Can anyone give me a reason they would ever date a single mom?

[Dgwizdal]

I'll bite. My GF is a single mom, and I'll tell you why that works for me. First, know that I am 45 and she is 40. If you are 28 the world looks quite different I am sure.

First, I have kids too. Mine are much older than hers, but I am still very active in their lives, and the life of my granddaughter. My 2nd wife didn't have kids and she never understood my priorities. In fact, she was even jealous of my kids at times. She could't possibly understand what "kids come first" means, because she never had any. Relating to another parent is much easier.

Next, my GF having kids gives her her own sh!t to do, and that works great for me because I don't want someone up my @ss all the time. I see her 1-3 times a week and that's perfect for me. And if I am in town, one of those times is a booty call right after she gets out of work but before she picks up her kids at daycare. About an hour of banging and she is out. Perfect.

Also, it helps me judge what kind of person/woman she is. She never, ever complains about her kids, or her situation. She has an MBA and a good job and is quite self sufficient. The way she manages her life tells me A LOT about her character. If she was a lousy parent, dumping the kids off with whomever she could to go out to bar, that would tell me a lot too. So it helps me screen.

Another plus - she ALWAYS comes to my house, (because her kids are home) which I like. We have dated 7mos, exclusive 4mos, and I have never stayed at her house or even eaten a meal there. So we are always on my turf, my stuff, my friends. I like it that way.

I should also add that I am her first BF (or even second date) in the 3.5yrs since her divorce. I am the only man her kids have ever met. Because she has screened so carefully, it makes her very grateful for me and the time we do spend together, because to her I am a very rare commodity.

Did I mention that she is tall, blonde, smoking hot and fvcks like a porn star?

All that being said, I am well aware of the pitfalls of dating a single mom. And even though she seems happy with the way we are now, at some point she may want me to take a more active role in the "family" life. But until then, it works for me. And h#ll, who knows, maybe by then I'll feel differently too.

Sounds like a decent deal - good for you. I would say that is has to be hard as f*ck @ 45 to find a decent woman who DOESN'T have kids.

 

[Mr_Stinky]

I dated one back in my more beta days.

I ended it with her after I realized I was a rebound, replacement, band-aid boyfriend. She also had baby rabies and wanted to get married after a month together.

No thanks.

NEXT!

 

[MOTU]

I can understand why you feel that way but...

Probably not her first or second date my man.

I am pretty sure that I am correct. I believe that not because I asked her "how many dates have you been on since your divorce" but because I am very good at asking gently leading questions of her, her friends and her family and then practicing "golden silence". You can learn A LOT that way and the ratio of truth to bullsh!t is much higher.

In fact, I make a point to NOT ask direct questions on sensitive topics that interest me. It put's peoples guards up. But if you are clever in the questions you ask and disciplined in your ability to keep your own mouth shut, you can find out what you want to know.

This is a skill I actively developed for my professional career, but has served me extremely well in my personal life as well.

48 Laws of Power:
Laws 2 - 4
Law 12
Law 14
Law 24
Laws 38 and 39

That sh!t is gold....

 

[Peña]

You won't need to have your own kids lol

 

[Robert28]

If you don't have any kids then it's a bad idea. Another reason I won't mess with one seriously is because oneday, eventually, she is going to get back with whoever knocked her up. Yeah she may talk mad sh!t about him now and swear up and down that he repulses her but that's all hogwash. 9 times out of 10 they'll end up getting back together and all of a sudden everything is happy-go-lucky between them, they might even end up getting married who knows. Just too much of a headache for me.

 

[nismo-4]

The best type of single moms are the ones without any kids.

That's called a single woman.

These ladies are for banging, I will not be second fiddle to the other guy or her next beta orbiter.

Problem is, most women you'll date near your age have had kids and all women have exes. We just have to deal with it.

 

[Zarky]

Enjoying all the teens and twenty-somethings posting in this thread.

I've made it a habit of banging single moms since I was about.. what.. 29 maybe? Easy sex is the main reason. Lack of drama is another* (see note below).

These days I generally only have LTRs with women who don't have kids, but I still usually keep a single mom or two in orbit to bang when the others are on the rag, out of town, or otherwise unavailable.

Keeping in mind all the single moms I've banged have been over the age of 35 (even when I was 29). I haven't had to worry about some b*tch trying make me her second or third baby-daddy (knock on wood). If you're dating a chick who is 23 and got knocked up when she was 17 or something, then you might be courting trouble. But I've never done that.

*The drama does come in with single moms when they start thinking you're going to be a step-daddy to their kid(s). At this point you gotta dump 'em, for your own sanity. Ultimately that's what they're looking for, no matter what they say to the contrary. The easy and enthusiastic banging is merely a lure. But if you understand this, you're fine.

 

[pete101]

Now, I've never dated a single mum and don't really believe I am mentally mature enough to do so. But that surely isn't a reason to rule them out.
Sure, it's baggage of a sort, but everyone comes with some kind of baggage.
Dealing with hardships in life brings maturity and demands a level of responsibility.

I know a good looking, independent woman, with goals and a decent career who happens to be a single mum. I have no hesitation in saying that she is a quality woman that most men would do well to have a chance with.

you got to factor in that they make bad choices when choosing men.

just because they have a good job and goals and decent career dont make them quality women.. it's same principle of avoiding women who are lawyers as in order to be good in their profession they have to be naturally argumentative.. this comes into their personal life. you don't want that in your life, same applies to a single mum.

 

[Ray S]

sex?

This