Zanbato
New Member
Hey all,
I'm not quite new to the whole pickup-scene but am having a major problem with the the 'day game' scene. I cannot, I repeat, cannot cold approach in the daytime. I need some advice on how to cope with this problem.
I've gone through university feeling the agony of hundreds of opportunities pass me by day by day because I've been too inhibited and worried about being shot down to approach women. See, I'm a typical "keyboard jockey": I've read about the game inside out. I've been all over the "blogosphere" and have been keeping up with "Rational Male" and "Heartiste". I understand why game should work but can't make it work myself.To remedy the frustration I contend with, I often go out drunk and try to approach. Drunk approaches usually don't end well, and I think that only works to make it even more difficult to approach during the day.
It's like there's an invisible wall. My mind, body, every part of me resists any urge to go and talk to women. It's likely just me, but it seems as if women are guarded in the streets. I walk to work and live in a town in which there are a lot of female undergrads. They all seem to have a chip on their shoulder and don't look approachable at all.
I try to ease myself into cold approaches by playing the "eye contact game" to try and build my confidence to approach. I literally get the stink-eye from basically every woman with whom I hold eye contact. By the time I'm cognizant of them glaring daggers at me for what seems to me at the time to be no reason beyond looking them in the eye, I can't bring myself to approach. I can't stand dirty looks and I get preponderant amounts of them. The younger they are the more likely the chicks are to sneer at me.
Does anyone know how to deal with this kind of thing? I'm beginning to think its more social anxiety than it is a general nervousness around women. I can approach and spit game, but I tend to only be really successful and only actually be able to attempt when there's already some kind of obvious approach invitation involved. I'm petrified of cold approaching in the day, particularly when it's really bright out. My mind just shuts down and refuses to do anything but make up a series of negative potential outcomes.
How do you guys deal with this? Or do you even have this kind of problem?
I'm not quite new to the whole pickup-scene but am having a major problem with the the 'day game' scene. I cannot, I repeat, cannot cold approach in the daytime. I need some advice on how to cope with this problem.
I've gone through university feeling the agony of hundreds of opportunities pass me by day by day because I've been too inhibited and worried about being shot down to approach women. See, I'm a typical "keyboard jockey": I've read about the game inside out. I've been all over the "blogosphere" and have been keeping up with "Rational Male" and "Heartiste". I understand why game should work but can't make it work myself.To remedy the frustration I contend with, I often go out drunk and try to approach. Drunk approaches usually don't end well, and I think that only works to make it even more difficult to approach during the day.
It's like there's an invisible wall. My mind, body, every part of me resists any urge to go and talk to women. It's likely just me, but it seems as if women are guarded in the streets. I walk to work and live in a town in which there are a lot of female undergrads. They all seem to have a chip on their shoulder and don't look approachable at all.
I try to ease myself into cold approaches by playing the "eye contact game" to try and build my confidence to approach. I literally get the stink-eye from basically every woman with whom I hold eye contact. By the time I'm cognizant of them glaring daggers at me for what seems to me at the time to be no reason beyond looking them in the eye, I can't bring myself to approach. I can't stand dirty looks and I get preponderant amounts of them. The younger they are the more likely the chicks are to sneer at me.
Does anyone know how to deal with this kind of thing? I'm beginning to think its more social anxiety than it is a general nervousness around women. I can approach and spit game, but I tend to only be really successful and only actually be able to attempt when there's already some kind of obvious approach invitation involved. I'm petrified of cold approaching in the day, particularly when it's really bright out. My mind just shuts down and refuses to do anything but make up a series of negative potential outcomes.
How do you guys deal with this? Or do you even have this kind of problem?
in front of a filled classroom. It more shocked me than physically hurt me. My young male pride was hurt, I was rejected in the strongest way possibly, embarrassed in front of a class full of nappy head peers, andI couldn't hit back cause if my dad found out he would kick my a$$.