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You can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed. If they don't seem that their world lives or dies based on themselves, they won't change. It's like hypnosis, you must first be willing to be hypnotized to enable your brain enough acceptance to open up to suggestion.
Women want to be independent because they've been told they can't do anything with a man by their side. What they don't realize is that they can't do anything WITHOUT a man by their side.
Moreover...
When did the values of possessions become greater than the value of experiences?
When did hedonism, selfishness, squandry, deceit, emotional-detachment become of greater value than those of truth, honor, determination, love and support?
When did a career become more important than your role and duty to other people, a role higher than yourself?
When did a woman's career become MORE important than her role as mother and wife? [I'd say raising lives for over 18 years and then some takes more skill, committment, and more respect, than getting a degree and being a sales manager].
I was going through some historical stuff related to the Declaration of Independence. The reason we founded the US was to escape the treacherous grasp of England and its tyrannical ways. Yet, in a more subtle position, don't we have the same situation? It's as if we've become so arrogant to believe the US democratic system is the best and that no matter, each being brought to life should life in SOME system. Since when?
Men of those times sought honor, truth, valor, justice, purpose. If they saw a reason to act, knew they should, no matter what, they did. They didn't care about the consequences. They didn't think "what will my family, friends, society think? what about my job, career, bank account?"
Who do young men look to today? Doing something of sacrifice and valor doesn't make you a man, supposedly you're a chump?
In total, its a symbiotic collapse that brought about the change in men and women. Women stopped surrendering to mens' will when men stopped being truthful, honest, courageous, determined, resolute. All the principles and reason why you respect and admire a man. Look around...do you respect men? If given a chance, would a man cheat? (Just b/c a woman would cheat, doesn't condone his automatic response to cheat...is he so programmed to react to her choices?)
If women don't believe marriage is worth it, which is usually due to the fact she doesn't believe a man is worth staying with forever or giving up some freedoms, most notably free sex, then isn't she basically saying she doesn't value men? Or a committed relationship? Where do people get these values? If you say in silence, and meditated, and listened to your own voice, what would it say?
Would it say, sleep with as many chicks, risk STDS, financial strife over a potential pregnancy, and emotional discord by sleeping with numerous people and only casually knowing someone, OR would it say, keep your head, stick to your guns, and be honest??
I've been through numerous cases...and there's a difference between KNOWING and FEELING/TASTING. See...we guys all know STDS exist. We know pregnancies are possible. We know AIDS is growing...but does that stop men, or women from sleeping around? You don't know anything until you FEEL/TASTE it, and consequently respect it.
Many of us KNOW smoking causes CANCER, but until you're lying in a bed, dying from what you KNEW, you don't know it. Sure you know it like you know historical facts, but it doesn't mean it strikes your emotional cord and calls you to action. If people really felt that way about smoking, or being fat, or relationships, they'd be called to action and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. They'd get motivated, they'd get pissed, they'd ACT.
It's like guys here KNOW chicks don't like wussies. They know women aren't much of anything except our opposite and so what? Yet, they fear certain things about them, about life. Why? Life is but a flash of brilliance...and then BAM, lights out. It's like a flick of a lighswitch, where you get a glimpse of what is possible, and then out you go. So...why care about the small details? Serious...if a 2 year relationship ends...so what? It's not that it should matter, but we tug on so many things that have no meaning in the grandest scheme of things.
A-Unit