Changed 12 girls this year, all crazy.

ScottMustaine

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Let me put it this way. When I got to this site, I never had a girlfriend. I learned and applied, so far I've been with 12 girls.

And all have been crazy, showing BPD signs and cheaters.



My last girlfriend I am now with. She shown epic amount of personallity. You know, nice girl, proper culture, everything nice. Then she started opening and I learn about her.

Her father abandoned her, hates her father.
Her ex boyfriends were all 5-7 years older than her ( she's 16.)
She's bisexual
She has mood swings
Her IL goes from sky high, to ocean deep.
Her ex boyfriends would pump and dump her, one was so opsessed about her cheating that he was waiting for her to go out to school so he would slap her.



First time I met her, we made out for 3 dates, her IL was HIGH and bang she disappeared. Explaining later how she thought I'd use her.

So 3 months later I contact her out of boredom ( really i was bored) and started chatting with her.

She started opening how she is suicidal and depressive and I try to explain her I had simmilar things. (Fear of doing something you don't want to )

She thanks me for that and calls me out next day.


We go out, she hugs me, goes all over kissing on the cheek , buying me drinks. We make out, she asks for relationship. 2 weeks everything is nice, every night she sends me <3 before sleep. I respond from time to time.


week 4 her IL goes down, no more texts, I get sick, doesnt give a phuck about me, last time she had high IL was 1 month anniversery ( first time i bought something for someone, chocolate for being nice to me, she asked me the reason and i told her).



Now I'm getting cold showering horay.


I'm getting sick of all girls I meet cheating, *****ing out.


"bad history" you say?

My father tried to kill me with a knife, I was raised as a lonewolf, there was no single person to help me cope with the trauma, suicidal thoughts, agressions, fears. All by myself and playing guitar to calm myself. Psychologist asked me how come I didn't end up like other cases who would come with a gun and kill people. I wouldn't see mom that much ,grandma was/is cold and whiney al lthe time.

Had no friends, was bullied all the time in school by 'mini gangs'


Yet I'm not going ape**** playing mindgames, cheating and leading on people for the sake of manipulation. What the **** is with women these days?

I seek affection from woman and security she's into me, and her showing emotions. Not a robot. I get turned off by coldness.


Yet she and all my ex's would get their vaginas turned ON by sadistic idiots who would cheat,use them, insult them, and even physically abuse them !


Maybe I'm whining now, but I don't understand what's with all these girls enjoying pain ?
 

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You're 18. You innately have strong character. Many people have to develop character over longer periods of time and this is especially true in your teens, and even more so with females.

Be annoyed but you are in a good spot because character is something lacking in many people and as an adult people will respect you for yours.
 

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Talked today with her. Amazing convo. She said this

"Sorry for being cold few days, I was neurotic and then I don't talk to people because everyone makes me nervous and I don't want to hurt people who I care for because of my actions. <3 "

My reply " It's alright, should've told me before, not everyone knows you that well you know. :) <3 "

Then convo continued about some jokes about

and it ended

"Omg we are so crazy with these crazy jokes.
CrazyBastardCouple"

And that was about it...
 

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double post -.-
 
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"Sorry for being cold few days, I was neurotic and then I don't talk to people because everyone makes me nervous and I don't want to hurt people who I care for because of my actions."

Is this what you want in a relationship? And there is likely more that you don't know yet...
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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DonJuanabe said:
"Sorry for being cold few days, I was neurotic and then I don't talk to people because everyone makes me nervous and I don't want to hurt people who I care for because of my actions."

Is this what you want in a relationship? And there is likely more that you don't know yet...
I'm not emotionally invested. Actually I'm challenging myself to keep a relationship. I don't quite like her, I started lightly flirting with other girls because I don't walk with my girlfriend that much and even if she found out I do talk with other girls she can't **** on me because I don't leave traces of 'cheating'. Just building minor rapport.


Last time I posted about my cheating girlfriend, sosuave members started telling me I'm for mental hospital, crazy paranoid dude, because I confronted her about talking about her ex all the time and he licked her ***** and her likes on his pictures. Also I confronted her about her being around another ex boyfriend who is giving her 'classes' of language. (Dude was hired by her mom as a tutor, then became a bf).


SO after all that ****, overloading of paranoya, I don't give a ****. Maybe she is doing something behind my back. I don't care, my main focus is to practise keeping a relationship somehow, getting finally laid ( she's near my house, and she's pretty hot) and kicking her out when signs get obvious.
 

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practice keeping a relationship with a girl you dont even like?

sorry if ive misintrerpreted that, but it doesnt sound healthy dude.
I get that you wanna fvck her, which is fine, but trying to keep a relationship where you dont really want one?
It wont work purely because you dont really want it. perhaps the idea of a relationship is what you want, and you see this as practice?

Even without the red flags youve put up there, i dont think this girl would be good for you...

just my 2 cents
 

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Theres two sides to having issues:

1. Acting as you described.

2. Seeking after those who act as you describe.

Youre in bracket #2. Whether you realize it or not, youre seeking after girls with issues. Probably because you can relate to their dysfunctional lives, and chaos is normal to you. Its not just being a bad person thats bad, but seeking those who are seeking them. They provide the same drama, and have issues themselves. Those issues get dumped onto your relationship with them. So, you end up with chaos and dysfunction - even though you arent providing it. Youre still getting it - from them.

Generally theres an underlying issue at work when you repeatedly go after troubled people. And you listed plenty - in your childhood relationships. That **** repeats itself in future ones (ie, now). Same reason girls chase after jerks and bad boys. Healthy relationships and quality people arent normal to them, so they dont seek after them. Youre caught up in the same vicious cycle - with them.
 

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The only piece of advice I will give you is this - focus on your own issues. Women will come and go, always, but you and only you can define yourself.

Not only are you at a very volatile age, but you are now involved with an equally volatile girl, which is a recipe for disaster. Try to stay as detached as possible. Have fun with her if you choose, but it sounds like YOU have a past you need to find coping mechanisms for. If you don't, you will spend your 20s wasting your life away rather than gearing up for your 30s and thinking long term.
 
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