Cheating wife [merged threads]

[Married Buried]

LOL, jackreacher let me put it this way: A bunch of us guys posting on this thread have disagreed about a lot of shyt before, but we're in lockstep about you and your slvt wife. That should tell you something.

If I found out my wife lied to me once about anything, that would be enough for me to start some undercover PI work. I am paranoid about any shady female behavior. I almost started PI work before we got hitched, and she didn't do anything. Just to prove to myself she is straight, but you guys talked me out of it. I am paranoid after dealing with shady sluts for so long.

Then here is Jack, trusting her automatically after years of cheating. Hell no, I would have the entire house bugged and a GPS tracker on the car.

 

[Epimanes]

If I found out my wife lied to me once about anything, that would be enough for me to start some undercover PI work. I am paranoid about any shady female behavior. I almost started PI work before we got hitched, and she didn't do anything. Just to prove to myself she is straight, but you guys talked me out of it. I am paranoid after dealing with shady sluts for so long.

Then here is Jack, trusting her automatically after years of cheating. Hell no, I would have the entire house bugged and a GPS tracker on the car.

And that my friend is trust via verification. Especially when one of the two has broken trust it can never be blind again. Open book. Transparent. And snoop til your bored to tears from not finding anything. THEN you will feel confident that she's doing/saying/being what,where and when and being accountable for every minute.

People with nothing to hide don't hide anything or NEED privacy in marriage. So therefor should not feel threatened about being spyed on.

No room for secret second lives.

Epi

 

[mikey2012]

And that my friend is trust via verification. Especially when one of the two has broken trust it can never be blind again. Open book. Transparent. And snoop til your bored to tears from not finding anything. THEN you will feel confident that she's doing/saying/being what,where and when and being accountable for every minute.

People with nothing to hide don't hide anything or NEED privacy in marriage. So therefor should not feel threatened about being spyed on.

No room for secret second lives.

Epi

What life is that ? Snooping on her for years to verify that she's clean.
Then there is still no guarantee . Better divorce her and find some one better

 

[mikey2012]

Leave Goddammit, initiate a divorce now, get everything you can and get out. What a horrible life you must have.

So after looking at how stupid this guy is, you guys gotta ask yourselves, do people like this really deserve to have money or nice things? I mean he's asking for the abuse, after awhile there is no way to feel bad for this guy. People who make the same mistakes over and over, even when they know the correct answer, are mentally retarded. I honestly didn't believe there were stupid people in the world until a few years ago when I started seeing REAL LIFE sh1t like this around me. I feel like I should be getting into sales cause there must be a million suckers like this.

One thing I've found with people in general is that you can't give them free advice, most will simply refuse to take it. Infact not just advice, free services or goods aswell. It really doesn't make sense but most people that I have met will just flat out refuse it. Now If I charge 400 dollars for it, all of a sudden they attribute value to my services and think I'm the most knowledgeable guy they ever met, which I have done on many occassions. So do stupid people really deserve to have money? My thought is NO.

Maybe I should get into Travel Planning and sell lavish vacations to chumps.

Amen brother .

 

[Married Buried]

What life is that ? Snooping on her for years to verify that she's clean.
Then there is still no guarantee . Better divorce her and find some one better

He is not going to do that. There is no way we are going to convince him to leave. He is a slave to this woman. Might as well give him the best advice we can since he is staying with this woman. Snooping is the best advice because when he catches her again, maybe he will finally leave.

 

[Epimanes]

What life is that ? Snooping on her for years to verify that she's clean.
Then there is still no guarantee . Better divorce her and find some one better

Why would you snoop for years? No one said that. You snoop til your satisfied and no longer worry.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

Now If I charge 400 dollars for it, all of a sudden they attribute value to my services and think I'm the most knowledgeable guy they ever met, which I have done on many occassions.

yes this is my experience also, and since then, i raised my company's prices, and instead of less clients, i have more. and they respect my company (also me) more.
people are fuked up i tell you. not that i am complaining or anything. just weird.

i mean when someone does something FREE or CHEAP for me, i value it, and like that person better. but the majority of the average people don't think like that. they want expensive advice, expensive medicine, expensive websites etc so they can complain (brag) about how expensive that was, and they think you are more professional after it.

sorry about the off topic

 

[mikey2012]

Why would you snoop for years? No one said that. You snoop til your satisfied and no longer worry.

And how long do you think will that be? A month?. She continually lied and cheated for a year!
He will be a prisoner as long as she is with him.
It's better to forget this and start again. Maybe if she had a one night stand you can still work things out. But she left him for fuks sake. Even when she is 80 you will still have doubts

 

[Epimanes]

Dude.. I have read over 1000 threads on the marriage builders infidelity forum where adultery was turned around and a happy marriage was re-established following the MB plan they have for recovery. Snooping is only part of the requirements. Many time both spouses make their own threads and post their pespectives as it happens. Not all of them turn out tho but a lot do.

Go lurk there and see for yourself how it plays out. If your interested. If not just take my word for it.

 

[mikey2012]

Dude.. I have read over 1000 threads on the marriage builders infidelity forum where adultery was turned around and a happy marriage was re-established following the MB plan they have for recovery. Snooping is only part of the requirements. Many time both spouses make their own threads and post their pespectives as it happens. Not all of them turn out tho but a lot do.

Go lurk there and see for yourself how it plays out. If your interested. If not just take my word for it.

Are you fvcking nuts? How can you even forgive someone who has serially cheated on you for a year? Impossible.

 

[Jackreacher20144]

I got back from vacation. Things are better now. She has shaken off the other guy. I think her posting our vacation pics on FB will deter other guys from trying to corrupt her. Im thinking of starting a family soon so we can get stability. At the moment I still don't have a job but she's ok with that. If she was that bad she would have left me since I have no job and no money. I think her love for me has come back and she sees me as her life partner. She said she was under a spell that the other guy had cast on her last year. She wanted that lavish life...Im going try damn hard to provide it to her.

 

[Scormus]

Where did you get the scratch to take her on vacation if you are jobless?

 

[Jackreacher20144]

Where did you get the scratch to take her on vacation if you are jobless?

The other guy sent my wife a check for the airfare when she went to be with him for a month. She didn't cash it, so the other guy also wired the money direct into her account because he probably thought she wouldn't cash it because she was coming back to me. I told her to cash his check as well, because I wanted to revenge. So he paid twice for her airfare and so we used that money to go on vacation.

 

[Jackreacher20144]

Troll

I know I'm in a tight spot at the moment but I am not a troll. Please i just need the strength to do the right thing.

 

[Married Buried]

The other guy sent my wife a check for the airfare when she went to be with him for a month. She didn't cash it, so the other guy also wired the money direct into her account because he probably thought she wouldn't cash it because she was coming back to me. I told her to cash his check as well, because I wanted to revenge. So he paid twice for her airfare and so we used that money to go on vacation.

Install this on the computer she uses immediately and then get back to us. I will not read any more of your posts until you do it. I didn't even read the post I quoted.

http://download.cnet.com/Free-Keylogger-Pro/3000-2162_4-75886072.html

 

[mikey2012]

No point. Everything is done via smartphones now anyway

 

[Married Buried]

No point. Everything is done via smartphones now anyway

Not true. IF they are married and he is not a TROLL, they must share a desktop computer. Women are stupid and don't think about these things. As long as JACK is out of the house, she will play on the computer.

 

[abe0]

I feel sooo sick...

First to the OP....be a man...get out. To those who think this can be salvaged because there are those who have saved their marriage after cheating.....I ask does any real man on this site really believe you can trust this guy's wife if you were to stick it out? I could not.....to me its a deal breaker and I do not want to be married to someone whom the rest of my life I have to always look over my shoulder.
OP...you have little invested in this relationship and no kids....do yourself a favor get out while you can. IMHO..Abe

 

[mikey2012]

Not true. IF they are married and he is not a TROLL, they must share a desktop computer. Women are stupid and don't think about these things. As long as JACK is out of the house, she will play on the computer.

I think she is a lot smarter than you give her credit for. It was the dude that was caught by his wife not HER. She hid the relationship well for a year

 

[Jackreacher20144]

First to the OP....be a man...get out. To those who think this can be salvaged because there are those who have saved their marriage after cheating.....I ask does any real man on this site really believe you can trust this guy's wife if you were to stick it out? I could not.....to me its a deal breaker and I do not want to be married to someone whom the rest of my life I have to always look over my shoulder.
OP...you have little invested in this relationship and no kids....do yourself a favor get out while you can. IMHO..Abe

Things are much better now . She posted our vacation pics on FB . She's determined to make the marriage work. She says she was driven by lust and only wanted attention. She apologized to my parents and they have forgiven her . She knows it will take back time to earn back her trust.