Casually dating a BPD

[Brandonc662]

I've searched the forums and cannot find the post on how to properly date a BPD. Does anyone have the link, I know there are some people on here that have mastered this. Before you start with all the "don't" and "run" comments, I know not to become emotionally involved, I just want to keep this plate as a casual fling.

 

[Zodiac]

There is no proper way. Its like playing Russian Roulette: eventually its gonna come back to bite you and might kill you.

You might want one thing but in her mind all these signs you give her show interest and feed her ego to the point that she thinks you are more serious than you intend it to be.

Its literally impossible to be casual with them. You can try but you'll just get sucked into her drama or she'll spin you as a bad guy to a mangina on her speed dial to create drama just for giggles inhopes of him confront you to give her something to kill time for before her 3pm nail appointment or for her to read about through texts during her tanning appointment.

These things are devil spawn. Take it as a big sign that you cant find the post you want to find and there is so much negativity attached to them. There's a reason that no one that tangled with a BPD is giving them a thumbs up and has married them.

 

[Brandonc662]

impossible with a BPD. They have an emotional disorder and you want to emotionally manipulate them into a casual relationship?

The way you say it it sounds so bad. I say I want to keep things the way they are now.

 

[Iceberg]

I've searched the forums and cannot find the post on how to properly date a BPD.

Did you consider that there might be a reason that you can't find any posts on how to properly date a BPD?

Usually at the point when you determine that she's a BPD is the point when you realize that dating her will lead to trouble.

It's like asking, "Are there any tips on how to live in your house while it's still on fire?"

The way you say it it sounds so bad. I say I want to keep things the way they are now.

Then keep doing what you've done.

 

[Zodiac]

The way you say it it sounds so bad. I say I want to keep things the way they are now.

Eventually they will change when she wants more. At that point get ready for hell to begin.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Casually dating a BPD

The last guy I knew who tried to "casually" date a BPD wound up "seriously" filing a restraining order on her.

This is an ill-advised mission you're choosing to go on, soldier.

 

[BigSmooth]

BPD? What's it short for?

 

[Zodiac]

BPD? What's it short for?

Borderline Personality Disorder. Take a peek at what it stands for.

 

[horaholic]

I'll be looking forward to future threads from you about how this chick ruined your life.

BTW, how do you even know she's BPD? Its VERY hard to know unless you've dated her/or another one, which you obviously haven't.

 

[Brandonc662]

I'll be looking forward to future threads from you about how this chick ruined your life.

BTW, how do you even know she's BPD? Its VERY hard to know unless you've dated her/or another one, which you obviously haven't.

I was married to a HPD. To tell you the truth, I would have just thought she was another girl with high interest, but she told me she was a diagnosed BPD and sees a therapist for it. So I know not to take it any where near a relationship level with this girl but she is fun to hang out with (for now) and she pays for everything (which is nice because I am unemployed right now).

 

[Blue Phoenix]

To the original poster:
IF you´re a master jedi this could be your song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-3J4WncFyY

HOWEVER, it´s more likely to end up like this!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pALWIj9ketA&ob=av3e
:crackup:

 

[roman81]

To the original poster:
Tell me who?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-3J4WncFyY

:crackup:

Hilarious....i got to ask is this your favourite song? lol

 

[Blue Phoenix]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-3J4WncFyY
Hilarious....i got to ask is this your favourite song? lol

This is the playa´s song!

 

[jafyk]

Guys please leave the OP alone. He seems to think he's special and can casually date a BPD, lol. You know in life some things are best experienced. At least we told him. Smh.

 

[Iceberg]

LMAO surely there must be someone out there who has successfully managed to enjoy long term, regular, mind blowing sex with a BPD without getting totally f*cked over by the experience??

I have casually dated a BDP chick for a fair amount of time. And I wasn't f**ked over by the experience. But here is the issue:

Casually dating a REAL BPD chick involves the same amount of effort involved in a real relationship with a normal chick. It's not as simple as "I call BPD chick at 2am, she comes by, we screw, and she goes home."

Even if it's just casual, even if it's just for the sex, you're dealing with mood swings, attention wh0ring, the anger that comes when you don't respond to their attention wh0ring, drunken drama, attempts at creating jealousy.

It just makes you realize "Okay, I saw this girl naked. I banged her 30 different ways. I've accomplished everything I wanted to with this girl. It's not worth dealing with this sh!t over an extended period of time."

What I notice is this: Even when you ignore her BPD attempts at drama, all the chick will do is ESCALATE the drama in an attempt to get some kind of reaction. You're not going to tame the girl. And ignoring her doesn't work, and sometimes makes things worse. So you end up putting yourself in a "casual relationship" with a ticking time bomb.

 

[Brandonc662]

I have casually dated a BDP chick for a fair amount of time. And I wasn't f**ked over by the experience. But here is the issue:

Casually dating a REAL BPD chick involves the same amount of effort involved in a real relationship with a normal chick. It's not as simple as "I call BPD chick at 2am, she comes by, we screw, and she goes home."

Even if it's just casual, even if it's just for the sex, you're dealing with mood swings, attention wh0ring, the anger that comes when you don't respond to their attention wh0ring, drunken drama, attempts at creating jealousy.

It just makes you realize "Okay, I saw this girl naked. I banged her 30 different ways. I've accomplished everything I wanted to with this girl. It's not worth dealing with this sh!t over an extended period of time."

What I notice is this: Even when you ignore her BPD attempts at drama, all the chick will do is ESCALATE the drama in an attempt to get some kind of reaction. You're not going to tame the girl. And ignoring her doesn't work, and sometimes makes things worse. So you end up putting yourself in a "casual relationship" with a ticking time bomb.

So what is the problem with having fun until the honeymoon period is over? Why not have fun and have great sex until unwanted behaviors arise and using as that as your reason to bounce?

 

[Iceberg]

So what is the problem with having fun until the honeymoon period is over? Why not have fun and have great sex until unwanted behaviors arise and using as that as your reason to bounce?

Other than the problems I listed, there is no problem, I guess.

Hey, I'm just some random dude on the internet. You should do what works for you.

If you like her, go get her.

 

[user99321]

So what is the problem with having fun until the honeymoon period is over? Why not have fun and have great sex until unwanted behaviors arise and using as that as your reason to bounce?

Instead of spending your valuable time on earth with someone that WILL end terribly, you could be going out and finding someone that you can have fun with and might have potential.

Why don't people eat Big Macs every day until they start getting really fat?
Why don't people smoke for fun and just stop once they become addicted?

 

[WC2]

There is no winning in any way when dating a BPD chick. The outrageous sex will never make up for the long lasting heart break/depression you'll be in for.

PM me if you really want more details. I dated a BPD chick for 3 years.

 

[bigneil]

The OP is an anomaly.

Even after you stop caring about your BPD and legitimately want to be friends (like one year after the breakup) they will still try and get to you by randomly ending conversations, etc.

Further, it seems the only cure for a BPD is another "wrong" girl.