Challenge and Mystery not working for me

[xblitz44x]

This should go to show you - challenge and mystery have nothing to do with attraction. I've said it many times before and I'll keep saying it. Eventually, after enough of these posts SOMEBODY is going to have to wake up out of dream land and "get it".

Who knows why she's not being physical with you? Who knows what's going on in her mind? You'll never figure that out. All that you can do is make your interest known to her, without being a pvssy about it. You can let her know that you like her, be outgoing about it, joke around about it. If she knows your interest, she won't feel so worried that you'll reject her if she was to show you hers. If that's the case at all. Just be real, man. It's not difficult and you're over-complicating things. By being "Mysterious" you're not showing yourself to her FOR her to like.

-Blitz

 

[spanky]

Man, Blitz, you sure do have a radical approach to this whole dating thing. I can at least say it is ideal.

My thought is that don't think that every approach you read about will work on every woman or would be the approach for you. Guys read stuff in the Bible and go apply it text book style and when it doesn't work, they say "what happened?
I was C&F and a mystery." If you were all that and a bad dresser for an example or
a dull date in her eyes, then you have it.
All of this stuff is not some special witches brew that works like magic. They are guidelines. I wishmore fellas would keep that in mind.

 

[MickeyOneil]

Jwchin,

I’ve been a lurker on this board for quite some time, but your post made me get off my @ss and register so I could respond. Here goes, hope this helps…….

She doesn’t know you well enough to commit to you…..and she shouldn’t have to commit to you. Why are you making her feel like she must commit? This should never become an issue after 3 dates. NEVER. The only thing she should have to commit to is spending time with you when you feel like it, and after 20 more dates with her, if she’s cool enough, you’ll keep her around. Do you see the subtle attitude difference? You have to project the vibe that you are interviewing her for the job, not the other way around.
I know, I know……she’s your #1 pick. That’s the entirely wrong attitude. We men always rank girls we’re dating 1 to 3, 1 to 4, whatever the case may be. I think it’s cause we like sports so much. Here’s a little secret from the sporting world…….if the #1 pick THINKS she’s the #4 pick, she’ll go out of her way to prove herself worthy to be the #1 pick, and you get more for your money. If the #1 pick KNOWS she’s the #1 pick, there’s no incentive for her to do anything for you except ruin the ball club and take it’s money. In other words, you’ll get stuck with Ryan Leaf instead of Peyton Manning. (that was for my American Football fans in here!)
I hope that little sporting illustration works for you. I work in the sporting industry so I love comparing things like that. Probably didn’t make any sense, so I’ll say it like this…..if you really want this girl (your # 1 pick) to be in your life for any amount of time, start making her feel like she’s # 3 or #4. You’ll notice a profound difference in her behavior.

“Oh my god, just last week he was trying to hold my hand, and now he’s dating HER?? Maybe I shouldn’t have pulled my hand away? Did he think the Winnie the Pooh store was lame?? Why does he like her and not me? Was it something I said? Why hasn’t he called me back yet, we were supposed to go out this week?? I'm going to call him until I figure this out!”


And I’m out……

 

[Da-OnlyX]

Tight post man....Pure example of Common sense

 

[Jake Steed]

jwchin,

Don't worry about your looks or style. Sounds like you are fine in that department. I really think you're doing fine overall--we all run into girls like this. Right now she just doesn't see enough value in you to override her social conditioning and fvck you. That can change. You need to show her you are a guy who has his own thing going for him (his own life), that you are attractive to other women, and that you are not apologetic about going after what you want.

I agree with Blitz that you need to relax and don't worry too much about this mystery, challenge, and C&F bullshyt. Yeah, that stuff can help, but we're not talking about a fvcking computer program you plug program C&F into to get results (A). Women are living creatures who are driven by emotion and insecurity. Keep it in mind that just because you are a "mystery" or "challenging", doesn't mean this girl is going to drop her panties for you.

"I'm actually surprised that I got to a 3rd date with her. " --jwchin

I think your attitude is your biggest game killer. Being surprised that you got a 3rd date means that you are not truly confident in yourself. With time this will change. Right now you just need to focus on having fun with the girls you are dating (including this one). As long as you are having FUN with her and going for what you want, it will pan out the way it's supposed to in the end.

One last thing I have to say about this "nexting experiment" shyt is if you "next" her, she will not come running to you unless:

1. She is manic depressive with low self esteem. Only the most idiotic girl would chase after a guy she doesn't even know or care about just because he dissappears off the radar. Guess what? Somewhere 1000miles away a dog was hit by a car. Do you give a shyt? Of course not.

2. You have attracted her and turned her on sufficiently and she was just PLAYING cold/hard to get. If that's the case, she's a player, and a bad one.

Remember, in order for a take away to work, you have to have her hooked on you ALREADY. Otherwise you are just kidding yourselves. If you guys think NEXTING is a way to get a girl to magically come back to you, you are kidding yourself.

Jake