Originally posted by jhs
theres a catch 22. maybe you got sh1t tested with the friend zone and failed miserably by splitting and not showing any persistence. in this case refer to tip A: "dont do it again!"
If he got shyt-tested with her telling him she just wanted to be friends, how can you say that he failed miserably by not showing persistence? Don't you think that him being persistent AFTER her telling him this would be persived by her as being needy? If she were indeed testing him, which i doubt, I would say he passed that test by not calling her anymore and by demonstrating that he really doesn't care what happens...
I dated this girl a few times a couple of months ago. I would really consider myself an AFC at that point as it was before i found this great forum. I thought we had something going and that she really liked me. But then on one date I noticed that something changed. She no longer seemed as interested as before, which ofcourse
, made me reveal that I had started to develop feelings for her. Yeah I know...stupid. Her reply was that she thought she was interested in me, but found that she was only interested in me as a friend afterall. I told her too bad and we stopped meeting for a while. Then one night, not too long ago I met her at this club. We were both very happy to see eachother and I kissed her. She kissed me back (more intensively than she had before). I told her it was great that we were just going to be friends, 'cause I really liked her....as a friend. My agenda was to give her mixed signals and to show her that i didn't need her and was more than happy to just have her as a friend. Later that same night she texted me saying that she had a great time tonight but didn't know what she felt, but that she hoped I hadn't lost completely interest in her. And that she really cared about me. I replied by saying "We'll see what happens.."
Not sure how to play this one out yet, but I haven't contacted her again after that. I think I can actually turn this around by applying the things I have now learnt from this site. I know she feels attraction towards me, but I think my desperation must have been obvious. I recently became single and my skills suck at this point. I didn't intend to write all this, but I think that there is a possibility to turn things around, but it may not always be worth the hazzle. If you think you can, try it. If not, next her!