Can you practice flirting and interacting with women that you aren't pursuing?

Kal0051

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I'm wondering because I could use the practice and I'm chilling alone with this girl on the weekend. Not pursuing her though; she has a boyfriend and I doubt she's looking to trade up. What do you guys think?
 

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You are a true ingrate. Disregard any of the "not too useful advice I gave you". just keep doing what you've been doing. I am sure it is working for you.

You can delete your account or just not post. Stop trolling.
 
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Gangster Of Love said:
LoL. She's not looking to trade up? They are ALWAYS LOOKING TO TRADE UP, as long as they are convinced it would be a trade up. Anyway, that's not the point here.

If you are exclusively chilling with a taken girl or somebody you are not interested in during the weekend, that is not practicing, that is wasting time or pursuing. Stop that. You will most likely get serious one-itis faster than you think.

Why don't you "practice" with MANY other girls, including her, that way you won't have ring rust when you meet someone you actually want, or better yet, why don't you practice with girls you actually are interested in? There are no losses, only new skills learned.
yeah, I'll practice with girls I'm interested in too. But we've already made plans to go out, so why not get some practice out of it too. I like hanging with this girl, we've done it once before but we didn't spend much time alone because one of her friends kept stalking us, lol.

As for the trade up comment, I do agree that most girls will trade up if something comes along, but I don't think she's actively looking.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
One-itis.

You like hanging with this girl because you think you can bang her and want to bang her. That is no practice.

Aren't you the one who was done with this site?
I was in a bad mood, my view had slightly improved by then. And how do you get oneitis from hanging out once 4 months ago?
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
You tell me.

You will hang out with her whenever she decides you two will hang out.

Go get your own chick, seriously guy.
ha, who said she asked me to hang out. So next you'll tell me that if we hang out I'll get shot or something? We're hanging out, not fvcking. I'm not gonna not hang out with girls because they have a boyfriend, that's not very social behaviour. But then again what do I know, right?
 

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I never said she asked you. I said, SHE DECIDES!

You ask, ask, ask, ask, for the past whatever months. You two hang out when you ask, and she happens to say yes. She is deciding. That is not good practice.

More social, and much better is to "hang out" with girls who don't have a boyfriend. Just a concept I'm throwing out there for you. Might actually make some sense.

Something tells me that women you surround yourself with in your life usually decided when and how. That's exactly why you are here, to learn and to look at things from a different way you wouldn't on your own. That's why I point it out.

It's alright man, you don't have to listen to anything I say. Looks like you already got an answer to everything and anything somebody advices you on, and justification for everything you do. Let me jus task you, how is your approach and style working out for you so far?

Obviously, nobody else is taking you too serious here anymore, and I am the only fool responding to this thread of yours, as I hadn't realized you are the one with that other thread on hating this site. I am among the last to catch on. Hadn't heard of you, so I offered some advice. Have a limit of posts per day, so I will save the advice for somebody who is ready and willing to hear it.

All The Best.
but you didn't offer an advice, all you did was say don't bother hanging out with her. That's your advice?

You seem very insulting, one of the reasons why I became dissatisfied with this site, too many people like you here.

As far as I'm concerned you didn't offer too much useful advice. Of course I'm practicing on single girls, but it hasn't payed off at all. And since I'm already hanging out with this girl I thought I might as well practice some stuff with her, get more comfortable with it. That was my question. But if your right and no one will answer my questions here anymore I might as well go then. Maybe I'll come back if there's some insightful thread created that can help me but til then I guess there's nothing here for me. Thanks for showing me that.

Edit: Can a mod delete my account please? That's assuming it's possible.

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You are a true ingrate. Disregard any of the "not too useful advice I gave you". just keep doing what you've been doing. I am sure it is working for you.

You can delete your account or just not post. Stop trolling.
Btw, I wasn't trolling. I was asking a honest question til you started insulting me. I don't come here to be insulted. I honestly have a serious problem with women and only asked if it would be a good idea to practice on a woman I'm not pursuing. Obviously that's not a good idea so I won't. And I'll even take your advice and just call her and tell her it's off now.
 
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Yes.

I hope that helps.

You are who you are, and if you are flirty and bantery, what is there to worry about. She has a boyfriend, if she's not interested, that's fine, it doesn't mean she will have an issue with flirting though.

I have many female friends who have boyfriends I personally know, whom I flirt with all the time, sometimes in front of their boyfriends - but I'll make sure I involve the boyfriend in the game at that time as well.

Just because you're flirting with somebody doesn't mean you're going to bang them, it's just a fun part of being social.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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i say do what you want to do and not worry about what random people on an internet forum think and if she's not feeling it then stop before it gets too weird
 

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Yes, how else do you practice your game?

Go holla at a HB4 and flirt with her it don't matter, flirt with everybody.

If they have a boyfriend, all the better because you don't have to worry about anything.
 

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There are aspects of the game that can be practiced on ANYONE. I swear, I practice my conversation skills with ANY stranger I come across. That includes fat ladies, old men, and mentally disabled people. I kino girls who are gonna be lifelong LJBF's and even girls who are pretty much dudes.
 

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Jesus Christ, man, YES. Flirt with EVERY GIRL! flirting is fun, and they will like you more if you do it, and you get social proof. Also, quit being 'interested' in girls. That didnt come out right. What I mean is, you dont have to be interested in girls to bang them. Its actually better if you dont. You'd be surprised at how interested you will become when they attack you.



Throw out your bait, and if it hooks reel it in (bang her), if it doesnt meet your expectations, throw it back. Dont chase girls. Throw your game at all of them, then pick from the ones that hook. Dont be interested in one girl, be interested in ALL girls. If you go fishing, you dont wait to find the perfect fish before throwing your line out do you?
 
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