Many times the PROBLEM is NOT the 'problem".
Each issue you have is connected to a deeper rooted issue.
If you don't look into yourself and try to find out what it is connected, perhaps an insecurity is due to a childhood event thattraumatized you, you will not have as much success as you would like. You must go in deep and dig out the 'weeds" ofthose thoughts.
Changing a WAYof thinking to a more beneficial, and more positive way of thinking is called REFRAMING.
ReFrame your thoughts.
"I hate rejection. Women must hate me. I always say and act stupid, I just can't seem to do anything right. And I never know what to say or do."
REFRAME.
"It does affect my EGO when I get rejected. Because my self image is so hooked on succeeding. I hate to fail. And what happens is that this rejection only makes me feel like I'm a loser. But of course I know I'm not. I just don't have the best skills to do this right. OR at least, to gain attraction and eventually, her interest. And anyway, how could she be 'rejecting' ME since she doesn't even KNOW me? It's silly. I know I'm a good person. I know I'm a Man. Sure, I've got some faults, I"m not perfect. And I know my 'approach" isn't that great. But I did seem to notice I acted fidgety. Maybe I shoudln't be too twitchy or fidgety. I also noticed that I zoned out sometimes.
I shoull be a little more Present and connected to the woman, I know I was distracted easily. SO it's hard to connect like the way I want to when I am like that. I also wasn't too confident, so I spoke with a low, meek voice. I wasn't projecting, and didn't have a constant and dynamic tone of voice. I came across a little weak, not too confident or masculine. No wonder she just wasn't into me. I need to pay a little moe attention to myself, and start doing things right from now on.
So in the end, this 'rejection'; which only exists in MY Mind, is just a chance to CHANGE for the Better. So it isnt that BAD for me afger all. How canm I get better if I don;t investigate and look deep into myself? This is an opportunity!! I welcome rejection!!
I want to get so good, and so confident that I can actually be more playful and tease womne! And actually build rapport and break it, just for fun! I'll create more attraction for the womn I'm really attracted to, and she'll defnitely getthe message that I'[m not needy or desperate, and I don';t hang on my Self Image or Validaton on HER. I don't NEED anything from her! I'm not ther to TAKE from her! This isn't so bad after all!"
It is an approach that lets you see the circumstance and challenge in a POSITIVE Light, so you can BENEFIT from it.