brandon182
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I found this website about 3 months ago and thought it to be very educational. It wasn’t all 100% new to me because I guess you could say I was born part DJ. Not all DJ, and definitely not MDJ status, but I am ahead of a lot of other guys.
There are some definite things I need to fix though. The hugest one is “vomiting” my feelings all over girls because I can’t stand not having a definitive answer to things. This was the downfall of my relationship before last and contributed to the fall of my last one.
So what’s my question?
First a bit of background. I met a girl last year, an attractive Asian girl. She had a boyfriend at the time and I didn’t want to pursue her, and after we met I didn’t really see her much. (Maybe 10 times the whole year.)
Jump to this year: My friend happens to see her one day and mentioned that she should hang out with me. I had no idea he did this, but I had a couple of conversations with her and we decided to go to the gym together. I initiated some minor flirting and she responded with some of her own.
Well after about two weeks @ the gym together, I discover that she is still with this boyfriend of hers (BTW he lives 2 hours away). The next day we are talking and I get her to tell me she wants me over in her house to have ****tails and watch TV. I’m thinking “So, uhh, where the heck is this boyfriend at?” After the ****tails, we went in her room later to watch TV and I tried to make a few innocent moves on her but she kept finding ways to get out of each one. Try and put my arm around her she gets up to change the channel type of thing.
Meanwhile, I got people asking me everyday what is going on between me and this girl since we have been doing stuff together for almost three weeks now.
This is the where the vomiting occurs. In a mildly drunken stupor, I tell her that I am interested in her, specifically saying the words “I like you” and then ask her how she feels about me. The atomic bombshell drops and she says that she only wants to be friends. Not feeling to happy about being stuck in the friendzone, I ask her about the flirting and she says she was sorry if she was ever leading me on. On top of that she tells me that nothing could happen anyway, because she has a boyfriend right now.
Obviously I made the mistake of letting this chick know what I was feeling. Lessoned learned this time.
Boyfriend or not, I’m pretty sure this girl has interest in me. Does anyone agree? Why else would someone want to constantly be around me? Oh yea, add the fact that only one night after she said she wasn’t interested, I saw her at a party, talked a little bit, and she ended up coming back to my place. We (very sexually) danced in my room and almost kissed but she stopped herself.
I let her sleep on the floor.
That night that she came over was 3 days ago. Since then I have not initiated any form of contact between us. Although she started talking to me twice.
So at this point in time, what are my options?
PS I enlisted myself in boot camp right now. Still on Excersise #1
There are some definite things I need to fix though. The hugest one is “vomiting” my feelings all over girls because I can’t stand not having a definitive answer to things. This was the downfall of my relationship before last and contributed to the fall of my last one.
So what’s my question?
First a bit of background. I met a girl last year, an attractive Asian girl. She had a boyfriend at the time and I didn’t want to pursue her, and after we met I didn’t really see her much. (Maybe 10 times the whole year.)
Jump to this year: My friend happens to see her one day and mentioned that she should hang out with me. I had no idea he did this, but I had a couple of conversations with her and we decided to go to the gym together. I initiated some minor flirting and she responded with some of her own.
Well after about two weeks @ the gym together, I discover that she is still with this boyfriend of hers (BTW he lives 2 hours away). The next day we are talking and I get her to tell me she wants me over in her house to have ****tails and watch TV. I’m thinking “So, uhh, where the heck is this boyfriend at?” After the ****tails, we went in her room later to watch TV and I tried to make a few innocent moves on her but she kept finding ways to get out of each one. Try and put my arm around her she gets up to change the channel type of thing.
Meanwhile, I got people asking me everyday what is going on between me and this girl since we have been doing stuff together for almost three weeks now.
This is the where the vomiting occurs. In a mildly drunken stupor, I tell her that I am interested in her, specifically saying the words “I like you” and then ask her how she feels about me. The atomic bombshell drops and she says that she only wants to be friends. Not feeling to happy about being stuck in the friendzone, I ask her about the flirting and she says she was sorry if she was ever leading me on. On top of that she tells me that nothing could happen anyway, because she has a boyfriend right now.
Obviously I made the mistake of letting this chick know what I was feeling. Lessoned learned this time.
Boyfriend or not, I’m pretty sure this girl has interest in me. Does anyone agree? Why else would someone want to constantly be around me? Oh yea, add the fact that only one night after she said she wasn’t interested, I saw her at a party, talked a little bit, and she ended up coming back to my place. We (very sexually) danced in my room and almost kissed but she stopped herself.
I let her sleep on the floor.
That night that she came over was 3 days ago. Since then I have not initiated any form of contact between us. Although she started talking to me twice.
So at this point in time, what are my options?
PS I enlisted myself in boot camp right now. Still on Excersise #1
