Can you guys help a brother out on this one?

[badger04]

First off thanks to all those who gave me some pretty good svice on dealing with my ex. We were together for almost 9 months and I more than likely would have married this girl.
Anyways, I did what you guys said and have NOT wanted to be friends since we broke up and she went out with her new boyfrined the SAME DAMN NIGHT..HO
Well shes been with this guy for almost 2 months now. Sad thing is that she lives about 3 blocks from where I work so I have to deal with this crap everyday. This dudes car is at her apt. almost 24/7 It's crazy that you can spend that much time with someone as soon as you meet them.
Anyways I have been totally ignoring her. I went out last weekend to a club with a couple girlfriends and of course she was there. I acted like I didn't see her but she cornered me by the bathroom and started talking. I was nice and I told her that I am sorry I couldn't be what she needed and that I really hope life works out for her. I also told her that I was sorry if I let her down. blah, blah, blah. It felt good to let it go finally.
While I was there talking to her the cellphopne rang and it was him. She told him she couldn't hear because of the music and he had to call her back later. Than she turned her phone off and put it in her pocket.
It felt kind of weird but I wanted to bury it and just get it over with. After talking a few minutes she started getting tears running down her face and I was wiping them off her face and such. THEN the funniest thing happened. The BOYFRIEND she dumped me for came in and she ran like hell to the bathroom like gangbusters...LOL
I simply walked away. The rest of the evening everytime I walked by I would catch her staring at me. I didn't talk to her anymore but she called this week and I wouldn't answer. She called my store Saturday, I wouldn't answer, She tried to be sneaky and call from her cell. NO ANSWER. She paged me I wouldn't call her back. So when I get home theres a message on my machine. " Hey this is %$^%# I was trying to call you where have you been call me" NO CALL BACK!!! Again another message on Sunday still I will NOT call her back.
I really don't know what kind of a game this girl is trying to play now but I am starting to get over her. " Thge Holidays are making it rough as I had an engagement ring bought for her and she knew it. It's still laying aimlessly on my chest at home in the box.
I really miss talking to her but I can't stand the thought of going back and being her "friend" as all her other AFC ex boyfrineds are.
"She seems to think it's a good thing for us to do this but I DON'T.
Whjats this girls angle here and I guess I am looking for some reassurance that I am doing the right things here to get over this girl.
Funny thing is that this same goober shes with is doing ALL the wrong things to keep a girl around. He has pretty much given up his whole life because hes at her damn house everyday unless shes working and than hes back after work..LOL
Just when I thought he couldn't be any worse she told me last week that shes getting a new computer for Christmas. Yeah you guessed it "new boyfriend"...... I started thinking that maybe I should start doing this but I realized that it may seem great now but girls will get tired of this crap after a while as it would seem to get pretty boring. OPINIONSSSSSSS ANYONE?

Thanks for all the help guys without you all I would still be going insane and afraind to even GO OUT with anyone.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Avoid her - you are doing the right thing in the long run. You are not contemplating getting back with this girl after she has been getting whacked by this guy for two months, are you? Have some dignity and do not take her back although it pains you not to. If she was still interested in marriage , she would have never went out with a guy the day you broke up and she would of kept herself open to heal things and maybe return to you. Now she has regrets because she knows you are doing fine without her and she is unhappy and tormented by the separation. Don't take sloppy seconds after her live-in boyfriend. You'll meet a girl that will appreciate your manhood, but you must be patient and wait for the right one! Save your ring!

 

[badger04]

Rico man I hear what you are saying. 2 weeks ago this girl found out that I had bought a tanning bed business here and she even had the nerve to call up and ask if she gets to tan for free. I told her hell no that I really don't even want her as a PAYING customer. For some reason she didn't know how to take that.
In a sick and twisted way I am enjoying this because naturally shes a 9- 9-5 and every guy she treats like this will ALWAYS stay around as friends just to be able to talk to her and such. NOT ME.
She thought that she felt rejected before when we were dating because I wouldn't drop everything in my life for her.
She aint seen NOTHING YET!!!!!!!! I am moving on as quick as possible though. Spent 2-3 weeks nailing this really cute 8-8.5 girl until the "ex" heard that she was talking to someone and decided that he made a big mistage and came back. Oh well, no loss I guess they are back together. Strange thing I don't have any ill feelings at all towards this girl but the "ex" TOTALLLLLY DIFFERENT STORY. She screwed me over pretty good and I won't ever forget that.

 

[learningtopimp]

Don't talk to this ***** ever bro....and when you are in the club go holla at some new hoz and build your team...don't let her get u down or stop you. You have to remember you are the man, she should be grateful to have been with you, so don't give a **** about her.

 

[Walden]

If you want her back call her.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

In a strange way, she probably respects you more as a man now then when you were with her, because of your new, "I don't care about who you are with and what you are doing with your life" attitude . Girls hate this because they love attention, even though it is unwarranted. Don't be a chump and become friends with her - she would just manipulate the relationship to her advantage (as she is trying to do with the tanning situation). Move on to a brighter future and good luck in your business!

 

[NewMan]

Agreed. Don't crack.

I'm going through something similar - although not at the stage your at.

Just keep ignoring her - your doing the right thing bro.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

She's getting bored with her AFC boyfriend because he's all over her like flies on shiat!! You said it yourself, his car is ALWAYS there. In effect killing all the excitement and chase that is CRUCIAL to the beginning of a relationship. She's surprised that you haven't been sobbing like a little baby begging for her attention and its driving her crazy!!! Your doing the right thing by not calling her back. Trust me bro, she's not even into that guy that much, she's just like 95% of the women on this planet. They always like to have someone, they don't want to be alone. I can almost assure you that she's still into you and feeling like she blew a good thing.

If you were THAT serious with her and wanted her to be your wife then you might want to see if you can work things out. However I don't know the previous part of the story at all so keep that in mind.


PIMP