Cheating...

[Analyzeit]

I was just wondering what you guys do if you hear (not so much catch) about your LTR cheating on you??

Now I know this depends on a lot of things, but I'm talking about more shorter LTR's 1 year-6 months or even less but feel free to voice your opinion on longer LTR's

Now yes there is a reason for me asking this I've been in an LTR for awhile now and I don't really trust her at all, now i regret this as i probably should of kept her as a fvckbuddy, but she said some stuff that really changed my mind on her which is probably stupid but its quite complicated and i've done my research and I'm just probably going to get my balls wet on her before i dump her anyway even if she does cheat.

Now what i personally do myself is just dump her and move on, unless the guy she did it with knew about me and her and was doing it just to p!ss me off, then i'd waste him just for the principle rather then for her, I never let myself get to attached my attitude on it are LTR are just fvckbuddys with a little more respect and trust and maybe potential for something and if they cheat they lose the respect and trust , so to me it doesn't matter if they cheat thats my attitude on it.

I'm also wondering if any of you have ignored cheating and what has become of it?

So answer the question and also tell me your whole attitude towards when she does cheat on you.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

If it's an otherwise good relationship (i.e. you have fun together and enjoy each other) then I'd recommend staying together but definately push her to the back of the line and let her know that's how it's going to be.

IOW, take full advantage of the situation. You'll have a de facto girlfriend but by the rules of her own game you can date others and she can't say $hit.

As long as you emotionally detach then it's a win-win situation for you.

If you can't detach (or she's not cool to hang with) then NEXT and don't ever look back at the cheating wh*re.

 

[WC2]

'Ignoring' cheating in a LTR is like ignoring another man when he spits in your face.

It's degrading.
It's meditated.
Most of all, it's the end.

Has anyone ever ignored a cheater? Yeah, those sorry son of a b!tches you see in cuckold porn films.

I forgave a cheater once in a LTR; want to know what became of that?

A 2 year relationship of f*cked up proportions; lies, cheating, f*cking her friends, f*cking my friends; you get the idea.

In the end, it was a giant waste of both our times which could have been better spent with other people, pursuing other dreams.

If you ignore that this woman cheated on you then mark my words, she will cheat on you again.

If you keep this woman around as a f*ck buddy, make sure you have 100% emotional detachment.

Most importantly, what a woman says doesn't mean sh!t. What a woman does is the tell-tell sign of her character and beliefs. If she acts respectful of you, then most likely she is. However if a woman doesn't act respectfully towards you and tends to say 'I love you' or 'I'm sorry I'll never do it again,' she's most likely just talking out of her ass. Again, judge a person by their actions, not their words.

In the end it's tough to really take anyone back who has cheated on you. It's such a degradation of character that you essentially must look the other way and continue on with your life. She's disrespected you so much (and still doesn't respect you) that living with her is going to be somewhat of a joke (cuckold if you may).

What's really at stake here is your well being. If you're not 100% emotionally detached from this b!tch then you must start working towards it. The sooner, the better. A good man held down by a lying cheating skank is among on of the worst things to see; don't let it happen/keep happening to you.

 

[The Logical Player]

you are 16.....why in the hell are you in an LTR?

I swear, these AFCs get worse and worse every day, I actually do not even want to help you with my advice

 

[Nutz]

You're too young for a serious relationship. Hit it & quit it or keep things light is my advice. However, since you're asking about cheating, well, there's no way to know for sure how to handle this unless you tell us what was said to make you think she's messing around. Give us as much detail as possible.

 

[DohnShaft]

If a girl cheats on you, especially in a LTR. There is only one thing you can really do. NEXT the trifling hoe. There really isn't a bigger form of disrespect, and if she does it once she most likely do it again. Maybe you can let a drunken kiss slide, but not without giving her a BIG bag of sh*t.

 

[Roy]

Tinchy Stryder ft Taio Cruz - Take me back
That should be in the list somewhere!

 

[Captain]

If they cheat, leave them straight away. There are no excuses. Alcohol isn't an excuse.

Like the others said, 16 is a bit young for a LTR, although in high school people are usually expected to either hook up at parties or to have an exclusive relationship. Screw what they expect.

It's a good thing not to trust women. Their survival and reproduction instincts are stronger than the little social convention of a monogamous relationship