cant get her out of my head

[evil_tomato]

Was in a LDR Relationship a couple of years back with the girl of my dreams but she lived in another country. She was my perfect match and we dated for a few months until she left me for a guy in her own town. Despite me being heart broken she went ghost on me for a year and then came back into my life recently with emails and Skype messages saying how much she misses me and still loves me but yet on social media she has photos of her and her new guy together in just about every photo....I originally wasn't going to accept her friend request but in some ways I'd rather have her in my life then never as the thought of losing her and never hearing from her again sickens me....

My problem...she hasn't made contact with me in months and she seems very happy with this guy and says she's in love with him yet she always used to tell me that I was her soul mate and she couldn't love anyone else the way she loved me....I don't know if I should delete her from Facebook and face that I may never hear from her again or suck it up and hope that she makes contact with me soon. I need a plan to get her back or for her to contact me again....I love her so much even though I haven't met her I never had a connection with anyone else like I had with her.

I have gone on dates and met other girls but I never feel for them what I felt for her it's crazy. I am even thinking about flying over to her to see her but don't know if it's a good idea or not....Please don't tell me to go for other chick's because I'm not interested I only have eyes for this girl

 

[Thorninmyside]

You have two options:

1. Accept that you've perfected this relationship in your head, adopt an abundance philosophy and move on as she has.

2. Go through a world of hurt trying to win someone back to your fantasy world of love, get your heart handed back to you in 1000 pieces, then accept that you've perfected this relationship in your head, adopt an abundance philosophy and move on as she has.

I've been EXACTLY in your place before hanging out here. It gets better. Read every thread here daily. Read the dj bible. Immerse yourself in a new view because the old one ain't working, otherwise she'd be in your bed right now brother. You've been here longer than me man. Come on, you know the answers you're gonna get.

 

[apprenticedj]

Erase her from every platform in your life, do not give her any more space in your mind. It is over.

 

[pbsurf]

I know this is a support forum but

this was 2 years ago.
for few months
in another country...
and you are dating other chix

Dude, we have guys here who have had their fiancée's banging their best friends.. That is major surgery, you just need a band aid.

you'll be fine

 

[goldengoose]

First of all, relax and enjoy some classic tunes from ELO and Elvis featuring a rare 1974 ELO promotional video and 1972 extra Elvis bonus footage.

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Was in a LDR Relationship a couple of years back with the girl of my dreams but she lived in another country.

She was my perfect match and we dated for a few months until she left me for a guy in her own town.

I love her so much even though I haven't met her I never had a connection with anyone else like I had with her.

Let me get this straight. You're claiming to be in a relationship with woman you've never even met? Who are you Manti Te'o? LOL

Look, you were never in a relationship with this chick, this was just an online friendship. Dating a girl requires going on dates, having sex, doing things together. You did none of that with her.

What do you expect is going to happen with a girl in another country who never met you? What kind of a "relationship" do you expect to have? Of course she is going to meet and fvck other guys around her. Why aren't you meeting and fvcking other girls around you?

If you're this heartbroken over over a chick you never met, what's going to happen when a chick breaks your heart that you met, fvcked, and invested time in?

No disrespect to you, but quit being an idiot, meet girls that you can actually see in person and not over a computer. You have no idea of anything about this chick other than what she says and presents to you over the computer. You have no idea what kind of person she really is. What kind of a person professes true love over a computer and ignores you? LOL

Get out of fantasy and step into reality. Find some actual chicks you can bang and quit acting stupid. Delete her and move on, she isn't important to you, she isn't your whole life.