Can you break this down? Not easy...but a slut? What?

[Game617]

I met a woman. We had lunch. A couple of drinks. After half an hour or so while we were on the way home I saw an opening, made my move, and starting making out with her passionately on the sidewalk. I say let's go back to your place...She says no. She has to go to a friends house up the street. At this point when I go to feel her ass she is completely anal about it and pushes my hand away.

Third date. I have a range of options and ideas on what we can do. We go to the park, walk, sit on the bench and talk. About her family, her background, what we want in life etc. We're kissing and making out. We go out for dinner, great food, then head back to her place. She's sitting on the sofa and I'm next to her. I'm kissing her, feeling her up....when I reach her thighs, she pushes my hand away.

I don't let it phase me. A short while later she's laying on the bed...she pushes my hand away. I don't let it phase me. In all, she ends up telling me...that we have all night. Slowly kissing and caressing her it took me a half hour to undress her. She made it a process lol. (Believe me many guys would have fking snapped)

A couple of weeks later she tells me she wants to be my girl. I really like her and I agree. I've met all of her friends. Met her mom and all of that.

Here is the question....it was so anal trying to sleep with her. A total pain in the ass. She didn't exactly make it easy. Yet, I suspect that she may be a slut and/or sleeping around. Let me elaborate.

We start the relationship and she tells me she has a male friend visiting from out of state. She'd like to catch up with him etc. I'm cool with that. Then she mentions casually he'd be staying at her place. As we were laying in bed she tells me she doesn't want to break up over it, what do I want her to do, she will have him stay at a hotel etc. SO she's expecting to spend basically two days alone with this dude....

I mention that we can all go out Friday night. She says, oh, he might be tired from jet lag and want to stay at the hotel...

WHAT IM SAYING IS, LOOKING BACK THE CHICK WASN'T EASY. WHAT IS YOUR TAKE ON THIS?


WTF???????

For example, do women classify men as relationship/booty call then act accordingly? Are they looking for one man just to fk them hard and use them, and another to love them? What do you guys think? How do you see the situation?


(As far as me and her that basically killed it for me. I'm spinning other plates. Seeing other women. But I'm still talking to her. Otherwise she's a nice woman. But way i see it, fk her.)

 

[muscleman]

Maybe lost interest a little. Wants to be your girl after 2 weeks and you agree? You can drag it out for a lot longer. Also, I've noticed from my experience that heavy ASD/LMR is a sign of lower interest - she's still gauging your 'alphaness'. Some girls will of course wait for date 2/3 before sleeping with you even if they're interested (and quite possibly because they like like you), but they won't make it THAT hard. I know what you're talking about, I've been through LMR hell and back. That stopped a couple years ago, very little resistance from girls now. Maybe I've just gotten good, who knows.

Point is, I don't think she's all that interested in you if she's got some dude coming over and crashing at her place for a couple days AND you're technically exclusive. Maybe you should take a look at my take on monogamy.

You're doing the right thing by seeing other women and mentally writing her off. If she's a good lay, she can be a legit plate, but nothing more.

 

[Epimanes]

Anything easy is not worth keeping.

 

[Fatal Jay]

You answered your own question with that last paragraph, they have bad boys to screw them good guys for potential ltr

 

[BabyFaceComplex]

She would of made up her mind what she wanted from you on the 1st date, she sounds like a ****ing headcase, the one thing that ****ing cracks me more than anything is girls who try hold out on the 1st date like you are an idiot, sometimes I dont see them again, sometimes I take them on a full date bang them, be nice to them bang them once more then never talk to them again.

She wants you to be her lap dog.

 

[Fly By Night]

We start the relationship and she tells me she has a male friend visiting from out of state. She'd like to catch up with him etc. I'm cool with that. Then she mentions casually he'd be staying at her place. As we were laying in bed she tells me she doesn't want to break up over it, what do I want her to do, she will have him stay at a hotel etc. SO she's expecting to spend basically two days alone with this dude....

"She'd like to catch up with him" was her trying to see how much she could get away from it. You complied, now she started to see how much further she could go. "she mentions casually he'd be staying at her place." She said it like it was no big deal, but she tried to mask it up at first by saying they were just going to "catch up."

Now if you had made a big deal out of her catching up with this guy, do you really think she would have told you he was going to spend the night?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Y'know, I notice a lot of guys on this site jump to immediate conclusions about girls that just aren't true.

You ever stop to think that maybe - just MAYBE - girls have more than just girl "friends" in their lives? That maybe a close friend of hers from out of state that just happens to be a guy wants to come and visit while he's in town, and would rather stay at his friends' place than spend money on a hotel if he doesn't have to?

You guys really need to stop and think about the entire perspective before immediately going the "oh, she has a guy staying over so she must be a slvt" route.

Real talk, most of my friends growing up were women, all the way through college. So, on occasion, I may want to visit one of them to catch up with them and see what's been going on. I'm not interested in getting with these girls (I have other interests occupying my time now), so if I visit them I'm not interested in hooking up with them.

I say all that to say: to the OP, quick your belly-aching. What your question really shows is a lack in confidence on your part to be able to keep a girl's interest even when she's around another guy, as well as a huge gaping hole in the trust you have in this girl.

At the end of the day, you can only go so far in terms of monitoring and/or controlling who your girl hangs around and what she does with them. You need to have the mindset that one of two things will happen should dude stay with her: she'll either do nothing with him and you'll keep her around and be fine with it; or, she'll sleep with him, you'll find out about it, dump her, find another girl to date and be fine with it.

In either case, you need to be confident that, regardless of how the situation would pan out, you'll be fine at the end of the day. But good grief, have some confidence in the chick, maaaaaan!