can you give me a ride after work?

[Starwolf]

Would you guys do this for a girl who's more a traditional type?

For instance She is 27 only had one BF who she broke up with cause he cheated

we went on 2 dates and also met a few time to go jogging.

was only able to get a kiss from her on the first date. (i didn't try on the second)

my gut tells me she has the typical nice guy strategy set for me... "String him along for 6 months and if he's still around give him some pooch" which i'm not interested in doing.

I want to escalate things a bit faster.. but after 2 dates and some casual meetings i'm thinking this is a sinking ship. i was already set to next her.

but yesterday she asked why i haven't talked to her these past days. ( i said i was bit busy with work etc) and today she texted me again asking if me if i can give her a ride home. ( haven't responded yet )

do you guys think i should just ignore her.. or do you have any tips how i can still escalate this into something more sexual.

 

[Yewki]

"Only if you pay for the drinks/food/whatever on the way"

Ideally if she agreed to grab a drink on the way back that could lead a good opportunity at her place.

 

[El Payaso]

"Sure. I'll drop you off on my way to Katie's house."

You need to get her hamster spinning...quickly.

THIS. There are only two people that should be dropping her off at work. A friend or her boyfriend that f*cks her brains out.

Do you want to be her "friend"? No, then tell her you're busy with something.

Are you her boyfriend? Still no, then tell her you're busy with something.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If you live on a Caribbean island, it can't be that long of a drive, right?

I'd probably give her a ride once, and ask her out again on the ride. On that date, bring it hardcore. Make it obvious you want to fvck her; you don't have to say that, but be touching her ass the entire date. Either she'll slap you and tell you that you two are just friends, or you'll fvck her. It's a win-win either way. If she says you are friends, then you don't have to waste any more time on her.

 

[Starwolf]

I was thinking of busting her *ss about that.

"Wow,already asking me to pick you up at work.. and here i thought u wanted to take things slow"

something like that.

But great tips. Thanks

 

[Igetit!]

First off,I agree with Bible_Belt...with the whole asking her out again and you make your SEXUAL INTEREST 100% clear to her. Now,with that said....


I noticed one of the other members here said that you need to get her "hamster wheel" spinning quickly. I do agree with him,but right now....honestly,I think it's YOUR HAMSTER WHEEL that needs to be put in check. There's a couple things you said that kinda stand out,that really,doesn't seem to go along with the apparent interest you seem to have in her.

For example....

we went on 2 dates and also met a few time to go jogging.

was only able to get a kiss from her on the first date.(i didn't try on the second)

See what you said right here? You said you went on TWO DATES....got a kiss from her on the first one,but not on the second....and in fact,you DIDN'T EVEN TRY to kiss her on the second.


If she kissed you,that's interest. If she went out on a SECOND DATE with you.....that's also interest.


You not getting a kiss on the second date,AFTER YOU WENT FOR THE KISS ON THE FIRST doesn't mean her interested dropped off or disappeared. You just didn't man up and go for it like you did the first time.

Surely you didn't expect her to initiate the kiss.....did you? And after YOU DID IT the first time?


Then you said this....

my gut tells me she has the typical nice guy strategy set for me... "String him along for 6 months and if he's still around give him some pooch" which i'm not interested in doing.

Question: Where did you get this from? Was it from not getting a kiss on the second date? I think it's YOUR hamster wheel that needs a rest......why would you think she's trying to string you along? The kiss not happening on the second date was your fault....not hers. You flat out said you didn't even try for the kiss.

How does YOU NOT GOING FOR THE KISS = her having a "nice guy strategy" laid out for you? And another thing.....

You said you met with her a few times AFTER THE TWO DATES to go jogging. So you've had MULTIPLE TIMES and opportunities....in addition to the FIRST DATE to escalate and make something happen.

If you plan to keep hanging out with her without even doing anything,dude...you're friendzone bound....and it WON'T BE her fault either. If you're not going to escalate and make something sexual happen,but yet...you CONTINUE to talk to,text,and go jogging with her,what other alternative is there besides friendship?

I want to escalate things a bit faster..

You want things to escalate faster,so naturally your plan was to NOT DO ANYTHING while out on the second date with her...

Huh???

but after 2 dates and some casual meetings i'm thinking this is a sinking ship. i was already set to next her.

Well if it is a sinking ship,YOU'RE THE ONE who steered it into the iceberg.

but yesterday she asked why i haven't talked to her these past days. ( i said i was bit busy with work etc) and today she texted me again asking if me if i can give her a ride home. ( haven't responded yet )

I would. And I'd be flirting,teasing,and making SLIGHT sexual comments/innuendos all along the way to her house. I'd also ask her out again. If she declines,or gives some BS excuse,then you may want to consider the next button.

do you guys think i should just ignore her.. or do you have any tips how i can still escalate this into something more sexual.

Well on the ignoring her thing.....NO...I wouldn't do that. She hasn't done anything to warrant that.....yet. Far as escalating into something sexual.....one,ask her out again. If she accepts and the date happens,two....TRY TO KISS HER THIS TIME.

 

[Meisterman]

Depends on the circumstance. Trust your gut, it usually is right.

Girls will try and see how much they can get away with from you. It's a sh*t test they do subconsciously. The more available you are, the more rides you give her, the more favors you do for her, etc. The less of a man she will see you as. It's unfortunate but that's the way it is.

On the plus side, it means that we become higher value in her book by basically doing nothing other than being selfish and focusing on ourselves. Which a DJ is always selfish, because selfish simply mean putting your needs in front of the girl's needs, which is exactly what you should be doing. You always come first in your mind, and she will notice this and treat you the same way that you value yourself

 

[mangotot]

Yeah do try the Katie line. If you have not had sex by the next 2 dates at the latest, she is out of your life. Bye Bye.

 

[Starwolf]

Damnn dude you analyzed the sh!t out of my post!!

apologies for the inconsistencies.. will add in the information i skipped

First off,I agree with Bible_Belt...with the whole asking her out again and you make your SEXUAL INTEREST 100% clear to her. Now,with that said....


I noticed one of the other members here said that you need to get her "hamster wheel" spinning quickly. I do agree with him,but right now....honestly,I think it's YOUR HAMSTER WHEEL that needs to be put in check. There's a couple things you said that kinda stand out,that really,doesn't seem to go along with the apparent interest you seem to have in her.

For example....





See what you said right here? You said you went on TWO DATES....got a kiss from her on the first one,but not on the second....and in fact,you DIDN'T EVEN TRY to kiss her on the second.

yep, didn'


If she kissed you,that's interest. If she went out on a SECOND DATE with you.....that's also interest.


You not getting a kiss on the second date,AFTER YOU WENT FOR THE KISS ON THE FIRST doesn't mean her interested dropped off or disappeared. You just didn't man up and go for it like you did the first time.

Surely you didn't expect her to initiate the kiss.....did you? And after YOU DID IT the first time?

Actually i tricked her into kissing me, she wanted me to give something back. i told her you'll get it after you give me a kiss


Then you said this....





Question: Where did you get this from? Was it from not getting a kiss on the second date? I think it's YOUR hamster wheel that needs a rest......why would you think she's trying to string you along? The kiss not happening on the second date was your fault....not hers. You flat out said you didn't even try for the kiss.


How does YOU NOT GOING FOR THE KISS = her having a "nice guy strategy" laid out for you? And another thing.....

I don't blame her for not kissing me. The reason i think she will string me along is because we got on the topic of dating and she was telling me how she only goes further after the first 5 to 6 months

You said you met with her a few times AFTER THE TWO DATES to go jogging. So you've had MULTIPLE TIMES and opportunities....in addition to the FIRST DATE to escalate and make something happen.

I actually met her while jogging, after this i asked her out

If you plan to keep hanging out with her without even doing anything,dude...you're friendzone bound....and it WON'T BE her fault either. If you're not going to escalate and make something sexual happen,but yet...you CONTINUE to talk to,text,and go jogging with her,what other alternative is there besides friendship?

noted

You want things to escalate faster,so naturally your plan was to NOT DO ANYTHING while out on the second date with her...

Huh???

The setting wasn't helping dude.. it was daytime.. we had a picnic at the beach..crowded and after that went for some ice cream..lots of kids around.

But i see your point ( don't go on dates where you can't escalate )





Well if it is a sinking ship,YOU'RE THE ONE who steered it into the iceberg.





I would. And I'd be flirting,teasing,and making SLIGHT sexual comments/innuendos all along the way to her house. I'd also ask her out again. If she declines,or gives some BS excuse,then you may want to consider the next button.

Well i picked her up.. and during the ride home she told me that she went to see 50 shades of gray so i got to ask some interesting questions and all the sexual teasing and flirting I could think off... didn't ask her out tho ..She has a cold, I don't want any of that!!

Well on the ignoring her thing.....NO...I wouldn't do that. She hasn't done anything to warrant that.....yet. Far as escalating into something sexual.....one,ask her out again. If she accepts and the date happens,two....TRY TO KISS HER THIS TIME.

Thanks for your thorough observation

No offense, but that's super lame.

Do not be the guy who's always making "subtle" implications about being together, fvckng, etc.

Leave that to the Betas.

Be a man, get that hamster spinning, and get her back to your place.

Remember...you don't have a chance with the hot girl UNTIL you hit it like a champ.

Ok got it, I didn't mention any of that to her.

 

[Yewki]

Yeah do try the Katie line.

I wouldn't do that. You don't just casually name drop someone out of no where who the other person has no idea about. No one does that. It's just common sense not to do that. It would obvious what you were trying to do IMO, at the very least weird. It's also lame to completely make up something like that, but we all draw different lines I suppose.

 

[stevo]

Actually i tricked her into kissing me, she wanted me to give something back. i told her you'll get it after you give me a kiss

Nope. You didn't "trick" her into doing something she didn't want to. She had high interest all along.

I don't blame her for not kissing me. The reason i think she will string me along is because we got on the topic of dating and she was telling me how she only goes further after the first 5 to 6 months

Nope, quit taking what she says as law, her action is clearly shouting louder.

The setting wasn't helping dude.. it was daytime.. we had a picnic at the beach..crowded and after that went for some ice cream..lots of kids around.

Always Fondle A Beech.
Grab that ass when no one is looking. Stare at the tits and let her catch you staring then give her a "imma fcuk you" smile.
Even if its a memorial service, fondle the beech. Give her a tight hug or something. Hold her hands or something. Just do something.

Well i picked her up.. and during the ride home she told me that she went to see 50 shades of gray so i got to ask some interesting questions and all the sexual teasing and flirting I could think off... didn't ask her out tho ..She has a cold, I don't want any of that!!

Something is wrong.

You either don't know what you want from her

You either don't like the girl

You either don't know how to go for what you want

or

You think you're doing everything right.

You are driving yourself into friend zone valley. Why?