Can I pull it off at 34?

[Stephen89]

I'm 31 and at work where I work with the public, I approach and converse with a lot of women and sometimes even ask them out as my work mates challenge me. It takes a lot of steel.

I am looking to purchase a good car next year and I am making money on the side where I will eventually quit my job to focus on that full time and earn even more, this job is really for stability purposes and given the situation, I consider myself lucky to have a job and earning.

I am getting my confidence, social skills up big time. I have read a lot of pick up artist material, theory.

I will approach women now and online dating is just ridiculously hard, I've had limited success of pof, match, tinder, maybe its something to do with my profile as my pics are top notch.

If I am 34, well dressed, keep myself in shape, have a good social life, earning very well, have my own place, by this time my confidence and social skills be very enhanced, would I still be able to pull off having a relationship? Maybe getting someone 6-7 years younger? I know some people who pulled off someone who is 10 years younger. I will be earning well which is a big bonus, even two sources of incomes.

 

[crosscheck1331]

I believe you can brother. I think in the future you will write post after reflecting on how far you've come and even laugh at whatever "difficulties" once existed. Good luck

 

[Romanemp22]

Why not, age doesn't mean nothing really rather what you are and what can you offer.

 

[Lookatu]

If I am 34, well dressed, keep myself in shape, have a good social life, earning very well, have my own place, by this time my confidence and social skills be very enhanced, would I still be able to pull off having a relationship? Maybe getting someone 6-7 years younger? I know some people who pulled off someone who is 10 years younger. I will be earning well which is a big bonus, even two sources of incomes.

If you take care of yourself, you should be good up until around age 45 where most men I feel hit the wall and have to work extra hard to keep up their appearances.

At my age, I generally go out with girls 10-17 years younger as an example. I went out with a 28yo for a few months a couple years ago.

 

[Nordic_identity]

I'm 31 and at work where I work with the public, I approach and converse with a lot of women and sometimes even ask them out as my work mates challenge me. It takes a lot of steel.

I am looking to purchase a good car next year and I am making money on the side where I will eventually quit my job to focus on that full time and earn even more, this job is really for stability purposes and given the situation, I consider myself lucky to have a job and earning.

I am getting my confidence, social skills up big time. I have read a lot of pick up artist material, theory.

I will approach women now and online dating is just ridiculously hard, I've had limited success of pof, match, tinder, maybe its something to do with my profile as my pics are top notch.

If I am 34, well dressed, keep myself in shape, have a good social life, earning very well, have my own place, by this time my confidence and social skills be very enhanced, would I still be able to pull off having a relationship? Maybe getting someone 6-7 years younger? I know some people who pulled off someone who is 10 years younger. I will be earning well which is a big bonus, even two sources of incomes.

I had an ex a few years back that got with a man 16 years older than her. She was 23-24 when they started dating and he was either 39 or 40. So, yes, it can be done.

Of course, this guy was really young looking for his age, owned his own business, large brick home in a rich county, and had a really cool mid-life crisis Jeep with all the bells and whistles.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm 31 and at work where I work with the public, I approach and converse with a lot of women and sometimes even ask them out as my work mates challenge me. It takes a lot of steel.

I am looking to purchase a good car next year and I am making money on the side where I will eventually quit my job to focus on that full time and earn even more, this job is really for stability purposes and given the situation, I consider myself lucky to have a job and earning.

I am getting my confidence, social skills up big time. I have read a lot of pick up artist material, theory.

I will approach women now and online dating is just ridiculously hard, I've had limited success of pof, match, tinder, maybe its something to do with my profile as my pics are top notch.

If I am 34, well dressed, keep myself in shape, have a good social life, earning very well, have my own place, by this time my confidence and social skills be very enhanced, would I still be able to pull off having a relationship? Maybe getting someone 6-7 years younger? I know some people who pulled off someone who is 10 years younger. I will be earning well which is a big bonus, even two sources of incomes.

Make your core social sphere your age +/- 5yrs. Given that's 90% of your socialization you can dip off and grab ladies 10+ yrs younger.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I had an ex a few years back that got with a man 16 years older than her. She was 23-24 when they started dating and he was either 39 or 40. So, yes, it can be done.

Of course, this guy was really young looking for his age, owned his own business, large brick home in a rich county, and had a really cool mid-life crisis Jeep with all the bells and whistles.

Some men remain risk takers and adventerous so to others they never leave a "midlife crisis".

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm 31 and at work where I work with the public, I approach and converse with a lot of women and sometimes even ask them out as my work mates challenge me. It takes a lot of steel.

I am looking to purchase a good car next year and I am making money on the side where I will eventually quit my job to focus on that full time and earn even more, this job is really for stability purposes and given the situation, I consider myself lucky to have a job and earning.

I am getting my confidence, social skills up big time. I have read a lot of pick up artist material, theory.

I will approach women now and online dating is just ridiculously hard, I've had limited success of pof, match, tinder, maybe its something to do with my profile as my pics are top notch.

If I am 34, well dressed, keep myself in shape, have a good social life, earning very well, have my own place, by this time my confidence and social skills be very enhanced, would I still be able to pull off having a relationship? Maybe getting someone 6-7 years younger? I know some people who pulled off someone who is 10 years younger. I will be earning well which is a big bonus, even two sources of incomes.

Also dont go chasing ones 10yrs younger that'll fvck your life over. Let them CHOOSE you. Fvck them early and often. Never break your boundaries for women.

 

[Roober]

The only limiting factor for growth and success in any aspect of life is the person between your ears. Conquer that and anything is possible.

 

[Who Dares Win]

If you have your sh1t togheter in terms of body shape, social position and finances you can do really good in your mid 30s...how young you can go depends however on how young you look and I mean hairline and hair density and wrinkles.

While a 45 yrs old men can still get a woman in her mid 30s as a bald man, a guy in his mid 30s needs to look youngish to get a girl in her mid 20s.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If you have your sh1t togheter in terms of body shape, social position and finances you can do really good in your mid 30s...how young you can go depends however on how young you look and I mean hairline and hair density and wrinkles.

While a 45 yrs old men can still get a woman in her mid 30s as a bald man, a guy in his mid 30s needs to look youngish to get a girl in her mid 20s.

Either that or be a gold digging target....

 

[death_wish. .]

I'm 31 and at work where I work with the public, I approach and converse with a lot of women and sometimes even ask them out as my work mates challenge me. It takes a lot of steel.

I am looking to purchase a good car next year and I am making money on the side where I will eventually quit my job to focus on that full time and earn even more, this job is really for stability purposes and given the situation, I consider myself lucky to have a job and earning.

I am getting my confidence, social skills up big time. I have read a lot of pick up artist material, theory.

I will approach women now and online dating is just ridiculously hard, I've had limited success of pof, match, tinder, maybe its something to do with my profile as my pics are top notch.

If I am 34, well dressed, keep myself in shape, have a good social life, earning very well, have my own place, by this time my confidence and social skills be very enhanced, would I still be able to pull off having a relationship? Maybe getting someone 6-7 years younger? I know some people who pulled off someone who is 10 years younger. I will be earning well which is a big bonus, even two sources of incomes.

yeah its very possible , just take care of yourself work out , drink your water ,eat well and you'll be fine.

most younger girls naturally gravitate to older men anyway , my guess is it has something to do with wisdom and maturity and you get extra points for being in good health as it is seen as good genetics

 

[Hamurabimbi]

34 is not too old by any stretch of the imagination. Of course you can ‘pull this off’. But, why not start now?

 

[Barrister]

Key is maintaining your youthful appearance. Staying in shape is obviously the most important. Secondary is to always be a sharp dresser. This can easily be done through your 30s. I am guessing it begins to get more difficult past 40 because aging happens, but men do it. In some ways it gets easier in your 30s because you tend to be much more financially set and socially established than you were in your 20s. That I can personally attest to.

 

[Stoic]

Plenty of guys on here have.

In 37 and have a kid and one of my plates is 27. I'm adventurous, travel a lot and earn good money.

A lot of women, not all, like the maturity of an older guy.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You SHOULD, but the ultimate truth of whether or not you will is if you truly believe you deserve it. See a lot of guys do all these things that they think will bring them the type of women they want but they find it doesn't.

And it isn't because of any of those things it is because deep down inside them they don't truly believe they are worth it. They don't truly believe that any woman's best choice would be to choose them if they had the opportunity to. They still have the same mindset they had when they didn't have all of those things or they weren't in great shape or they didn't have a great career, etc.

So ultimately your mindset and core belief about yourself as a man will determine if you are able to do it or not. The same way it always does whether or not you are have any of those things.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This dude is 44. Now I want you to think about something, a younger group 21-25 for example that's grouped up CAN politic you... Remember that.

But this dude has the goods to scorch on any age level.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This dude is 44. Now I want you to think about something, a younger group 21-25 for example that's grouped up CAN politic you... Remember that.

But this dude has the goods to scorch on any age level.

Your core social group should be able to be a solid FOUNDATION without you relying on the 10-20 years younger. You can get those, but you can't put your foundation in their "house". They will politic you on age.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This dude is 44. Now I want you to think about something, a younger group 21-25 for example that's grouped up CAN politic you... Remember that.

But this dude has the goods to scorch on any age level.

That steroid game is real.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

100% this. And there's some other great posts on this thread, too.

OP, It really is all about mindset. And I don't mean psyching yourself up for one night. I mean a state of being. You'll probably have to work on it for a while, but eventually it will be a habit and then just part of you.

Lots of guys here pull 10-20 years younger on the regular, myself included. Eventually it feels like shooting fish in a barrel.

If you are a part of and in good standing in the social environment in your landscape it will be very normal...