can someone tell me where i went wrong here...(text convo)

[Packers2010]

I met this girl at the weekend ( in the club) and things went great. ( i wont bore you with all the details... though we have a lot in common and I got her number early on so i thought this was a solid close)

I texted her over the weekend and here is our convo. at some point I fooked it up. i need to know where... though the first cople of messages seam solid to me. must be the end message no?

ME: hey, what was the name of that porn star you was talking about I'm ready to go but i need a little insperation

( we was talking about porn stars in the club lols)

her: hahahah I just got home!! james dean!!! X

Me: james dean is a 50's actor! you got them confused again girl! ( this line is good)

why are we talking with so many !!!!!! my head is hurting!!! ( this one is not)

her: hahahah! i swear there is a porn star called james dean... I dunno! but i always use them!!!! hahahah! X

me: I don't believe you! you will have to show me...though after our dinner, I don't want to be eating during the money shot.

her: hahahahahahah!! oh god grosssssssssssss... but i will show you!! and you will be like damn girl you was right!

me:: great! put it up on the big screan and I'll bring the loation. ( love this line, only because it makes me laugh. )

I'm think ( i can't spell) friday for dinner ( good thing about this is it's my friends birthday so i can't make it) say 7 what wine goes with curry?

Hint: it rhymes with beer


she didn't text back after that... the only problem i see with this convo is the ! that are EVERYWHERE my god...

other than it seams solid to me. I haven't tried to re open her over text yet. I was going to give it another shot... could say something like i watched the porni guy and it was good or something... I don't know.. .what you guys think?

 

[Beetlesales]

The problem is you're retarded. Simple as that.

Your spelling is horrific, so she didn't understand what you sent at the end. Your game is also weak as water.. Those lines were garbage.

You seriously need to consider a GED.

 

[Hmm]

No need to have a funny line in every reply...geez just act normal and say some funny stuff once in a while otherwise you just look like a try hard.

 

[POFNinja]

I met this girl at the weekend ( in the club) and things went great. ( i wont bore you with all the details... though we have a lot in common and I got her number early on so i thought this was a solid close)

I texted her over the weekend and here is our convo. at some point I fooked it up. i need to know where... though the first cople of messages seam solid to me. must be the end message no?

ME: hey, what was the name of that porn star you was talking about I'm ready to go but i need a little insperation

( we was talking about porn stars in the club lols)

her: hahahah I just got home!! james dean!!! X

Me: james dean is a 50's actor! you got them confused again girl! ( this line is good)

why are we talking with so many !!!!!! my head is hurting!!! ( this one is not)

her: hahahah! i swear there is a porn star called james dean... I dunno! but i always use them!!!! hahahah! X

me: I don't believe you! you will have to show me...though after our dinner, I don't want to be eating during the money shot.

her: hahahahahahah!! oh god grosssssssssssss... but i will show you!! and you will be like damn girl you was right!

me:: great! put it up on the big screan and I'll bring the loation. ( love this line, only because it makes me laugh. )

I'm think ( i can't spell) friday for dinner ( good thing about this is it's my friends birthday so i can't make it) say 7 what wine goes with curry?

Hint: it rhymes with beer


she didn't text back after that... the only problem i see with this convo is the ! that are EVERYWHERE my god...

other than it seams solid to me. I haven't tried to re open her over text yet. I was going to give it another shot... could say something like i watched the porni guy and it was good or something... I don't know.. .what you guys think?

You met a chick from a club who's used to dudes being thirsty and h0rny after a night at the club and you jump right into talking about p0rn thinking you're somehow "different" in her eyes?

You should talk about other things if she even responds to you anymore or else you are the typical thirsty club dude who she shares your texts with her friends while they laugh.

 

[Krueg]

The problem is texting/talking to her too soon!!

You come off as easy and desperate calling back too soon. She has to wonder about you! Second, you talked to her just to B.S. You only talk to her to strictly set-up a date, long talks lead to friendship! You can "talk" when your on the date.

 

[Packers2010]

The problem is texting/talking to her too soon!!

You come off as easy and desperate calling back too soon. She has to wonder about you! Second, you talked to her just to B.S. You only talk to her to strictly set-up a date, long talks lead to friendship! You can "talk" when your on the date.

ok. having this siad, how would you have set up the date?

I think 4 messages is short enough to set it up. i can't just open with:

hey "remember me from the club lets go out" or should i?

 

[Packers2010]

You met a chick from a club who's used to dudes being thirsty and h0rny after a night at the club and you jump right into talking about p0rn thinking you're somehow "different" in her eyes?

You should talk about other things if she even responds to you anymore or else you are the typical thirsty club dude who she shares your texts with her friends while they laugh.

I only used the porn thing becuse it was funny at the time and she would remember it...

it just happened to be on the topic of porn, could have been on anything it just happend to be on that. I'm not trying to be sexual here that wasn't my intentions.

 

[Serenity]

If I'm ever closing a girl in a club I make damn sure she won't forget, and this is not always a simple thing. It can be done though. The best thing I've heard is "you don't really give a sh!t do you?" and "I'm fvcked, but I can't stop". If you get that kind of response you've got green lights on club chicks, just having a normal conversation won't get them. Even if the topic is porn.

 

[Tomo]

her: hahahah I just got home!! james dean!!! X

...

her: hahahah! i swear there is a porn star called james dean... I dunno! but i always use them!!!! hahahah! X

I've found when girls leave an 'X', it's a sign for 'I don't want to talk to you, atleast for now, please let the convo die'. This is when you back off and buzz them a few days later when they've got their head around you especially if it was low IL at first.

The problem now is if you double message her in a few days, it's you doing the chasing and she has all the power although at current, she probably has nexted you already.

 

[Thatdude8708]

Bruh, just be normal. All of that funny **** gets lame pretty quick as I have found that its better to just text her like you would anyone else I mean you can be funny, but this is just over doing it

 

[Harry Wilmington]

HOW I WOULD HAVE ASKED HER OUT (Based on my high success rate of getting first dates):

1. Make a good impression at the bar/club/party

2. Talk to her for 10 to 15 minutes MAX

3. Tell her you're about to leave, then say, "oh yeah, real quick, let me get your number" and hand her the phone

4. Leave immediately after

5. Wait 4 days to ask her out. During this time, no text, no calls, no contact from me until day 4.

6. On day 4, call her up (no texting) and say "Hey x, this is so-and-so, we met at y-place a few days ago". If she says: "Oh, hey (name), I know who you are, lol, glad to hear from you," etc., it indicates high interest (girls who have high interest can remember meeting you 4 days ago, much in the same way YOU are remembering HER - it goes both ways). If she says: ""Um... I'm sorry, who is this again," I hang up immediately - she didn't remember me, so even if she has a moderate interest in me it's going to be harder to increase it.

7. Ask her out on a date. Mention a place you want to take her, and give her the option of choosing between 2 different days pre-selected by you, i.e. "I wanted to go see this movie, and was hoping you'd be free Tuesday or Thursday to go with me."

8. Make the convo short - you don't need to spend a whole bunch of time on the phone with her building rapport; that's what the date is for. Heck, start the convo off with either "So, I don't want to take up too much of your time" (so she'll know she's not going to be trapped in some long-winded convo with a guy she just met); or "So, I'm about to run a few errands so I don't have too long to talk, but..." (so she'll feel the same way as the previous statement, plus she'll be interested in what those errands are, which - if she likes you and wants to know more about you - she'll ask you about on the date).

And that's pretty much it. "Follow these rules, you'll have mad chicks to take out/If not, solo again, with your hand out..."

 

[hudpes]

Can you explain it to me, like you would to a younger brother, why do you think it was a good move to continue a conversation via texts with a girl you intend to take out on a date? It seems like you had a dinner date already set up, or was it more like "let's have a dinner some time"? Again, explain to me why a dinner date for first date? Why is a drink a lesser option?

Endless talking is what girlfriends do, men rip pvssy. Now what do you want to be?

 

[Krueg]

ok. having this siad, how would you have set up the date?

I think 4 messages is short enough to set it up. i can't just open with:

hey "remember me from the club lets go out" or should i?

You: Hey this is Packers, we met the other night, how are you?
Her: I'm sorry who?
You: Oh, sorry got the wrong number. CLICK!

OR

You: Hey this is Packers from the other night!
Her: Oh Packers, I was wondering if you would call.
You: This thrusday night I was thinking about going bowling, How about I pick you up around 7.
Her: Sounds great, heres my address...

Boom Low vs High Interest. If she hesitates or trys to change your date she isnt interested.. Next!

 

[Packers2010]

her IL wasn't that high. You did fine, not perfect but good enough for a girl with decent IL to swallow. The girl was going to ignore you as soon as you asked for the hangout regardless. If anything maybe you could have waited even longer to actually schedule the date...that's something Im noticing off of online dating at least...rapport building(none in a non-needy way) is pretty important with *some* women(on Tinder anyway, and a club is like real life Tinder since its the same slvts). Also, never ask for friday or saturday night for a first date. I avoid the weekends altogether if I can.

thanks ma this was helpfull

 

[Packers2010]

I've found when girls leave an 'X', it's a sign for 'I don't want to talk to you, atleast for now, please let the convo die'. This is when you back off and buzz them a few days later when they've got their head around you especially if it was low IL at first.

The problem now is if you double message her in a few days, it's you doing the chasing and she has all the power although at current, she probably has nexted you already.

i always thought it was best to strike while the iron was hot... i don't think 3 days later she will remember me.. though let alone care

 

[Packers2010]

HOW I WOULD HAVE ASKED HER OUT (Based on my high success rate of getting first dates):

1. Make a good impression at the bar/club/party

2. Talk to her for 10 to 15 minutes MAX

3. Tell her you're about to leave, then say, "oh yeah, real quick, let me get your number" and hand her the phone

4. Leave immediately after

5. Wait 4 days to ask her out. During this time, no text, no calls, no contact from me until day 4.

6. On day 4, call her up (no texting) and say "Hey x, this is so-and-so, we met at y-place a few days ago". If she says: "Oh, hey (name), I know who you are, lol, glad to hear from you," etc., it indicates high interest (girls who have high interest can remember meeting you 4 days ago, much in the same way YOU are remembering HER - it goes both ways). If she says: ""Um... I'm sorry, who is this again," I hang up immediately - she didn't remember me, so even if she has a moderate interest in me it's going to be harder to increase it.

7. Ask her out on a date. Mention a place you want to take her, and give her the option of choosing between 2 different days pre-selected by you, i.e. "I wanted to go see this movie, and was hoping you'd be free Tuesday or Thursday to go with me."

8. Make the convo short - you don't need to spend a whole bunch of time on the phone with her building rapport; that's what the date is for. Heck, start the convo off with either "So, I don't want to take up too much of your time" (so she'll know she's not going to be trapped in some long-winded convo with a guy she just met); or "So, I'm about to run a few errands so I don't have too long to talk, but..." (so she'll feel the same way as the previous statement, plus she'll be interested in what those errands are, which - if she likes you and wants to know more about you - she'll ask you about on the date).

And that's pretty much it. "Follow these rules, you'll have mad chicks to take out/If not, solo again, with your hand out..."

this is ok.. though you might forget.. I am 24... and these are club sluts... I think waiting for days is too long... 2 maybe... but i just text the next day so i am fresh in her mind...

 

[Packers2010]

Can you explain it to me, like you would to a younger brother, why do you think it was a good move to continue a conversation via texts with a girl you intend to take out on a date? It seems like you had a dinner date already set up, or was it more like "let's have a dinner some time"? Again, explain to me why a dinner date for first date? Why is a drink a lesser option?

Endless talking is what girlfriends do, men rip pvssy. Now what do you want to be?

woah woah woah... dinner date? nar man.. was just going to chill and shoot pool. lol...

dinner date? what am i 40?

I'm not much of a drinker.. but yes.. I would take drinks over dinner. in my mind... dinner is something bf and gf do.. not people who are still feeling each other out... you know..

 

[Packers2010]

You: Hey this is Packers, we met the other night, how are you?
Her: I'm sorry who?
You: Oh, sorry got the wrong number. CLICK!

OR

You: Hey this is Packers from the other night!
Her: Oh Packers, I was wondering if you would call.
You: This thrusday night I was thinking about going bowling, How about I pick you up around 7.
Her: Sounds great, heres my address...

Boom Low vs High Interest. If she hesitates or trys to change your date she isnt interested.. Next!

I like this.. I like this alot...

I though she had intrest... maybe it just wasn't enough.. .


PSA: sorry for the 1000 of late replies... i really didn't think anyone would reply in this thread... community has become stronger since i left.

 

[annabanana19]

Hey! I think she might still like you. Don't know unless you try talking to her again - has anything happened since?

 

[pyros]

why so many ppl here saying that if a girl ignores your text/call, flakes, says 'maybe' to a date etc, you should give it another try???? what are you crazy?

Females are not that complicated, at least in this aspect. If you offer to hang out and they do not say 'yes' it is just because of two reasons:
a) not interested in you.
b) interested but seing another dude at the moment. (bf, ex bf, fwb...)

In any case there is no point in asking her out again. If it was b) she may contact you once she's done with the other dude, or...you may shoot her a text IN A COUPLE OF MONTHS just to see if something changed but besides this, you do nothing, if she did not say 'yes' you forget about her.

And this is final, cause if you dont, then you'll start a few threads here in different times asking why she keeps talking to you, why she said 'maybe next week im free', but no dates come your way.