Character armor and testing from people in general

[JustCan'tSucceed]

Ive come to know that we can know a lot about a person's character by listening to what they say and and how they reveal information . We can do that as well by observing their actions and etc.

So is there a way to hide our character because I dont want people to know about my strengths and weaknesses.?

Like today, one of my friends deliberately pissed me off by being nice to me when I was with lunch with him. The next moment when we were at the mall, he yelled and scolded me when I cracked a joke with him. I felt so humiliated as everyone was looking at me. The same goes to women as well. Women do that to me once in a while.

What is this all about? The unpredictability of their actions is making me feel like an idiot. And I can see them grinning later when they see me feeling hurt. Is it because they understood me well about my character or what?

Pls advice

 

[Santos]

Sometimes it feels like friends/other people are attacking you because of your character. This isn't really the case.

Me and my friends were at this church gathering about a month ago. Just a bunch of bands playing christian music. So the guy on stage asks who wants to go up and sing.

Shy Santos, who is having a bad day as it is suddenly hears his friend yelling "Santos! Santos!" and then two of my buddies were trying to drag me up on stage, I played dead-man and didn't move. I sat on the floor and did not move. This went on for about 1 minute but it felt like an eternity. Very embarassing. And I was VERY pissed off because I felt like they were picking on me cos' I'm a little shy.

But then again, who wouldn't be shy about going up on stage? Looking back on it it was actually quite funny, and they didn't do it because I was Santos. My friends are just like that and we're always busting each others balls. I just laugh it off now, I remember it as if I was someone watching it from the outside and realise that it was funny.

Don't let it get to you. Especially if you're shy, negative experiences make you more shy. Unless you laugh them off and forget about them.

Santos

 

[Jay26]

It's hard to have any sympathy for you, you got a stupid user name, people tell you to change it and you don't, I think u probably enjoy failing at everything, actually I know you do.

And quit getting so annoyed by everyone, it's a sign of a big ego! I think the unpredicatability of your friends actions to you is brilliant! It's just what's needed to kick a self-indulgent, whiney guy like you to your senses.

So is there a way to hide our character because I dont want people to know about my strengths and weaknesses.?

Dude, everything you say sounds weak, getting pissed off by other people is weak, your username is weak, start changing something and quit *****ing, all your posts u r *****ing bout something like these tapes sux, or all these people are mean or whatever! It's such a loser attitude and you need a slap in the face to snap out of it.

Sorry, it's tough love on these boards

 

[Santos]

Yeah, change your user name. To anything as long as it's positive, or neutral. But NOT negative.

 

[JustCan'tSucceed]

I am registering a new username and can't you pls understand

I'll be back with a new nick.

But before that, my friend irritated me deliberately at times. They were being unpredictable and etc......... think of it santos, why did they want to do that at the first place.

Like in my situation, he is doing it just to piss me off. DARN some of them. And please dont ask me not to hang around them cause I wanna figure out why did they do it in the first place.

Are they testing me ? Or did they understand me too well that they know what to do to make me feel annoyed, happy and etc?

And Jay29, why were you being so resentful towards me since my username is particularly none of your f**king business. ? You got some issues?

 

[Santos]

Re: I am registering a new username and can't you pls understand

Originally posted by JustCan'tSucceed
I'll be back with a new nick.

But before that, my friend irritated me deliberately at times. They were being unpredictable and etc......... think of it santos, why did they want to do that at the first place.

Like in my situation, he is doing it just to piss me off. DARN some of them. And please dont ask me not to hang around them cause I wanna figure out why did they do it in the first place.

Are they testing me ? Or did they understand me too well that they know what to do to make me feel annoyed, happy and etc?

And Jay29, why were you being so resentful towards me since my username is particularly none of your f**king business. ? You got some issues?

You're asking me questions that I can't answer. Either you THINK they are delibrately trying to irritate you or they actually ARE. How old are you? I know that younger guys (even at 21) bust each others balls. We used to do it to the new guys in the group. Call it initiation, I went through it, throught it was because they didn't like me. But they were just beihaving the way young guys do.

 

[Jay26]

And Jay29, why were you being so resentful towards me since my username is particularly none of your f**king business. ? You got some issues?

I'm not resentful, I'm telling you to quit acting like a frikkin loser!!! How do you expect people on this forum to respect you if you can't even respect yourself with a stupid name like that.

 

[OpenMind]

Jay26 is not being a d*ck, he is right. You can't expect anyone to respect you and give you advice when you don't even respect yourself. If you really want to change then listen to what is being said here. BTW: I was in your shoes about ten years ago. Today my friends still mess with me but I mess with them just as much if not more and I DON'T let it bother me and that is the difference. You need to grow a set and stop sweating the small sh*t.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by JustCan'tSucceed
Ive come to know that we can know a lot about a person's character by listening to what they say and and how they reveal information . We can do that as well by observing their actions and etc.

So is there a way to hide our character because I dont want people to know about my strengths and weaknesses.?

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What is this all about? The unpredictability of their actions is making me feel like an idiot. And I can see them grinning later when they see me feeling hurt. Is it because they understood me well about my character or what?

Pls advice

Consider focusing on your strongest qualities. More times than not the things that you focus on are the most noticable. In your situation, if you focus on hiding certain things about your personality, those will be more noticable. Focus on your strengths and those are the ones that will seen most.

Try adjusting your character where you're still ****y but not having to put someone down to build yourself up. If you're confident in who you are, people can say whatever and you wouldn't be phased at all. It can get to the point that your friends will be able to tell that who ever is sniping at you is just covering up their own insecurity.

Let's face it, how often have you seen DJs like Sean Connery or Piece Brosnan show any insecurity by knocking other people down. They don't have too.