Can BPD woman really change?

[betheman]

Yep I have borderline, and I've been in 2 long term relationships. 1 of which I'm currently in. I have all the same thoughts and feelings as anyone with borderline; abandonment issues, anxiety, depression, irrationality. But at the age of 22 I've already learnt how to handle it.

any you have one of the worst cases of BPD the docs have ever seen?
your story is incongruent, Ive seen and worked with some very serious cases and they rarely if ever, learn how to handle it effectively. I think there is a lot you have missed out

 

[Die Hard]

Just_a_theory, please send me a PM and tell me where you live. I wanna lick you up and down...

 

[Married Buried]

That post was indeed genuine. My friend linked me this discussion and I straight away made an account and gave my 2 cents. Because I have no interest in any of the opinions of those who supported the original post due to the fact I have the same respect for you as that of the **** my dog rolls around in I'm going to now disable my account and get on with me life. These forums really aren't doing any of you of any good. Go out and meet some real girls.

What medications are you on?

 

[Renegade357]

Women don't change.

 

[Boilermaker]

A rectified BPD is not a BPD by definition.

Props to Just_A_Theory but BPD is a personality disorder, it means it can be "fixed", "cured" , "mitigated".

She fixed herself. Fine. That doesn't mean I have to have any respect to that DSM definition of a functional BPD in real life.

My sympathy is reserved for brothers who go through that living hell.

 

[Married Buried]

I have a feeling she thinks "BPD" is BI POLAR DISORDER.

Is that what you think?

 

[Married Buried]

Come on man, really?

Bi Polar is no big deal, most girls have it.

 

[Married Buried]

Brilliant insight. However, I am referring to borderline personality disorder. The topic we are all here to discuss.

I bet you are hot as hell. Can we see a pic?

Hey guys let's not chase her away, she seems cool.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Also, I believe the scientific census of %1-2 is inaccurate. That's only woman who are clinically diagnosed with the disorder. Most aren't. They aren't really breaking laws and most therapists aren't educated about the disorder, or they get misdiagnosed with something else like depression, bi-polar, suicidal, or PTSD (labeled as victims of sexual abuse etc..)
-Scars

That is so so true. The MAIN problem with the stats on BPD, is quite simply that the vast majority of people who have this NEVER get diagnosed.

I know someone who is BPD. Guess how they are treated? With the same drugs as someone with Bi Polar. Anti depressants. BPD is not a chemical imbalance in the brain. It IS that person, socialised, traumatised - whatever the reason - into that state.

Most Doctors don't even know how to diagnose this disorder let alone the treatment strategies. (Which isn't unusual; given that is is a reasonably 'new' disorder).

 

[Bible_Belt]

I bet you are hot as hell.

Yep. Me too. I find it fascinating that a psychological disorder can be predictive of physical appearance, but that actually does appear to be the case with borderlines.

Like I said earlier, she is very genuine, and also a benefit to all of our perspectives. Knowledge is your friend when it comes to bpd.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

But this does not change the fact that BPD is a serious mental disorder in which the subconscious goal of the BP is to emotionally destroy the BP's partner. And for that, SS and the men here will always serve as beacons of light to those who don't know what the hell hit them. We will be there to help these men understand what happened, and we'll be here to help them recover from the trauma.

Holy crap - you Sir deserve a beer! That is very well written and so true.

 

[TonyBaloney]

How absolutely awful that "just a theory" is on here..... I dont know about anyone else, but the hairs stand up on my back reading her posts - their is that icy disdain mixed in with a lack of real empathy....

We are afterall talking about something here that has led to suicide, murder and complete destruction, but "just a theory" wants us to change our minds....NO! I will forever thank bradd80 for giving me some logic and help in what could have led to another suicide statistic.

My theory about BPD is that it is a heriditable genetic condition, and its place on the evolutionary ladder, like blond hair and blues, has some use, somewhere within the continuation of the species. In some respects ive pondered whether us DJ's, who are perhaps the most "fecund" of our male brethren, are reduced in our seed spreading by these beasts....... perhaps nature the great balancer sends these our way to stop our DNA proliferating more than average.....just a theory.......

I would like to ask any other experts or members outside of the Northern/Western European nations, is this condition seen in African, Asian or Arabic nations??

 

[betheman]

JAT is a troll...also, it is amyth that all attractive/hot women are BPD and not all BPD women are hot

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think we can all learn from her perspective and chasing her away doesn't help anybody. If she's the devil, then learn all you can about her and it will help you identify and avoid future bpd girls. They tend to share similar traits.

Are we working with the Barney Stinson hot to crazy scale?

I had to look that up. Well stated.
http://cdn.motinetwork.net/demotiva...nson-hot-demotivational-poster-1234586298.jpg

Speaking of similar traits, I bet you smoke cigarettes, right? I've never heard of a bpd girl who doesn't smoke.

 

[jammer]

I think we can all learn from her perspective and chasing her away doesn't help anybody. If she's the devil, then learn all you can about her and it will help you identify and avoid future bpd girls. They tend to share similar traits.

I had to look that up. Well stated.

Speaking of similar traits, I bet you smoke cigarettes, right? I've never heard of a bpd girl who doesn't smoke.

^^ looks like bible belt is about to become her next victim

 

[PeakIV]

We here at So Suave don't hate women at all; on the contrary, we love women, we love being with them and making them laugh. Above all we love charming them into making their panties fly off. But what we don't like here are selfish, mentally disturbed women such as yourself who abuse and manipulate men and then come here thinking they can pass off their serious mental problems as "no big deal." Yeah maybe not for you, but I'm sure your victims have an entirely different perspective.

Yeah! What he said..

 

[( . )( . )]

Hot girl crazy. I agree BPD's are definately a real and threatening menace to men everywhere and it's more common among women than men, but I bet dollars to donuts half of these ferals we mistake as genuine BPD's are just by-products of feminism, (traditional)fatherless upbringings and a lack of a strong backhand, also strongly agree with Roissy that bypassing child birth is a big factor which is responsible in my opinion for tearing alot of these poor cvnts souls apart.

Spiralina observes:

It’s SO boring to be a hot girl. People are designed to evolve by struggling against the greater forces of survival. When everything is just handed to you with no effort, you lose your sense of purpose. You become dissolute and reckless. You start abusing your sexual power in petty ways, just to see how far you can push it. When you find someone who finally pushes back, it elicits an intense (albeit temporary) thrill.
Childbirth makes it all settle, and gives the hot girl a greater sense of purpose. That’s why most hot girls, if they stay single and don’t have kids as they get older, slowly go insane.







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What Spiralina has described is hot girl crazy. Hot girls, by dint of their immense, immediate, and unearned power over men (and over women, to a lesser extent) start out life being less grounded than plainer girls (pretty girls as young as four know they are more attractive than other girls), become sadistically crazy in their primes (15-25 years old), and then pitifully deranged by their late 20s and 30s if they have not leveraged their hotness for an alpha male and little alphalets by then.
Hot girls live in the closest approximation to a fantasy world that exists in the state of nature for human beings, and in no time in history is that fantasy more fully fleshed out and intertwined with the threads of ugly reality than right now for the modern Western looker. This is why hot girls are some of the most illogical, deluded, and naively optimistic people alive: You don’t need a firm grasp of reality when a line of suitors and suckups stretches around the corner to wait on you hand and foot.
The “struggle against greater forces of survival” has been the norm for most people, most of the time, and evolution, as Spiralina has noted, has equipped us, more or less generously, with the flexibility and fortitude to bear this struggle without turning bat**** crazy. There is actually a scientific term for this psychological — and, reduced to its essence, biological — phenomenon: hormesis. Or: that which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.
The hot girl in her prime, though, has rarely had to struggle. Or, if she thinks she has struggled, she has no idea what real struggle is like, particularly for ugly girls who foetally slouch through waves of human eyeballs invisible and ignored. The hot girl’s problems are other girls’ wish lists.
Freedom from struggle, as with all quasi-realized utopian ideals, lets slip unintended consequences, many of them worse than the struggle the utopian was trying to eradicate. Hot girls begin to despise their catered lives, and attempt to fill them with drama. This is why the expert seducer will quickly ascertain that it is the hottest girls who insufferably crave the most manufactured drama. consideration for her, fires her up like no lapdog or lackey ever could. Spiralina says this thrill is temporary, but here I disagree with her. I have been the beneficiary of, at the risk of crass first-person immodesty, the love of very attractive girls, and as long as the drama flows, the thrill remains the same. This thrill can go on for years, sometimes lingering after the breakup in her memories in the form of unexpected late night calls months past sell-date.
For as long as supplicating beta males exist, the selfish bastard boyfriend is king.
As stated, one cure for hot girl crazy is kids. Not just any kids. She has to push them out of her own wet incubator. Nothing grounds a mentally imbalanced woman quicker than childbirth, and the heavy responsibility that follows. Unfortunately, Western Civ is in a tailspin of single moms, dysgenia, endemic zero marginality, pathological Stockholm Syndrome, and soft concubinage. The womb issue within the confines of sanctioned pairings that would have sedated the self-destructiveness of attractive women in the past is now put off until a woman’s 30s, giving over her entire teens and 20s to marinate in the crazy[.....]

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/08/28/hot-girl-crazy/

 

[Married Buried]

I think we can all learn from her perspective and chasing her away doesn't help anybody. If she's the devil, then learn all you can about her and it will help you identify and avoid future bpd girls. They tend to share similar traits.


I had to look that up. Well stated.
http://cdn.motinetwork.net/demotiva...nson-hot-demotivational-poster-1234586298.jpg

Speaking of similar traits, I bet you smoke cigarettes, right? I've never heard of a bpd girl who doesn't smoke.

Just google the OP handle. Up comes her info.

Pretty sure she is black.

 

[Married Buried]

https://twitter.com/Just_a_theory

 

[Bible_Belt]

Being hostile toward someone because they have a mental illness makes no sense to me. They didn't order it off a menu. You might as well be mad at people in wheelchairs for not being able to walk.

one cure for hot girl crazy is kids

That would be a sign that it wasn't bpd in the first place, which as you mentioned is often the case. Borderlines almost always have children; often by different men. A close bond that diminishes over time plays right into the psychology of abandonment.