Can Someone elaborate on responding to a woman's emotions?

[Black Sunshine]

Wow,I haven't seen this thread in like 5000 years.
It's an oldie,and a goodie. There isn't a "Top Ten" list of things not to do with a woman,or if there is,I don't know about it. I was just saying "if" there were one,the being her therapist would be #2. Number one should be obvious....which is being her friend. Yep,the classic friendzone.

Sometimes when a relationship seems to be going downhill or falling apart it's hard to determine exactly why it's happening. So what I do is look at the girl's behavior. If her behavior is different(and I mean vastly different) from the way it was when you two first started dating,that means that somewhere down the line your behavior changed first.
The way you normally act and behave towards a woman who you don't know,but have an interest in,is different from the way you behave towards a woman who you've been dating for a while. So as time goes by,your behavior towards her changed,therefore,her behavior changes as well because her behavior is a reaction to the way you treat her.

You approach a girl as an afc,she reacts with rejection,friendzone,and/or snotty behavior.

You approach a girl as a Man/confident/****iness,she reacts with attraction/IOIs.

The most COMMON problem we guys have when it comes to relationship is that we originally get the girl through one type of behavior,then once we get her,we stop doing what we were doing in the beginning,so she stops FEELING the ways she was FEELING at the beginning. Then when her behavior changes,we look at her like she's crazy.

To me,maintaining a relationship is like driving a car. In order to drive a car,you need gas. But you don't put gas in a car ONE TIME,then drive forever. You have to do it over and over again. It's the same way with a relationship:you don't generate chemistry in a woman one time,then expect her to be happy forever. You do it over and over again. You generating chemistry in a woman once,not doing it again,and expecting her to be happy,is like her having sex with you once,not planning on doing it again,then expecting you to be happy in the relationship. It doesn't work that way. The difference is it's easy to know if there's no sex in a relationship,but the only way to tell if a woman's chemistry/attraction level is getting low is when she starts acting strange.

So what's the solution to this? Back to the basics. Start treating her the same way you'd treat a woman who you don't know,but who you're interested in.....BUT do it a little at a time. Don't do it all at once. If you do,she'll think you're bi-polar,crazy or something. And don't say anything to her about it. You,by yourself,on your own,YOU do these things. What will happen is her attraction level for you will rise,but she won't know why it's happening,she'll just be glad it's happening.

Awesome

 

[Black Sunshine]

Awesome

 

[Lotus Effect]

Bout time an easy question showed up. Alright man,listen up:
Using logic to a woman's emotions doesn't work. It's useless,futile. The reason why is because emotions are not rational. They don't make sense.
If a woman feels a certain way,then you try to explain to her why shouldn't feel that way,it won't change anything. It's like this with ALL kinds of feelings. Let me give you an example:Let's say you go to a buffet,and eat all your stomach can hold. You eat 10 slices of pizza,3 salads,4 bowls of spaghetti,5 buscuits,2 cinnamon rolls,and drink 4 glassas of soda.

Then you go home,and a hour and a half later you say to your friend,"I feel hungry". Now,the first thing your friend is going to do is look at you like you're crazy. Then,what is he going to do? He's going to go down the list to you of ALL the things you just ate. He's going to say,"What? You just ate 10 slices of pizza,4 bowls of spaghetti,3 salads,etc. Ok,now why is he doing this,why is he telling you about all the food you just ate? It's because all of these foods he's telling you about are reasons you shouldn't be hungry.
He's naming off reasons why you shouldn't "feel" hungry. You get it?
He's giving you reasons why you shouldn't feel hungry,but guess what? Once he gets finished going down the list of reasons,you're not going to turn to him and go,"Yeah,you're right. What was I thinking? I'm glad you straightened me out. Thanks". It doesn't work that way.

If that's how you feel,then that's how you feel. If I go outside when it's 90 degrees,and I say I feel cold,then that's how I feel. You can tell me all day long about how hot it is,and how the sun is out shining,and how everyone else walking around in shorts,tanktops,and how they're drenched in sweat,but once you get finished going down the list of reasons why I shouldn't feel cold,I'm not going to say to you,"Yeah,yeah.You're right. Everybody else is in shorts,the sun is out shining,and people are sweating like crazy. Alright,you've convinced me. You win. I won't feel cold anymore."

You see what I'm saying? You cannot LOGICALLY talk a woman out of how she feels. If that were the case,then you could logically explain to a woman why she shouldn't be in a relationship with a man who beats her and abused her. Or with a guy who cheats on her repeatedly,putting her health at risk.
We've all seen situations like those before,and usually when you try to help women in matters like these,what happens? They ignore your logical,sound advice,and keep following their feelings,sometimes to their death.

Those emotions ain't no joke.

Well,this was the best I could explain this emotion/logic topic.

Hope this helps.

Jesus effing Christ man. I have no idea how I found this, but thank the lord I found it.

It is the most cristal clear advice on logic vs emotions that I have ever read! My god!

Side story:

Yesterday, a chick friend of mine, come up to my place and begun giving me off reasons on why we shouldnt do it, that she was a mess, she would treat me bad as she does with all men, that she was really getting to like me, and she knew the moment we hooked up she was going to f it up, so she rather not risk it in favour of a whim of desire and hornyness.

I'm schooled, but for the first I don't know, 3 minutes or so, I said do whatever, i like hanging with you, you are a cool chick, and crazy as a mothereffer, and that Id actually would like to see her trying to hurt me, hahaha. And proceed to further develop more reasons like, I'm friends with my past girl, and so if we try and it does not work out, we are grown ups, we could handle.

And then I saw the iron growing colder.

And then it struck me. Why the f I'm trying to logic convince her that we should make out.
The chick was in my turff, it was 9PM, she come to me to try and rationalize stuff.

And by the hand of god, I turned off blabla mode, and said 'sit here', just like a fvcking dog. She did.
Then I asked. My effing charm got you right. She complied.

She was eating yogurt. By the time she finished, I said, 'are you done with that? Allright, let me do this.'
And just went for the kiss. And we had this crazy makeout session throuhgh my whole place.

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Bottomline. There is no logic and reasoning with women. This only works for man.

And this advice given by Igetit, is perfect for our manly brain to understand.

14 years later I say, congrats dude!

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Never take anything a woman says at face value.