When women who are about to flake, stand you up, change their minds, buyers remorse...... they often give excuses. Excuses vary from the simple I forgot or silence to the well thought out elaborate, detailed story.
There are a few keywords that tend to stand out. No matter which part of the planet you reside, hear any of these and you instantly know low interest level and she has no intentions of meeting you , calling you back, making a second date, etc. Saves you a lot of time and frustration and should be a conversation ender. IN REALITY-in most cases they just got a better offer or they just not that into you.
EXCUSES which are lame fall into a few categories;
1) HEALTH-which include operations, eating something bad, being sick, don’t feel good, visiting friends in hospital, had to drive friends/relatives to hospital, pets sickness, kids sick, headaches, pills, colds, sun burns, aunt flow in town (period)
2) TECHNOLOGY-car broken into, car accidents, lost cell phone, lost directionally, cell phone batteries dead, stolen phone, computer virus, new computer, power failures, no signal, out of gas, friend borrowed car, couldn’t text/talk while driving, favorite show was on, etc
3) MISPLACED OR LOST-could not find your address, lost wallet, stolen purse, misplaced phone, could not find your number, email add, user name, dog ate your number, etc
4) MEMORY LOSS-I been so busy I just forgot, thought it was a different day, forgot where your lived, etc
5) DEFLECTION-this is where they try to turn it around, inject anger and make it appear like you are the one who forgot, has the problem, calling them a liar, etc
6) DELAYS-had to work late, overtime, plane arrived late, got back later than expected, got a ticket, was running a little behind, traffic jam, emergency at home, work, etc.
7) COUNTER OFFERS-they have so many other offers you get lost in the pile of fan mail, they contemplate what you said and give U the “I been thinking” speech, they were influenced by others not to meet you, I'm meeting an "old friend" for lunch/dinner, We will have to "reschedule" another time, my friend decided to "stay another night" so can we make it another day, we will see, I have not decided yet, maybe, possibly, perhaps, you never know, ya sure, let me ge back to you, I will let you know, I just don’t know, I was at work, ex stopped by
8) SILENCE-these types don’t even have the courtesy to contact you, they just leave you hanging, if you call them out, listen for the excuse, watch them incorporate deflection and ending with them wanting nothing to do with you.
NOTE-there are times when legitimate setbacks do happen, so how do you know for sure. Actions, behaviors have always been a guideline, give them the benefit of the doubt but do listen for the keyword and any slight variation, and deflection. If you sense B.S., low interest, best to move on, no need to vent, just truncate all conversation.
There are a few keywords that tend to stand out. No matter which part of the planet you reside, hear any of these and you instantly know low interest level and she has no intentions of meeting you , calling you back, making a second date, etc. Saves you a lot of time and frustration and should be a conversation ender. IN REALITY-in most cases they just got a better offer or they just not that into you.
EXCUSES which are lame fall into a few categories;
1) HEALTH-which include operations, eating something bad, being sick, don’t feel good, visiting friends in hospital, had to drive friends/relatives to hospital, pets sickness, kids sick, headaches, pills, colds, sun burns, aunt flow in town (period)
2) TECHNOLOGY-car broken into, car accidents, lost cell phone, lost directionally, cell phone batteries dead, stolen phone, computer virus, new computer, power failures, no signal, out of gas, friend borrowed car, couldn’t text/talk while driving, favorite show was on, etc
3) MISPLACED OR LOST-could not find your address, lost wallet, stolen purse, misplaced phone, could not find your number, email add, user name, dog ate your number, etc
4) MEMORY LOSS-I been so busy I just forgot, thought it was a different day, forgot where your lived, etc
5) DEFLECTION-this is where they try to turn it around, inject anger and make it appear like you are the one who forgot, has the problem, calling them a liar, etc
6) DELAYS-had to work late, overtime, plane arrived late, got back later than expected, got a ticket, was running a little behind, traffic jam, emergency at home, work, etc.
7) COUNTER OFFERS-they have so many other offers you get lost in the pile of fan mail, they contemplate what you said and give U the “I been thinking” speech, they were influenced by others not to meet you, I'm meeting an "old friend" for lunch/dinner, We will have to "reschedule" another time, my friend decided to "stay another night" so can we make it another day, we will see, I have not decided yet, maybe, possibly, perhaps, you never know, ya sure, let me ge back to you, I will let you know, I just don’t know, I was at work, ex stopped by
8) SILENCE-these types don’t even have the courtesy to contact you, they just leave you hanging, if you call them out, listen for the excuse, watch them incorporate deflection and ending with them wanting nothing to do with you.
NOTE-there are times when legitimate setbacks do happen, so how do you know for sure. Actions, behaviors have always been a guideline, give them the benefit of the doubt but do listen for the keyword and any slight variation, and deflection. If you sense B.S., low interest, best to move on, no need to vent, just truncate all conversation.
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