can you use her friend to get to her

[hamelech]

Here's my little dilemma...A couple weeks ago I met this girl online...HOT...at least a 9 in my book...we met soon after in person...First mistake: I went on a group date in an unfamiliar area with her and her "girls," one of which actually turned out to be a boy puzzy...So I find myself going to some wack club with this 9, her hot friend who's like a good 8, her big friend who's like a 3, and this gay dude...The other hot chick is destracting me, the fat chick is blocking and the gay dude is just getting on my nerves...Anyway despite this, I managed to get her alone a couple times for a few minutes and had some good convo...I think she was diggin me but here comes my biggest mistake...When we were walking down the street after getting seperated from her friends...she wrapped her arm around mine and held my hand...Me trying to be ****y/funny said "Hey don't be trying to hold my hand...I'm not you're boyfriend...I don't appreciate that..." She was like "ok" and I think she thought I was dead serious because I didn't really smile...Looking back, after I said that I should have grabbed her hand again immediately and smiled...Long story short after the club we went to some little deli...Her and her friends were speaking their native language that I don't speak...I felt bored and out of the loop...So I told them I was tired and left...called the next day and for the next 4 or 5 days once a day...and no answer or call back...nexted her...but today I had an Idea...I went on her myspace page and hopped from hers to her friend's page...Haven't talked to her since that night but I sent her friend a friend's request...I just looked and she accepted...I'm thinking I probably won't be able to move in on the friend because I met her through the 9. However is there any way to capitalize on it?

 

[hamelech]

I know there's gotta be a way...little help

 

[Juan_Man]

Repeat the following phrase at least 20 times:

"He who cares least, wins."

There. Don't call her again. Move on, my friend.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

dude, if u can build a rapport with the friend, then u can see her again, but if what u did turned her off that much and she couldnt take a joke, then thats on her man..

in the future, make sure u let her know ur joking, either through ur tone or by smiling or somthing to that effect..

peace

 

[flexion_]

Well suffice it to say that if she didn't call you back then she isn't interested.

No further thought needs to be made. You can't make her like you - and her friends can't make her like you.

 

[hamelech]

Juan_Man

I don't care too much or I wouldn't even attempt it...this is a "I have nothing to lose" The friend was kinda givin me the vapors anyway...and she isn't too hard on the eyes herself...I wasn't expecting her to accept the friend request really so who knows...

Driven2Succeed

I agree but the question is how to go about building rapport without it being weird...

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

hamelech... that was a major major mistake to not let her touch you... what were you THINKING?! we all mess up... i know i do a lot.

she obviously won't call you back... I know its hard to forget girls. My advice would be to...well I really dont' have any, sorry!

 

[Driven2Succeed]

reallyfreakinlost,

i respect ur opinion but in this case i disagree..

hamelech,

i mean it doesn't have to be weird.. just be up front, and be like "hey ur friend is really cool and i would like to see her again, she isnt returning my calls, find out whats up for me?".. its as simple as that..

u have to get into the mentality that her not calling back is her loss. u are the prize and she is lucky to even have ur attention. the friend will usually be honest with u, i mean what does she have to gain? unless she likes u and is trying to ****block.. but in that case u just game her and crush her.. so its a win win.. worst case scenario is she tells u the girl doesnt like u, big deal!!!

u already learned somthing from this experience so its a plus.. u learned to be more playful when neg hitting.. lessons learned are priceless and will only help benefit u in the future

 

[DJ4Life]

why the **** weren't you smiling when you were neg hitting her?

you always smile or laugh when being c&f

you screwed it up, move on, find another HB9 and forget about her, there are literally a million HB9 out there

and if you are a true alpha male or DJ, you wouldn't be scared that you won't be able to make another HB9 feel attracted to you

 

[hamelech]

hamelech,

i mean it doesn't have to be weird.. just be up front, and be like "hey ur friend is really cool and i would like to see her again, she isnt returning my calls, find out whats up for me?".. its as simple as that..

Driven, I have to disagree with you big time...I'm thinking more along the lines of just chatting her friend up (with the type of things that could either be flirty friendly or come ons depending on how she chooses to look at it) and not mentioning the first girl at all...This way if girl A comes back in the picture it gives both of us a little ammunition to build sexual tention...Her: "you're low for trying to hit on my friends blah blah"...Me: "What are you getting jealous about we were just having a conversation blah blah" At this point I'd be willing to bet that the girl (B) doesn't know if girl (A) and I have been talking or not...I figure either she'll ask me a question or make a statement about girl (A) first, (which will give me ammunition) she'll mention to girl (A)that we've been talking and she'll get jealous and contact me or she'll never mention girl (A) and start being receptive herself.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

hamelech,

hey dude, its ur deal ya know? im just saying, thats a hell of a lot of work to put in, but if u have the time to game the friend in an attempt to cause jealousy/friction with the 9 then go for it..

i personally prefer a straight up approach.. dont really have time or energy to spend playing games..

good luck tho brother

 

[hamelech]

My little plan might be working here's a copy of my interaction with the friend so far...Just so its not confusing, the original subject for the email was this cliff hanger: "Hey (HB8), do you know where I can get..." And once she opened the email she sees the rest "some nice leopard print?"


----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ME
Date: Aug 8, 2006 2:05 PM

some nice leopard print? lol Glad to see you on my friend's list...How have you been?

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: (HB8)
Date: Aug 8, 2006 5:41 PM

leopard print???? why the hell do u need that???
ok.... U can get it in a gifts shop in the malls of Tel Aviv... toys shops sometimes have it too...
or if u find a paintings shop u can ask them if they have prints... that's all... ask people in the streets, they will help u.... but don't use the word "leopard" 90% of them won't understand it... haha...
and I'm fine. thanks... how is Israel so far?
enjoy life...

Aug 10, 2006 1:54 PM
Subject RE: RE: (HB8), do you know where I can get...
Body: No not a print like a painting...like clothes...like a button up shirt...like silk that's like 10% see through...Leopard can be really cheesy but it can also be really fly if you can find a nice print...Anyway I asked because I remember you had on some when we met ...and it looks like you have on some pretty pink leopard on one of your pictures...I really don't need any more clothes here but maybe you can show me where to go anyway...One of my friends just asked me to go to Tel Aviv with her Sunday...Give me your number and maybe we can have a few friendly drinks...But no gay clubs...lol...Israel is good...I'm gonna stay a while...Later