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[Cajun20]

Hey,

I have an issue. My of 2 and half years saw some text messages from me to this chic(I know I was slipping). Apparently she figured out my pin on my phone. This very attractive woman I was texting wanted stay in contact with me so I gave her my number. This is the reason why I gave her my number throughout our time together we had some serious arguments. Mainly because she has a short temper and her insecurities. I just got tired of it. Anyway my gf contacted the woman and of course the woman got upset with me. She never asked me if I had had a gf. I told her whatever my gf told that there is more to the story. She ended up forwarding the text to my gf. Basically now she doesn't want me to text her anymore. I'm really feeling girl. I want to continue trying to get to know her. I want to explain to her face to face instead of texting. What do you all think I should do? Thanks!

 

[Cajun20]

Revised version

Hey,

I have an issue. My gf of 2 and half years saw some text messages from me to this chic(I know I was slipping). Apparently she figured out my pin on my phone. This very attractive woman I was texting wanted stay in contact with me so I gave her my number. The reason why I gave her my number. My gf and I throughout our time together had some serious arguments. Mainly because she has a short temper and in insecure. I just got tired of it. Anyway my gf contacted the woman I was talking to and of course the woman got upset with me. She was wondering why I never told her I had gf. Well she never asked me if I had had a gf. I told her whatever my gf told her that there is more to the story. She ended up forwarding the text to my gf. Basically now she doesn't want me to text her anymore. I'm really feeling this woman. I want to continue trying to get to know her. I want to explain to her face to face instead of texting. What do you all think I should do? Thanks!

Revised version. The previous post was jacked up. I was using my smartphone when I typed this.

 

[logicallefty]

Welcome to our forums Sir. This is a tough pickle to be in. First off, glad you haven't cheated on the GF, kudos there. ( I'm assuming you haven't and have only been talking to the other chick )

I would lay off the other chick for a few weeks and sit down and think about the pros and cons of the GF vs the other chick. Have things been going well with the GF? Does she respect you? Do you enjoy her? What kind of history/baggage does each one have? What are your goals (LTR, plate, etc.). Which one is more your type as far as looks and personality goes? What red flags have stood out with each one that your gut has nudged you about?

There are really just two things you don't want to do, cheat on the GF or dump the GF for grass that is less green. I have dumped many women for another one but I always go through a very long and careful thought and analysis process before I do. You can really make a huge mistake if you jump right into it without some thought.

If you do decide to go after the other chick, a few weeks time of no contact and then try to talk to her and that will probably get her back to talking to you again.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Even if they say texting is the new way, I think it will set you apart not to text at all or not text as much.

Texting should only be used for relaying information easily typed and quick status messages.

You lose influence when you over text.

 

[Cajun20]

Welcome to our forums Sir. This is a tough pickle to be in. First off, glad you haven't cheated on the GF, kudos there. ( I'm assuming you haven't and have only been talking to the other chick )

I would lay off the other chick for a few weeks and sit down and think about the pros and cons of the GF vs the other chick. Have things been going well with the GF? Does she respect you? Do you enjoy her? What kind of history/baggage does each one have? What are your goals (LTR, plate, etc.). Which one is more your type as far as looks and personality goes? What red flags have stood out with each one that your gut has nudged you about?

There are really just two things you don't want to do, cheat on the GF or dump the GF for grass that is less green. I have dumped many women for another one but I always go through a very long and careful thought and analysis process before I do. You can really make a huge mistake if you jump right into it without some thought.

If you do decide to go after the other chick, a few weeks time of no contact and then try to talk to her and that will probably get her back to talking to you again.

Well she does respect me but she doesn't respect my privacy. She's always checking to see who I'm texting and going through my tablet checking my emails. She has good qualities. She's a very caring person. She cooks, cleans, give me sex whenever I want it. However, her bad attitude and insecurities outshines that sometimes. We have been talking as of lately but she is giving me an ultimatum...she want's to have access to my phone and tablet (nothing said about my computer yet) or she may not want to continue the relationship. This has been the problem with her since the beginning of our relationship her insecurities. Plus she has a short temper.

Now both of them are beautiful. The other woman's body is banging (a little bit better than my gf's body). The other woman seemed like she has a good personality so far. She wanted to travel places with me. She asked me if I liked dogs since she has two. She seems like a very nice woman. She could be complete opposite. But like you said you never know. I'm kind of leaning towards the other woman because I'm tired of all the drama. She told me don't text her anymore. She claimed I lied about my status which I didn't. She asked me if I was married I told her divorced but she never asked if I had a gf. I think she got that confused. I was thinking about talking to her face to face but she works a swing shift at her job. I really want to explain the situation since she only heard one side. I just need to figure out how to contact her. I know you said back off for a couple of weeks do you have any other suggestions?
Thanks for responding sir.

 

[Cajun20]

Even if they say texting is the new way, I think it will set you apart not to text at all or not text as much.

Texting should only be used for relaying information easily typed and quick status messages.

You lose influence when you over text.

I agree. I just have to figure out a way to contact the other woman since she is working on a different schedule.

 

[piranha45]

Do you want to be the beta chump who's wifey has to check his computer to make sure he's been a good boy? That sounds ridiculous to me.

If you let her get away with one ultimatum, she will inevitably issue out more. And that's not acceptable.

 

[amoka]

She's always checking to see who I'm texting and going through my tablet checking my emails.... We have been talking as of lately but she is giving me an ultimatum...she want's to have access to my phone and tablet (nothing said about my computer yet) or she may not want to continue the relationship.

Don't EVER allow her access to your device. She already sneaked in and access your phone without your knowledge. All she wants now is to justify her behavior to her friends saying "he gave me access to his phone and I found...." If a woman accesses my phone without my knowledge, she better not tell me what she finds on the phone because she'll have a serious issue with me.

And the "ultimatum"? Really? Just tell her you don't do ultimatum. If she does not trust you now, she won't trust you even after combing through your devices... In fact, she'll find multiple reasons in your messages why she should not trust you... even the late night emails you sent your boss several years before meeting her.

Only low stock value women display insecurity in relationships. She knows your stocks are higher than hers so she won't leave you if you REFUSE to allow her access to your devices. Besides, you have lost interest in her anyway. Refusing her access to your devices is the only thing you can do to retain your balls right now. If you want to keep your balls, don't allow this woman to have access to your devices.

 

[Cajun20]

Don't EVER allow her access to your device. She already sneaked in and access your phone without your knowledge. All she wants now is to justify her behavior to her friends saying "he gave me access to his phone and I found...." If a woman accesses my phone without my knowledge, she better not tell me what she finds on the phone because she'll have a serious issue with me.

And the "ultimatum"? Really? Just tell her you don't do ultimatum. If she does not trust you now, she won't trust you even after combing through your devices... In fact, she'll find multiple reasons in your messages why she should not trust you... even the late night emails you sent your boss several years before meeting her.

Only low stock value women display insecurity in relationships. She knows your stocks are higher than hers so she won't leave you if you REFUSE to allow her access to your devices. Besides, you have lost interest in her anyway. Refusing her access to your devices is the only thing you can do to retain your balls right now. If you want to keep your balls, don't allow this woman to have access to your devices.

Thanks for responding. This relationship is exhausting. That's why I will most likely move on. What do you suggest I should do with the other woman? I was really trying to get to know her.