Cheating on my girfriend?

[coke]

Hello, guys

First time posting here, been lurking a bit so don't be harsh

Ok, so here is the deal. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years since I began college. I had a few girlfriends before her but she is the first and only girl I had sex with in my life.

Now, I really love her and we really get along great. There are a few fights now and then obviously but nothing serious.

So, to get to point. About a year ago I started to feel that I would like to have sex with another girl, not anyone in particular just another girl.

The sex with my GF is good and I really enjoy it but still she is the only girl I did it with so I really can't compare.

I know some of you might say that if you really love her than you wouldn't think about cheating her, but it really isn't true or at least I really don't feel this, I really care about her (oneitis, AFC, whatever) and I wouldn't want to lose her but I still can't get it out of my mind that I want to **** another girl. I want to see what it feels.

If I knew she wouldn't ever find out, I would **** another girl in a minute but I also think I would feel guilty afterwards.

God, this feeling is so ****ty I know I would be really ****ed up if I would find that she cheats on me and I feel bad for feeling like this but I really can't help it.

Anyone experienced this. Any advice? How do I deal with it?

Sorry for my english and thanks for reading this.

 

[Tictac]

Flip the script.

How would you feel if she stepped out?

Man up and be straight with her and yourself.

If you want some 'strange', okay. Tell her what you're up to unless you're okay with her doing the same.

 

[iamnobody]

Hello, guys

First time posting here, been lurking a bit so don't be harsh

Ok, so here is the deal. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years since I began college. I had a few girlfriends before her but she is the first and only girl I had sex with in my life.

Now, I really love her and we really get along great. There are a few fights now and then obviously but nothing serious.

So, to get to point. About a year ago I started to feel that I would like to have sex with another girl, not anyone in particular just another girl.

The sex with my GF is good and I really enjoy it but still she is the only girl I did it with so I really can't compare.

I know some of you might say that if you really love her than you wouldn't think about cheating her, but it really isn't true or at least I really don't feel this, I really care about her (oneitis, AFC, whatever) and I wouldn't want to lose her but I still can't get it out of my mind that I want to **** another girl. I want to see what it feels.

If I knew she wouldn't ever find out, I would **** another girl in a minute but I also think I would feel guilty afterwards.

God, this feeling is so ****ty I know I would be really ****ed up if I would find that she cheats on me and I feel bad for feeling like this but I really can't help it.

Anyone experienced this. Any advice? How do I deal with it?

Sorry for my english and thanks for reading this.

Men are not supposed to be monogamous, what you feel is absolutely natural.

If you think you'll feel guilty about it, then tell her you want a threesome with another girl. Just make sure you don't cvm inside the other chick. Trust me, if you do, your gf will never forgive you.

 

[Bacious]

Anyone experienced this. Any advice? How do I deal with it?

I know the exact feeling because a few months ago that was how I felt about my relationship. To give some background I'm 18 and at university, the (near two year long) relationship ended last month and she was pretty much my first everything.

Now I didn't ever act on, or attempt to act on those urges but I can totally relate. For me I didn't want to move on and experiment because I couldn't face the prospect of her moving on (did someone say chump?). When so many mutual firsts are tied up in this one person you are at high risk of ending up with oneitis and a co-dependency because you just don't want to consider the likelihood that someone else will eventually have your special girl!

Despite the desperate want to always have her, we're both at an age where we shouldn't even worry about being tied down to any one person and should be experiencing all that life has to offer. It's hard to relate to some of the stuff on this forum when people are talking about their strings of dates with different women but I find it oddly comforting to acknowledge they had firsts too.

In my case, what was once a healthy relationship turned into unhealthy mutual desperation and then eventually she thought she had a safe new guy to latch on to. I'm not suggesting the same will happen to you but it seems to be a common outcome of long term relationships between young adults.

I can't offer much in the way of advice, I'm as inexperienced as you are. Good universally applicable advice is to always keep options open by meeting lots of people!

 

[Stort_Brød]

When so many mutual firsts are tied up in this one person you are at high risk of ending up with oneitis and a co-dependency because you just don't want to consider the likelihood that someone else will eventually have your special girl!

pretty wise words.

I have been in that situation with my ex, she was the first LTR I had. yeah of course I wanted to impale other broads towards the end as at the start she was new and interesting and fun to have sex with but the same old pvssy gets boring no matter who is attached to it. She was Bi and we had a 3way so I did get to pork one of her hot friends but that still wasn't enough. Now I don't condone cheating and it still has played on my mind ever since but I got a few BJ's from one of our friends and I didn't fvck her because she was on her rags that week. The only reason I let it happen was because I knew the relationship was heading towards the end and I was right 1 month later BAM all over

The only thing that bothers me now it is all over is that some other guy is laying his mushroom tip inside her. I know there isn't another chance for us nor do I want there to be one... but it still bothers me and I don't know why lol.

now OP these feelings are natural... marriage is only something created by the church, sleeping around is natural instinct as it is spreading your seed to as many different mates as possible to have offspring to ensure the survival and growth of the human race " but in modern day case to bust a nut in as many sloots as possible" So don't feel bad about having these thoughts, BUT do consider your options before you act upon them if you decide to. A lot of guys misunderstand the whole AFC, oneitis and all that, there is nothing wrong with having a LTR not everyone has to be spinning plates and have a different broad for each day of the week. there are even a few married men on this here forum.

If you really love her you wouldn't think about cheating on her? hahah what a load of B.S every man has is fantasies of being with other women just as every woman has her fantasies of being with other men and don't even get me started on the fetish fantasies lol. Now what makes the difference of if you truly love her or not is if you act upon those urges or fantasies, it is all about will power because if you do cheat on her then
1) can you live with the guilt even if she never finds out?
2) can you live with the consequences if she does find out? (don't feed yourself that B.S that she will never find out... there is always a chance)
3) could you handle it if she cheated on you?
4) do you really see yourself with her for a long time?

anyways this is all just stories and advice, you can do whatever the FVCK YOU WANNA DO!