Can't stay hard during sex

[smoofle]

Lost my virginity a while ago; everytime me and my girl have sex she's on top and I don't have a problem with my erection. But when we try to switch it up aka doggy or missionary another night I lose my boner quick. Why is this happening?! I'm 20 and don't know what to do... Is it performance anxiety???

 

[Radharc]

Could be that, or could be that she doesn´t attract you enough physically. Do you trully think she´s hot?

Or could be something else.

 

[smoofle]

I really do; I don't have a problem keeping it if she's riding me but when I'm on top I can't even get it in

 

[SharinganUser]

You should probably see a councilor or shrink about this.

 

[Betamax]

Been there, get help. There is nothing wrong with your equipment either.

It could be for a number of reasons. Mine was worry over the size, due to seeing too many porn films with guys with donkey/horse dong size erections. Once I came to realised that my 'little' 6 3/4 inch one was normal and those in porn films are 'freaks' I was fine thanks to a councilor

 

[Slickster]

I'd say performance anxiety. This kind of thing can happen if you are second guessing whether she's really enjoying herself or not.

Does she make lots of noise on top and really get off? Then when you switch she's not as vocal or you can't tell if she's enjoying herself as much?

Encourage her to be as vocal and animated as possible.

The same way you are concerned about her enjoying herself. She feels the same way. Remember that she really wants to blow your mind during sex. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish. Go for it. The more passionate you are the more she will get turned on and of course the whole thing snowballs.

 

[smoofle]

Thanks for the help guys, these are all of my insecurities so to speak... How do I go about getting help like you said? Just throwing these thoughts out of my mid is easier said than done lol

 

[BigJimbo]

Have her yell at you and insult you while you are BANGING her. That should work. Will make you focus on something other than her fatty body parts.

 

[Mr.Positive]

You may be nervous about dominating her. When a woman is on top, she's doing most of the fukking so to speak - she's in control and moving herself up and down on you. In other positions, the guy is in charge. Perhaps you're worried about your technique, or pleasing her. Toss these thoughts out and just bang her like crazy. That's what most women want anyway. And there's no shame in imagining someone else is there, either. Worry less about her and more about yourself - sounds crazy but it's better that way.

This is very good advise. Gain confidence in your abilities and you will overcome this.

This is a fun challenge, enjoy it!

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

It's just nerves. I went through the same thing early on.