Can't deal with women paying someone else attention

[shqiponja]

someone else who I consider less attractive than me. I know I have a f up ego.


I went shopping with my friend who is UGLY, f up teeth, bag of bones,he was dressed better than I was though, and has a 5-stars tatoo on his forearm which is kinda cute, but I work out, and I have been doing lately heavy squats, and that means one thing for sure, but apparently not enough :trouble:

I snap when the sales girls give him all the attention. I wanna kick his ass, and theirs too. I feel like I don't want to flirt with a girl for like a month, till I get it out of my system.
I feel like I ve been wronged that's how I feel. And everytime I loose a lot of respect for the other sex.


I know better but apparently sometimes it's so fkn blatant that just blasts my egos shell to pieces and hurts me.
Do you guys have any tips for dealing with these situations. If you got any not helpful comments plz don't post at all. Thanks

 

[SeymourCake]

Seems like you like to judge other men. Stop being a girl.

 

[shqiponja]

SeymourCake, thx man. I ll keep that in mind

What it is though, I can't stand women judging us and giving him the edge in attention, and seems in everything else, like customer attention as well.

 

[scorpio1138]

yeah just deal with it. Fuming will get you nowhere.

who knows, maybe sometime a chica will be all over you and not your friend.

 

[shqiponja]

scorpio1138, thanks man.

He is a work collegue. Every girl I like is attracted nutts to him, like they get out of their fck way to get his attention. And he acts like nothing. Girls I get out of my way to get their attention. Then after I feel like a loser. I m like wthf, no matter what I do this mofo is running the show.

I ll deal with this situation which will bring me my liberation or my doom :crackup:

 

[vatoloco]

He is a work collegue. Every girl I like is attracted nutts to him, like they get out of their fck way to get his attention. And he acts like nothing. Girls I get out of my way to get their attention. Then after I feel like a loser. I m like wthf, no matter what I do this mofo is running the show.

Therein lies your problem.

Step back and let the kitties come to you!

Either that or change jobs.

 

[shqiponja]

vatoloco thx man I ve tried that too.

then whenever a girl afterwords flirts with me when he is not around , I wanna say to her "wthf you looking at" This sht is getting the best of me.



I want to share this with you

I grew up watching american geek movies where the geek has to win the girl, and gets out of his way and has to win her approval (that's how I learned english). Is rooted deep inside me.
But a couple of days ago I got the other side of the medal from a movie with Ashton Kutcher called "Killers", dumb movie but got sth out of it that was like magic. In this movie it was the main female character the geek, that had to wins this guy's approval. He was super cool, talking smoothly, with the super confident attitude I didn't watch the entire movie, I just felt what was going on and realized the dynamic. I tried that when talking to girls and it felt natural. I was being extra confident and not nervous and I was getting alot of attention. I am an attention ***** apparently.

 

[Falcon25]

If you want attention, buy a dog, or become a woman. A man is born, lives, and dies alone. When you get that through your thick fuvking skull, you may have women after you. Would Clint Eastwood be upset at women not paying him attention? Get used to being alone, and women will want to be a part of you. Be strong and you will do well in life (Doing squats doesn't make you strong........get my drift????)

 

[shqiponja]

Falcon25 thank you appresciate the advice

 

[maqnetik]

did it ever occur to you that she did that to get a REACTION out of you??

 

[Falcon25]

Falcon25 thank you appresciate the advice

You bet. I try to give it these guys here with no vaseline. I give them tough love. The world is tough as it is without someone kissing your ass. Just be independent, don't worry about silly things, and you will be ok. Learn to be alone. You will be alone for a looooong time. Even men who are married are alone, they just don't know it.

 

[sodbuster]

I realized it,so we are divorced and I am alone with less b1tching. after you've been married for 14 years, you realize [the hard way],that women aren't everything they are cracked up to be.

 

[Galactus]

Forget your ugly friend. I would suggest taking some time to think about a few things. You are the one who has to learn how to get his emotions under control. If you can do that, you can start acting like the kind of man a woman would want. If your emotional state is solid, your actions will line up with that.

At the peak of my success with women, there was nothing that bothered me. I did what I wanted to do, and I felt like I could do anything. I approached women with absolutely no fear, without even thinking about it, and said whatever I wanted to say. Women pick up on that attitude.

If you have a nervous or angry demeanor, it isn't attractive. You work out, and you seem angry. Maybe these girls are picking up that vibe, and don't want you snapping their neck.

Start an internal dialogue with yourself when you are around women. Tell yourself that there is nothing she, or anybody else, can do to upset you. You will not get jealous or angry or whatever. Let yourself feel it for two seconds, recognize it, and get rid of it before anybody notices it was there.

Practice being smooth and relaxed. Get comfortable in your own skin. Remember that it's going to take some time. Stop telling yourself that you can't help it, this is just the way you are. That's a cop-out. Take charge of yourself, and your life. Nobody else is going to do it for you. I see women I like all the time. Some like me, some don't. Some will talk to other guys right in front of me and laugh at all his jokes, and show no interest in me. I can't say it never bothers me, but I simply don't allow those negative feelings to take hold. I push them away. I'm just as worthy as anyone else, if not more.

Nothing bothers you. You can deal with anything. Know that, and it will become true, and that will attract women. Just be patient, and make the effort to change.

 

[zekko]

I snap when the sales girls give him all the attention. I wanna kick his ass, and theirs too.

It could be looks or attraction, but maybe not.
Ever notice how some people just draw others to them, they're very easy to talk to, and people open up to them quickly?
If he goes into the store with a smile, making eye contact, with good open body language, while you're with him with your shoulders slumped over looking at her feet, of course her attention will be drawn to him.

Not saying that's what's happening necessarily, but it's a possibility so I'm throwing it out there for your consideration.

 

[shqiponja]

Thank you Galactus, Zeko and sodbuster


Galatucus that was some motivational advice. Thank you very much

Zekko that's very true, and I have to work on that too.