r0cky said:
sstype, Do you think there are girls out there who explicitly want to date a player? Someone who gets a lot of a55 and has a rotation of girls? The amount of girls that are up for that, and who are mentally lucid, is very small. Almost a rounding error. But the great majority of girls, including those who you may call selfrespecting (which, according to what they themselves will tell you, is practically all of them) WILL respond to the guy who HAPPENS to have many women.
BTW. There's no such thing as the "quality girl" who never dates a55holes. Theres no such thing as a perfectly classy girl. Just becuse they aspire to marry a doctor and be a stay home mom doesnt mean they wouldnt get fu5ked behind the dumpster by the bartender while their husband is working late.
Women are more easily swept away by the moment than men. We know this! When we see the girls jumping and screaming by the bar while the guys are always showing restrain and self control. As DJ's we understand why this goes on, this is what we've been trained to do, to "see the matrix", as some may say, and use it to our advantage. So how can someone exposed to YEARS of pu material still beleive that a girl carefully selects who she wants to get fu5cked by?
I don't see where this conflicts with my post.....other than my blasphemous statement that some women (gasp) eventually do want LTRs with strong masculine good men. So what if they respond to players, I'll always respond positively to nice tits and ass....doesn't mean I have no choice to but to cheat on my girlfriend. Not all women are immoral to screw behind their husband's back.
Yes, some women do make guys "wait" and want to be courted for the very purpose of weeding out players. Google "The Rules." You obviously don't live in the South but here women eat that sh*t up, especially if you're a guy with his sh*t together. I highly recommend if you want to find your future wife, come to Atlanta.
Like I said, lets go back to the basics:
- Attraction is not a choice.
- If you beleive you're a rockstar and act like one, people will assume you are one.
- girls are attracted to guys with the confidence of a rockstar
1. Attraction is not a choice.
I agree...however women can be socially conditioned not to act on this attraction.
2. If you beleive you're a rockstar and act like one, people will assume you are one.
"Acting like a rockstar" is pretty hard to pull off for a guy like me who works as a corporate consultant and runs a side business. But we do have a bunch of those here....the "fake-it-till-you-make it" 30k a year millionaire crowd. I prefer to keep my sanity just being myself and not teetering on personal bankruptcy trying to keep up the payments on my leased BMW and dropping $300 weekly on VIP bottles.
3. Girls are attracted to guys with the confidence of a rockstar.
I think the girls were just being nice to you when they told you that....they actually want the rockstar because he's famous and rich. I see tons of average guys with the "confidence of a rockstar" get blown out harsh by women. I've seen guys with killer dance moves at the club, dancing alone all night. Fact is, that women have seen it all, heard it all. Unless you have tangible value to back up your confidence, overly confident behavior and false bravado is bound to get you labelled a "delusional bullsh1tter" very quickly.
I've done best when I just pick the women who are attracted to me and have a normal flirty conversation with.....I've done worst when I try to put on some fake persona I know she can see through.
I only speak from experience. If the "rockstar" personality works for you, great job....I personally couldn't pull it off. Part of being a DJ is finding what works best for you, not necessarily what is the "correct" way to act.
