CHALLENGE: Increasing my SMV.

[Suspens]

Right now I'm in a bad situation. Here's a list highlighting things which need to change and where I stand right now:

• 1. Housing. I live in a small flat, shared with my mother, sister and younger brother. That's a major logistic issue.
• 2. Zero income. I have a small amount of money in my bank account, with an annual interest rate of 20%. That's my only source of "income". Every member of my family received an equal amount of insurance money when my father died in a construction accident, and I decided to open a bank account solely for the annual interest.
• 3. Car.This is how our car looks like right now, an old Peugeot 206 which belongs to my mom. She allows me to use it whenever I need it. However it is in a bad state right now and I can't seriously arrange a date without having a car. I don't' have a license either.

  http://www.carspicturesdb.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Peugeot-206-crash-cars-and-cool-stuff-japanese-performance-cars.jpg

• 4. Skills. Basic knowledge of web design and that's it. No practical experience though.
• 5. Looks and body. Aside from my height (170CM), i don't have any other issue in this area. Fit body, and good looking. I can still improve my self and workout a bit.
• 6. Education. I left college since it was too far from our home. And my education ended right there, unfinished with no diploma.
• 7. Social life. I have no friends. No one. Not sure where to start really. "Hey there random stranger, can you be my friend?" Seems like a good start?

On a scale of 1 to 100, what is my estimated SMV in your opinion ? Which issues should be prioritized and worked on? I'm starting to work on 2 and 4 and eventually 1. Will update this thread after fixing one of the problems at least.

Thanks for your input guys.

 

[Mike32ct]

Step One: Move to the US where you can get a great 0.01 percent interest rate on your savings lol.

All joking aside, what does your hair look like? You can't change your height. The job and money situation takes time to improve. Assuming you have no hair loss issues, I would try to optimize the hairstyle first.

Also start working out. I don't care if you are just doing push-ups at home, but get started improving your body too.

 

[Suspens]

I shaved my head a few months ago since it was starting to fall out. It looked like this lol:

http://amazingasset.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/leonardo-dicaprio-jack-dawson.jpg

And this is my new haircut(tysen):

http://www.tattoos-by-design.co.uk/Celebrities/images/tyson4.jpg

Not sure which one looks better. Any kind of hair loss will fvck my face up , which is probably my only attractive feature.

My main concern is financial independence though.

 

[Suspens]

Slight update: Mom is talking sh!t behind my back. Mainly spreading bs about me being unemployed(which is true), and still not married at this age etc... Way to boost my social status lol.

 

[Infern0]

If you are wanting to get better with women the first thing you need to do is get into a better state of mind.

I am car-less at the moment as I'm having a turbo fitted but I don't see it as a problem I use taxis

You are presupposing negatives. Don't.

Anyway get a job first and foremost, financial freedom is going to be huge for you

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Move out, get a job, finish college part time.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Slight update: Mom is talking sh!t behind my back. Mainly spreading bs about me being unemployed(which is true), and still not married at this age etc... Way to boost my social status lol.

Moms will throw salt in your game to the females. I know mine would, not all the times, but she has when I had strong pull and control on females thru my c0ck. I think it was the feminist in her. Occasionally she loves her son and I'm allowed such advantages.

But you can't count on anyone to hold up your self respect but you. The least they know the better.

 

[zekko]

How the heck are you getting 20% interest on a bank account? Tell me where you live so I can move there.

As for your SMV, maybe it's not the highest, but the good news is there is plenty of room for improvement.

 

[JohnChops]

How the heck are you getting 20% interest on a bank account? Tell me where you live so I can move there.

As for your SMV, maybe it's not the highest, but the good news is there is plenty of room for improvement.

That's what I'm saying! With my bs 1% in my CDS I moved most of my money to stocks which pay good dividends. ****ing banks.

 

[Suspens]

Anyway get a job first and foremost, financial freedom is going to be huge for you

No expertise in any field.

Move out, get a job, finish college part time. The least they know the better.

Our relatives keep asking questions about my personal life(Is he stil unemployed? Is he still alone? Noe wife? etc) and she keeps answering them as if she has an obligation to reveal every personal details about me. I don't know how to make her realize that how I am living and what I'm doing is a personal thing.

As for your SMV, maybe it's not the highest, but the good news is there is plenty of room for improvement.

SMV aside, I need to improve my living condition, which is a nightmare at the moment.


We have fixed the car and will get my license in the next 2 months. The main and important issues still remain unresolved.

 

[ZTIME]

Right now I'm in a bad situation. Here's a list highlighting things which need to change and where I stand right now:

• 1. Housing. I live in a small flat, shared with my mother, sister and younger brother. That's a major logistic issue. Moving out should be priority #3. You have no income, so where will you go? This is a small situation right now. Goal time to move out : 6 months.
  
• 2. Zero income. I have a small amount of money in my bank account, with an annual interest rate of 20%. That's my only source of "income". Every member of my family received an equal amount of insurance money when my father died in a construction accident, and I decided to open a bank account solely for the annual interest. This is priority #1! Wait tables, Clean cars, Sell cars, flip burgers, who cares? No job + no income, and no social life! Goal time for job+ 2 weeks. Obviously web design isn't cutting it!
  
• 3. Car.This is how our car looks like right now, an old Peugeot 206 which belongs to my mom. She allows me to use it whenever I need it. However it is in a bad state right now and I can't seriously arrange a date without having a car. I don't' have a license either. Don't know why you don't have a license, but bicycles are everywhere! get one of those and ride it for a few months. You'll get shredded and attract chicks.

  http://www.carspicturesdb.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Peugeot-206-crash-cars-and-cool-stuff-japanese-performance-cars.jpg

• 4. Skills. Basic knowledge of web design and that's it. No practical experience though. Read books, take night time or day time on line college courses. Make your self a better person with a bright career out look. Doing nothing get's you nowhere quickly!
  
• 5. Looks and body. Aside from my height (170CM), i don't have any other issue in this area. Fit body, and good looking. I can still improve my self and workout a bit. Bicycle and workout always! You can always be better!
  
• 6. Education. I left college since it was too far from our home. And my education ended right there, unfinished with no diploma. Online courses. There is no excuse for not furthering your education!
  
• 7. Social life. I have no friends. No one. Not sure where to start really. "Hey there random stranger, can you be my friend?" Seems like a good start? Sitting in a flat with your mother and sister with no job, no car, and no future won't fix you social situation. You currently are choosing to do nothing. There for, nothing is happening.
  

On a scale of 1 to 100, what is my estimated SMV in your opinion ? Which issues should be prioritized and worked on? I'm starting to work on 2 and 4 and eventually 1. Will update this thread after fixing one of the problems at least.

Thanks for your input guys.

No forum will fix this situation for you. Although the advice is sound, what you do with it is all that matters. Good Luck Brother!

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” - Buddha.

 

[PipeDope]

Also interested in this 20%. I could retire at the age of 40 if I had that

 

[Suspens]

No forum will fix this situation for you. Although the advice is sound, what you do with it is all that matters. Good Luck Brother!

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” - Buddha.

Have to do something real quick. Even my brother who used to be my closest friend is losing respect for me.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Have to do something real quick. Even my brother who used to be my closest friend is losing respect for me.

Hey BRO. Check your PM. You can't worry about people losing or gaining respect. Have some integrity within yourself, people will do what they are going to do.

I do know while I'm gaining negative attention, I'd have these people out of my ear and I'd be out of their eyesight.

If you HAVE to stay at moms make it for a good reason such as you are seriously stacking some bread, you have to have nice wheels and nice clothes on your back for that to make sense.

But then again don't do everything for appearances either... But as you see the wrong appearances can cost you a lot of energy and waste a lot of time.

All of the 7 bullet points you listed need to be increased and improved, and you will feel much better about your life. In the end the people who you are worried about invalidating you will not matter.

 

[Lozboss]

OP.

Focus in this order:

Job- Doesn't matter if you start in a coffee shop - a job means money in which leads to other things

Home- Your family sound Toxic, mine are supportive and yours are clearly not- sorry. Forget them and their views of you and move into a place or share a place (go on spareroom etc). Room mates will help you meet new people and expand your friend group

Clothes -Update your wardrobe once you're financially stable

Meanwhile:

Get down the local park and release some stress- Sprints/ Press Ups/ Pull Ups/ Sit ups. HIIT training is free and only takes 30-45 minutes per session.

Most important is that you get a job and get some financial freedom.

PM if you need a hand finding a job- I've always got good ideas.

 

[Suspens]

Job- Doesn't matter if you start in a coffee shop - a job means money in which leads to other things

Will apply for a job in the upcoming week. Gotta stomp the ego and work like a dog.

Home- Your family sound Toxic, mine are supportive and yours are clearly not- sorry. Forget them and their views of you and move into a place or share a place (go on spareroom etc). Room mates will help you meet new people and expand your friend group

I'm not blameless either. As a full grown man I should be able to relax in my own home. Living with 3 other people in a small flat is kinda sheepish, So It will be priority #2.


Thanks for the advices folks, very motivational.