How many real relationships have you been in? How old are you? How long was the relationship? We've all been there, my friend. It happens to the best of us. We invest so much time, money, and emotions into things so dear to us, hoping to keep our special bonds alive and healthy, yet they die sometimes. Trust me, no matter how unique you think your relationship may have been, the suffering you are going through has been felt by billions of men throughout history--please take solace in that. Moreover, take solace in the fact that the pain you feel is a good thing insofar as it is the first step in the healing process. Anyone that's been in a meaningful relationship and then dumped has thought to themselves, "how can I go on?" Yet, we do move on: remember, there was a time in your life when she wasn't around.
Anyways, first thing you need to do is get her number off the speed dials of any phone it may be on. Next, delete her off your buddies list, and remove her from any other favorites list she may be on (this goes for the website as well). Put any letters she gave you, photos, mementos, etc. in a box and hide it somewhere where it's out of your sight (it will probably be too difficult for you to get rid of them all right now). Trust me, I'm not a sensitive, docile male--but if you need to cry, then cry. It doesn't mean you're weak. Read your letters if you want before you put them away, just don't obsess over them. Yes, she may have said "we'll be together forever," but for a woman this could mean as little as a week. Yes, you two may have made plans for the future, but as the great philosopher/boxer Mike Tyson once said, "everybody has a plan . . . until they get punched in the mouth."
YOU MUST AVOID ALL CONTACT WITH HER!
Avoid places that you may run into her like the plague. If you have mutual friends, don't ask about her. Do not call her or e-mail her just to see "what's up." If a birthday or some other day that was special to you two is near, do not let it be an excuse to be weak and give in. If she calls you or writes you to tell you how much she's missed you, that she loves you, or some bullsh!t like that, don't give her the satisfaction of letting her know how bad you've been feeling. Do not tell her that you've missed her. Be bold--be a man--and get her off the phone quickly. A quick "I'm real busy right now, I can't talk" will do. Do not call back. Remember, if she really loved you, you two wouldn't have broken up.
I know this means sh!t to you right now (and rightfully so), but there are other women out there. You will forget about this girl.
Reconnect with old friends. Reconnect with the family you may have neglected because of this girl. If you're not working out, then start. If you have been working out, it's time to accomplish those fitness goals you've ignored. It's hard not to start feeling better when you're improving yourself. Also remember: you are desirable to some women out there; after all, this girl found something special in you, and it is a certainty that there are others who will also see that in you (but you must be in a position to let them see this).
There's alot more I can write, but I don't want to clutter up the board. I'm sure others will be along to help you. In the meantime, though this site is tongue in cheek, you may find some pearls of wisdoms to let you know that things will be better:
http://www.relationsh!t.com
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Replace the "!" with the letter i )
Take care, and keep us updated.
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