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[Walking Anomaly]

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Hey everyone

Anyway, straight to business...

i just started my first year of college, and Back in october i went out to a bar and got drunk with some friends. With my group of friends was this girl i was DJin. Anyway we got a little tipsy and when we got back to the dorm things got a bit hot n heavy. We were both into it, no forcing or foul play of any kind. Everything after was going fine until recently. I noticed that there was some distance growing between us. I did some digging, and now i find out she told her close friend i took advantage of her, which is not true in the least bit. It started right around when her ex who broke up with her before college started came back asking her to take him back. Coincidence? i dont know. In my opinion she should take responsibility for her actions instead of trying to say that i took advantage.

im stumped ...any ideas for a course of action?

for me, i wanna straighten things out.

let me know...much appreciated

 

[Jerky Boi]

Dude, that really sucks. You said she was drunk too though?

 

[Walking Anomaly]

yea we both were drunk...ill tell ya im a bit surprised as to how low she stooped. I'm just like mad now.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

bump

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

Move on. I've been in this situation and nothing you can say will get her to take back what she said.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Already in progress with that....what about my friends that are also her friends and vice versa? what should i do about those?

much appreciated

 

[Fitch]

Well you have an allaby -- you were drunk also -- thus not in control. You know the whole psychology of drinking... it releases your inner self... B.S. about that...

 

[Walking Anomaly]

i see...I'm also still stumped as to what to do about mutual friends. Some of her friends that are girl still try to talk to me, but if i really dont feel like even lookin at the girl slandering me anymore, how can i talk to her friends if shes there with them.?

any ideas?

Much appreciated

 

[Walking Anomaly]

bump

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

make it a joke

tell people she took advantage of YOU

 

[Luscious]

Welcome to college.

You need to take these encounters as what they are: hook-ups, with basically no strings attached.

If you're getting smashed at a bar, and a girl hits on you, and she also happens to be smashed - all that's going to come from this is a lay and a bail-out the next morning. Don't kid yourself.

You go to pubs and bars to get the short-term connections. If you want something more substantial, vary the location.

The setting matches your intention.

 

[mike_0678]

women will try every way possible to get the upper hand. she only says this to people becuase she doesnt want her girls to think shes a slut, dont bother with ehr I've had almost the exact thing happen to me but with a party instead of a bar becuase i'm only 17. she told EVERYBODY i took advantage of her and i was the drunk one she was sober.haha college is like that i guess i'm not there yet but i cant wait.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

thats grimey though...I just lost all respect for her haha...next time im in bed imma whip out a paper that says the girl consents to whats going on and make her sign it...that way if she ever turns on me i can just whip out that paper and shove it in her face...bam!....you signed it, so shut up haha

j/k