick is into you and wants to see you she is not going to flake or cancel on you. Have you banged her already? I started seeing a girl and after we fcuked a few times she went off the map and went NC. I reached out twice spread out over 2 weeks and she never got back to me. Oh well lol.

You gotta look at it like this. You went out, you had a killer club night. Thats what you should be doing ALL THE TIME. Forget this broad. She is a waste of time. If she is really into you SHE will make time and come see you.

9/10 girls that I kept in touch with, pursued down the road that flaked. ALWAYS ended up to be a dead end road. If you banged her already, cut her lose. If you didn't bang her yet, just act like you don't care that she flaked. Never show that it bothers you EVER.

GL brooo

No I haven't banged her. Honestly that is not my intention. I wanted to be friends with her. However, flaking is not something I allow even friends to do, or rather, none of my friends are flakes lol.

How should I reinitiate contact with her that doesn't make me come off weak?

 

[spiegel549]

You don't. You pursue other women until she contacts you.

Second that ^^^^^^


Friend, girlfriend, girl you are trying to sleep with, flaking is not cool. But you need to be INDIFFERENT towards how women act. You need to go do more awesome club nights and spin other plates, meet new women constantly. You then wont even be thinking about this broad.

In short, do not reach out to her. Let her contact you, and when she does you act like NOTHING is wrong, dont ever bring up how she flaked. If she asks anything like why you havent contacted her or w.e you just say "oh just been really busy, going out, and hanging with some new people I met." say it in a cheerful excited way. Dont say it like your upset or pissed, your tone of voice is everything.

No matter what a woman does, you must always give her that indifferent attitude. It has worked wonders for me.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

So this one chic I had been seeing started flaking...

Okay, pause a second. Once a girl starts flaking on you regularly, it's a WRAP. I know this may sound hard to believe, but girls that like you will ALWAYS show up for the date - and if they can't, they'll let you know faaaaar in advance and give a counter-offer. If they're just flaking and not actively setting up another time to see you, their interest is low.

...She came back and wanted to see me, so we met up once. Then a week later, she asked me when we will hang again. I told her straight up, Friday night, _____and ______ in the city, i'll pick you up at 9. She goes, "we'll see, I'll let you know but that sounds great."

You guys need to start getting into the habit of forcing chicks to set a definite date and time. In this scenario, if she had said "We'll see, I'll let you know," my response would have been: "Actually, I'm trying to plan out my weekend now because I'll have other stuff going on. Do you think you'll be able to make Friday, or should we plan for Saturday or Sunday instead?" At this point, if she starts giving you the same dialog - "oh, I dunno, I'll let you know" - it means she's not interested. And if she's not that's fine, but you need to do these things to weed out the uninterested ones early so you won't waste your money or time.

Stupid ho didn't get back to me until 5 o clock day of (tonight) and says she may not be able to make it, makes a counter-offer for tomorrow night, to which I reply, "I have plans for the rest of the weekend".

Ah, so she made a counter-offer? Well, seeing as she's flaked in the past it doesn't mean she's interested - she could very well flake on you the next day - but at least she was doing it 3 to 4 hours prior to you picking her up. However, once she gave you the excuse about the guests coming over, you should have cancelled - "y'know what, you sound busy tonight, let's move it to another day." That way, you wouldn't have been sitting around for 3 more hours waiting for her to text in her cancellation, and you wouldn't have come across as desperate.

(at the club) I danced with 3 of the ABSOLUTE HOTTEST girls at the club, actually 1 of 3 was the hottest girl i have ever come across. Unfortunately, I was too ***** to get names/numbers, but then when I think about it, I wouldn't want to bring home a chic I met at a club anyway.

This, by the way, is a lie. You're telling yourself you didn't want to take home a club chick, but the reality is had one of those girls been the aggressor - "hey, I'm having fun dancing with you, want to continue this thing at my place?" - you wouldn't have turned it down. It doesn't take a whole bunch of trickery to get a girls number; just say "hey, we're about to jet, let me get your number real quick." Or, if you want to do it the slick way, ask her to take a picture of the both of you with HER phone, then have her text you the pic. BOOM, you got the picture AND the number, and she'll barely even think about it.

My question is, should I contact the chic again? I didn't respond to any of her messages today except the very first one which asked, "can we go tomorrow night instead?" to which I replied stating no, i have plans.

The answer is, you should contact her, but not with the intention of dating her 'cause she doesn't appear to be interested. However, if you do insist on contacting her for a date, CALL her (texting KILLS relationships) and ask her out. You'll be able to hear her vocal inflections if you ask her via phone call, so make sure to listen to any hesitations in her voice when you ask her out. If she's not sounding uber-excited to be going out with you, you'll know how she really feels about your offer...

 

[alpha_ash]

Okay, pause a second. Once a girl starts flaking on you regularly, it's a WRAP. I know this may sound hard to believe, but girls that like you will ALWAYS show up for the date - and if they can't, they'll let you know faaaaar in advance and give a counter-offer. If they're just flaking and not actively setting up another time to see you, their interest is low.


You guys need to start getting into the habit of forcing chicks to set a definite date and time. In this scenario, if she had said "We'll see, I'll let you know," my response would have been: "Actually, I'm trying to plan out my weekend now because I'll have other stuff going on. Do you think you'll be able to make Friday, or should we plan for Saturday or Sunday instead?" At this point, if she starts giving you the same dialog - "oh, I dunno, I'll let you know" - it means she's not interested. And if she's not that's fine, but you need to do these things to weed out the uninterested ones early so you won't waste your money or time.


Ah, so she made a counter-offer? Well, seeing as she's flaked in the past it doesn't mean she's interested - she could very well flake on you the next day - but at least she was doing it 3 to 4 hours prior to you picking her up. However, once she gave you the excuse about the guests coming over, you should have cancelled - "y'know what, you sound busy tonight, let's move it to another day." That way, you wouldn't have been sitting around for 3 more hours waiting for her to text in her cancellation, and you wouldn't have come across as desperate.

This, by the way, is a lie. You're telling yourself you didn't want to take home a club chick, but the reality is had one of those girls been the aggressor - "hey, I'm having fun dancing with you, want to continue this thing at my place?" - you wouldn't have turned it down. It doesn't take a whole bunch of trickery to get a girls number; just say "hey, we're about to jet, let me get your number real quick." Or, if you want to do it the slick way, ask her to take a picture of the both of you with HER phone, then have her text you the pic. BOOM, you got the picture AND the number, and she'll barely even think about it.

The answer is, you should contact her, but not with the intention of dating her 'cause she doesn't appear to be interested. However, if you do insist on contacting her for a date, CALL her (texting KILLS relationships) and ask her out. You'll be able to hear her vocal inflections if you ask her via phone call, so make sure to listen to any hesitations in her voice when you ask her out. If she's not sounding uber-excited to be going out with you, you'll know how she really feels about your offer...

Great advice. I didn't respond last night and today she texted me this: "are you mad at me?" I responded, "nope, I'm driving." Was driving to NY. I haven't gotten back to her yet. Should I even bother with this?

Edit: she responded just now, "Yeah, but you didn't text me back yesterday and you always do." Lol ****!

 

[lamobatsman]

alpha ash. I dont like girls like this. The ones that text " are you mad at me etc and why you dont write me etc". They know ur interested and as others have said if she was interested in you she wouldnt have messed you around in the first place. Shes suspect and has mesed u around afew times and will continue to do so. I was in a similar position and to me they want your attention. This girl sounds like you need to NEXT her. Just text her saying iv been really busy!

if you do set up a date or get involved with her ul end up chasing her and she'l mess you around again. You're in control atm and shes chasing you. keep it that way and dont give in

 

[omega05]

Eh you should have gotten at least one number from your night out, now you're here asking if you should re-initiate contact with this girl. I'm not saying cut her off completely but lets see how much she actually is interested in you by wanting to hang out with you again

 

[alpha_ash]

alpha ash. I dont like girls like this. The ones that text " are you mad at me etc and why you dont write me etc". They know ur interested and as others have said if she was interested in you she wouldnt have messed you around in the first place. Shes suspect and has mesed u around afew times and will continue to do so. I was in a similar position and to me they want your attention. This girl sounds like you need to NEXT her. Just text her saying iv been really busy!

if you do set up a date or get involved with her ul end up chasing her and she'l mess you around again. You're in control atm and shes chasing you. keep it that way and dont give in

Eh you should have gotten at least one number from your night out, now you're here asking if you should re-initiate contact with this girl. I'm not saying cut her off completely but lets see how much she actually is interested in you by wanting to hang out with you again

Excellent advice. Thank you sirs. I'm going to wait this out and see if she gets back to me again wanting to meet up.