Can't read her signals...HELP!!

[asxx]

I go to a fitness centre where the receptionist participates in the following:

1) gives me a big greeting and a smile all the time
2) repeats my name in conversation
3) has touched my forearm a few times on my way out
4) seems to find me funny and has told me so
5) asked me for my opinion on her shoes ( displaying a dress sandal and wearing a toe ring )...
6) once I called the club to see if it was open and she knew it was me
7) She said once that " I was the best"
8) On the phone she said my friend ( my name ) is selling his house.
9) She was playing with her little cousin and she introduced me.
10) her eyes seem to glisten when in conversation ( i could be misinterpreting things )

I can't really observe other body gestures because she is behind a desk most of the tiime...but what am I to think of this? signals or just being friendly?

 

[chancer]

I found it kinda weird that you came up with a list of short actions. I don't really know what your actions and expressions are, but I don't observe too much. If you want to find out if she's interested, you know what you gotta do. Put your balls on the line, and ask her out somewhere.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

It sure sounds to me like she's interested. Especially with the KINO. Yes, you need to say something to her like, "we should get to together sometime" - then guage her reaction. If good, then go with the number. If indifferent, then just change the topic of conversation. Another good way to approach the situation is to say, "I'm going out to [coffee, bar, see a live band, etc] with my buddy, why don't you meet us there". Have a pen and paper ready or cell phone you can program her #.

Keep us up to date and good luck!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by asxx
I go to a fitness centre where the receptionist participates in the following:
I can't really observe other body gestures because she is behind a desk most of the tiime...but what am I to think of this? signals or just being friendly?

One question, has she done anything to make you think that she wasn't interested.

 

[Cocoon]

Lol, man go for it, 1 in a 100 girls will give these signals just to play around with men, but as u are a don juan, take her, and dance, my friend

 

[asxx]

I should admit I am a buff guy ...6-2 275 lbs of muscle...I look like a bodybuilder but deep down inside I am telling myself...she is just friendly..but she has mentioned I should do stand up...I have legitimately made her laugh. She has called me her friend to people although I just know her from the gym. I really am a ***** with this girl...she looks very much like Tara Reid. My balls boil when I see her..I do my darndest not to turn into Jerry Lewis.

 

[asxx]

Yesterday , she greeted me with her usual smile and asked me what I did all weekend, I pulled a George Costanza ( SEINFELD ) and answered with a devious tone... "oh you don't wanna know ". She suddenly asked "what, what"?!! with great interest. She also died her hair brown and asked if I liked it ( I said yes...was I going to say? I liked you as a blond ) and at one point in conversation, she crossed her arms, is this uh-oh? Do you think she's getting frustrated with me?

 

[xblitz44x]

The problem is, you are analyzing her, while the problem lies in YOU. So I'll analyze you...

You're an ass. You're too scared to approach because you'd rather NOT KNOW if she likes you, than find out that she doesn't. You can't handle the rejection so you will NOT EVER advance this interaction further until she comes in wearing a T-shirt that says "I want asxx's c0ck in my vah-gin-ah". And even then you'd question whether she was talking about you. You're worried about what's going on in HER head when the problem is going on in YOURS. If she doesn't give you the number, it may be because she doesn't like you, or because she's not looking for a guy right now, or because she doesn't have a boyfriend, or because she doesn't like white boys, or because she only likes tall guys, or because this or that....who the fvck cares? It's in HER mind and you'll never change that. Don't take it personally. Be a man, stop fvcking asking a million questions to STRANGERS to figure out of she's interested when you could EASILY grab your balls, be a man, and ask her ONE question to figure out of she's interested:

"Hey, we should hang out sometime, do you want to exchange numbers?"

Grow up. Stop wasting my time.

-Blitz

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
The problem is, you are analyzing her, while the problem lies in YOU. So I'll analyze you...

You're an ass. You're too scared to approach because you'd rather NOT KNOW if she likes you, than find out that she doesn't. You can't handle the rejection so you will NOT EVER advance this interaction further until she comes in wearing a T-shirt that says "I want asxx's c0ck in my vah-gin-ah". And even then you'd question whether she was talking about you. You're worried about what's going on in HER head when the problem is going on in YOURS. If she doesn't give you the number, it may be because she doesn't like you, or because she's not looking for a guy right now, or because she doesn't have a boyfriend, or because she doesn't like white boys, or because she only likes tall guys, or because this or that....who the fvck cares? It's in HER mind and you'll never change that. Don't take it personally. Be a man, stop fvcking asking a million questions to STRANGERS to figure out of she's interested when you could EASILY grab your balls, be a man, and ask her ONE question to figure out of she's interested:

"Hey, we should hang out sometime, do you want to exchange numbers?"

Grow up. Stop wasting my time.

-Blitz

Now that's an AFC b!tchslap.

 

[Starman]

I notice this too blitz,

alot of people with low self esteem..have the fear of "messing up"..they put too much stock in ONE girl..one situation..and overanalyze EVRYTHING from every angle..

they want COMPLETE reaasurance that they will not get rejected in order to build up enough confidence to ask for a #

you have all the buying signals..and you are still unsure whether you will score or snore..

step up..and start taking chances in life..if she rejects you its not the end of the world..

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. they are trained to be this way with male customers. even down to the glissening eyeballs if they are really good.
2. didn't you already post something like this?
3. if you did your beginning to sound like a stalker type
4. if you didn't excuse #3
5. is this a joke? Your not for real are you? 6'2 275 uhh yeah thats too heavy for your height. Unless your on the juice.
6. your actually 5.6 weighing about a dollar 50...right

 

[becker]

Originally posted by asxx
Yesterday , she greeted me with her usual smile and asked me what I did all weekend, I pulled a George Costanza ( SEINFELD ) and answered with a devious tone... "oh you don't wanna know ". She suddenly asked "what, what"?!! with great interest. She also died her hair brown and asked if I liked it ( I said yes...was I going to say? I liked you as a blond ) and at one point in conversation, she crossed her arms, is this uh-oh? Do you think she's getting frustrated with me?

This is called overanalyzing. "She crossed her arms at one point in the conversation"? I cross my arms all the time, even in the presence of a girl I like. I think that's one of those signs that's a little sketchy. I don't trust the analysis of the sign because to me, it doesn't mean jack unless she does it an looks away from you with disgust.

I agree that you have to ask this girl out. At least you'll know if she has a BF or something.

 

[deeman]

ask her out man, I dont see any reasons not to, let us know what she says!

 

[echo1212]

Personally, I think you should ask one of her friends if she likes you, and then if her friend says yes you can write her a note saying "hi, I think your beautiful," and have the friend give it to her. Then, if she gives a note back to the friend to gives to you saying something in kind, you can ask her friend what the girls number is and then call her up asking if she'll "go" with you.

Seriously dude, your prior posts sound almost as wimpy as that one. Ask her out and see what she says for your and our mental health. Quit worrying about every little move she makes and start acting like a man.

 

[mystic03]

I imagine how you feel, I almost feel like it's happening to me. Try no to think too much of her signals, as most of the guys here have pointed out she's a receptionist and I'm pretty sure she's been trained to be "friendly" to the male customers... but then again maybe she likes you, you have tow options: continue to observe her and try to analize her every move and you'll become obsesed with her (if you haven't already) or you can find out and ask her out or mention to her to meet some place, but be ready if she says no, and don't take it personally.

keep us posted,

happy hunting...

 

[PEACEDJ]

Only way to find out, ask her out.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Ronin I
Now that's an AFC b!tchslap.

Yeah, I could feel the shockblast myself

 

[asxx]

HE REALLY LET ME HAVE IT..OUCH!!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

One-itis, One-itis why have you bared your ugly face upon our bodybuilder buddy????

God damn!!! Ok let me tell you a few things:

One your 6'2 275lbs, that has NOTHING to do with whether or not she's interested in you AT THIS POINT!! You guys know eachother now and the part she might be interested in is what's in that over-analyzing head of your's.

Secondly, its already been said but I'll repeat it, girls at bars, clubs, gyms, sales jobs get PAID to make you THINK they like you. Don't believe me, go to Hooters one night. All the girls that work there are HB7-9 with a few 10's and they'll call you "sweetie", tell you how cutie you are etc. So stop acting like a total AFC with MAJOR ONE-ITIS, because its getting to that point where I know that your blocking off all the other girls you can talk with because "she's so special."

I"m not saying that she's not interested, just that the chances are more likely that she's being friendly because she get's paid to be that way. I'm sure she definitely enjoys your humour and company, so bust her ballz and tease her so you can create ATTRACTION rather than a buddy. A true DJ knows if he's created attraction with a girl or found a new emotional tampon, so start reding between the lines, because right now you 2 are friends, but work on her for a couple of weeks and then ask her to hangout. Simple as that. If she declines then you can stop waisting your time obessing over her and start hooking up with different girls. But you already should be doing that. A wise man once told me the following:

NEVER PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET BECAUSE IF IT BREAKS YOUR LEFT WITH NOTHING.

Think about that Mr.Tara Reid look alike lover


PIMP

 

[seloifter]

Dude, DO NOT ANALYZE EVERYTHING SHE DOES!!!

It's the kiss of death.... some article about that somewhere, do a search for it

Let me tell you, of *everything* you listed, NOTHING proves that she does or does not like you. There is no possible way you could be 100% sure either way by her words or actions. So stop trying to be. The only way to be sure is to grab your balls and make something.

Here's a little word of discouragement though. Girls who work at places like the gym are trained to act really friendly and flirty with guys. It makes sales. It brings the guys back to the gym. It brings friends to the gym. They flirt with the guys, making the guys think the girl likes them, and then the guy comes back for more, paying the gym to see the girl.
I see it ALL the time at the gym. A personal trainer is "all over" some middle-aged out-of-shape guy, talking about how funny he is and how much she's looking forward to "their next 60$ appointment" (they leave out the high price, of cuorse).... too bad she's already married.... but they don't have to know that.....
it's a trade secret Give the guys hope, and they'll be throwing money at you to keep getting the green light while never doing anything with it....