Can't work her out ...

[Aesthetix29]

Dated this girl and few weeks back to which went quite well but we went s few days without much communication and it just kind of fizzled out .. Anyway we usually chat on what's app etc... And I messaged her saying that we need need a catch up drink soon ... She replied to that saying ' that's sounds ominous, any particular reason or just for a drink?' With emojis etc... Anyway she agreed and we arranged to meet .. Anyway once I message her to arrange date time .. She just reads it and sends no reply ... That was on Tuesday ... And have not heard anything since. We are friends on Facebook and she keeps posting loads of quotes (memes) about relationships and today's said ' a man will only put the effort in for a women he truly wants' is this stuff directed at me or something ??? As I tried to arrange a meet and she's the one who didn't respond.

Can I still seal the deal ... Should I delete her .. ? I do still like this woman. Cheers

 

[Julian]

She's playing hard to get. I always tell guys do not be afraid to send a friendly follow-up text if she doesn't respond...after u made plans and sent the last teext5..ifnshe didn't respond timely just send a hellooooooo text as a reminder

 

[hockeyfreak79]

That was on Tuesday & it's now Sat with no response? Yeah she's not interested man, you mentioned a catch up drink but she's already caught up cause your "chatting" on what's app.
You have to be clear & concise. XXX day @ XXX time @ XXX location. Stop p*ssy footing around meeting up, you are suppose to lead. If she declines without a 2nd option you have your answer.

Stop added these broads to social media, it's not necessary! Keep it simple through text & that's it. Did you fail to escalate prior to things fizzling out?

 

[Aesthetix29]

That was on Tuesday & it's now Sat with no response? Yeah she's not interested man, you mentioned a catch up drink but she's already caught up cause your "chatting" on what's app.
You have to be clear & concise. XXX day @ XXX time @ XXX location. Stop p*ssy footing around meeting up, you are suppose to lead. If she declines without a 2nd option you have your answer.

Stop added these broads to social media, it's not necessary! Keep it simple through text & that's it. Did you fail to escalate prior to things fizzling out?

Yes we've made out ... But not had sex. I know that she likes me or at least did, I might just remove her off my social media as a start.

 

[Vivacity]

You have to be clear & concise. XXX day @ XXX time @ XXX location.

This ^^^. You tell them this basic common sense thing a million times, and guys keep ignoring it all the time.

We are friends on Facebook and she keeps posting loads of quotes (memes) about relationships and today's said ' a man will only put the effort in for a women he truly wants' is this stuff directed at me or something ???

Why are you confusing yourself? Follow the 2-Strike or 3-Strike rule, depending on your level of persistence. Either she will meet-up or she will not. Either way, you will have your answer. Once you have your answer, don't give her any more chances. You are spending your time, attention, and efforts on other girls.

I might just remove her off my social media as a start.

You don't need to remove her from your social media, but you just stop giving her any more attention. It's all in your mind and how you control yourself. A lightning, or thunderstorm, or earthquake, or an erupted volcano should not affect a man's mind and what he decided to do.

 

[VladPatton]

I would of stopped messaging after "that's sounds ominous, any particular reason or just for a drink?" The fvck does that even mean???? Unless you get an enthusiastic "cool, let's do it" or a "would love to", then forget it, she's col on you. Fvck dancing like a monkey for the b!tch, why do you need that kind of aggravation in your life.

 

[Yewki]

We are friends on Facebook and she keeps posting loads of quotes (memes) about relationships and today's said ' a man will only put the effort in for a women he truly wants' is this stuff directed at me or something ??? As I tried to arrange a meet and she's the one who didn't respond.

Can I still seal the deal ... Should I delete her .. ?

You need to take a step back and realize how hard your hamster is spinning for some girl

You pedestalize her. You desperately want to make things work and in the process you're tripping over yourself

Can you still seal the deal? Was her Facebook post directed at you?? Should you delete her???

Who cares. Go do something else

I do still like this woman

Prob too much

 

[ubercat]

Why the hell would you be trying to work her out. You should be the one being hot and cold and she should be trying to work you out. One of the best reasons for chasing lots of girls is it keeps you too damned busy to lose your **** over any one girl. And what the hell is it with you young guys and Facebook you play with that thing too much and you will definitely grow tits. Yeah I'm old but I use WhatsApp Viber WeChat etc and absolutely no f***** book.

 

[Arcturus]

Don't remove her from social media, that will just make it socially awkward and show that she has gotten too deep into your head. You should forget about this girl for now and move on to many many others. It is a numbers game after all.

Stop giving her any attention. Then in 1-2 weeks, you send her a friendly text message. Most girls will usually jump on it after being ignored for so long, unless they have lost all interest completely. Make it something that will make it tempting for her to respond and has a hook. "I can't believe we know so many of the same people, was so odd running into my old friend and finding out she knows you." Or anything else that will make her curious. When she replies, just make up some excuse. "Sorry I was mistaken, she meant another girl I've been hanging out with." You will be surprised at how fast girls will message you back, if you hook their curiosity. Then just ask her out one last time. If she causes any more problems, get rid of her and move on completely.

 

[RangerMIke]

Too much BS'ing on 'What's App"... not enough face to face.

Call... make a date... sell face to face.... escalate and close. You are really hurting your chances with all this communication out of touch distance.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Thanks for all the advice guys .. I've taken a step back and your all correct, just need to move on.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Anyway once I message her to arrange date time .. She just reads it and sends no reply ... That was on Tuesday ... And have not heard anything since. We are friends on Facebook and she keeps posting loads of quotes (memes) about relationships and today's said ' a man will only put the effort in for a women he truly wants' is this stuff directed at me or something ???

be aware this chick is probably messaging multiple guys as well as you and the nonsense on Facebook is most likely directed at all of them

anyway this chick is being blatantly disrespectful towards you and to be honest sounds like a dead weight

cut your losses and move on to the next

and don't catch feelings again they are dangerous , cloud your judgement and stop you from getting laid .

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Why the hell would you be trying to work her out. You should be the one being hot and cold and she should be trying to work you out. One of the best reasons for chasing lots of girls is it keeps you too damned busy to lose your **** over any one girl. And what the hell is it with you young guys and Facebook you play with that thing too much and you will definitely grow tits. Yeah I'm old but I use WhatsApp Viber WeChat etc and absolutely no f***** book.

It's true. The one girl cannot define you because you have the others who hold you in a higher regard.

 

[sph21]

You made some fundamental mistakes

• You tried to work it out

It's not your role to work over a relationship. It's her job. By trying to work it out, you're putting her on a pedestal and she's the prize to be won. It should be the other way around.​

• Text game

If you use too much text game to make her interested in you, then your game is too weak. If you ask her out over text, than you're implying that you're not brave enough to to ask her when you meet her or over voice (phone). There're a lot of things you can do with your body and voice. By not using them as your tools, you're at a disadvantage.
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English is not my first language, so I might not use a proper grammar. But I guess you'll get my points.

I suggest you to read http://www.donjuanbible.com/

I write this with my phone so I can't insert links. Here are some threads from djbible that you should read & understand:

1. Fifteen Lessons
2. THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
3. Kill that desperation!
4. Be a Man!
5. The Secret of the Jerk