Can a woman who is attracted to you ever think you smell bad?

[bigneil]

I met a girl a couple years back who I felt the strongest mutual attraction with. We had sex the first night and for months after. She said she hadn't been so attracted to anyone in the longest time. Then when it eventually ended she told me I had awful body odor and needed to shower more! I never saw her again after that.

It seems like a huge contradiction that she would:

A) Be so attracted to me early and often.

yet

B) Be so repulsed by my natural scent.

Note I do not use scented soap, perfume, detergents and deodorants.

I've been reading lately about how women screen men based on their scent (an indication of DNA and immune system matching for offspring as they seek their opposite). But it seems that should happen right away.

Have you ever had a woman who loved you tell you that you had BO?

 

[zorg198]

I wonder why you don't use soap, , and deodorants.

 

[comic_relief]

I recently read a scientific article that said that smell dealt with compatibility. If you both think that you smell good, then the match is good. If not, then you are not a good match (biologically speaking of course). One of my former professors said that the article was good as well.

You can obviously go and trick nature with cologne and deodorant. But you can't change some things.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_odor_and_subconscious_human_sexual_attraction

quick wiki search

- comic_relief

 

[SoldMySoul]

Bigneil, you kidding us right???? This is strange indeed...

Okay, here goes: I dated a girl recently and she could NOT seem to get her breath in check and YES... It was a huge turn off. I guess in a similar way as the girl attracted to you said it was NOT working for her.. Depending on weather temp, we all can get a little funky, but YOU GOTTA have it under control. Like one poster pointed out or asked, "why can't use certain items?"

I am funny about odor... I really like to be clean before having sex and desire the same in partner. Have taken several showers a day because of this as well.

The different women I have been with all have their own unique natural scent...MIND OUT OF GUTTERS....NOT JUST THE V AREA...but their entire body. Some were more invigorating I shall say than others..Make sense? I mean some just smell better than others and SOME are more concerned about their hygiene. The more tomboy they are, they seem to care less about proper hygiene. I am not busting your balls Neil... Keeping it honest with ya!

OHHHH... and I can smell garlic on people a mile away.. A guy I worked with always came in smelling, or reaking of garlic.. I could imagine what a prospective woman would think???? Their sense of smell is better than a man's. The food you eat could make you have a scent too.

 

[bigneil]

The wiki notes that her being on the pill reverses her smell preference from dissimilar to similar. That's why if a woman you are dating goes on (or off) the pill you tend to break up! Maybe she changed and I didn't know it (she was originally on it). I had another girl go on the pill without telling me and I wasn't attracted to her anymore. That's how Chimpanzees are - they won't mate with a woman on contraceptive because they smell pregnant (useless).

Note that soap and deodorant (and shower steam) are highly toxic, full of sodium fluoride, chlorine, sulfates, petrochemicals, hormone disruptors and carcinogenic fragrance so I go with natural versions.

Meanwhile I've lost my tolerance so I gag in the detergent aisle of the supermarket versus on the scent of someone who eats only organic. This girl used to wear perfume and I would roll the windows down and tell her she smelled intoxicating.

I probably do need to scrub with soap more but I thought attraction and BO were mutually exclusive. Other women loved my scent and one would even take my old T-shirts home with her so it probably was a bad match with this one, but you'd think she would have ended it far sooner if my scent repulsed her.

Use tom's of maine then

Yes that's what I use, stuff like that.

 

[SoldMySoul]

I probably do need to scrub with soap more but am curious if any of you ever had a woman like you but think you ever had BO. I thought they were mutually exclusive.

Soap and Deodorant (and shower steam) are highly toxic, full of chlorine and fragrance so I go with natural versions.

Other women loved my scent and one would even take my old T-shirts home with her so it probably was a bad match but you'd think she would have ended it far sooner.

Man, I have always appreciated you and your posts....but really???? Soap and Deo are higly toxic???? Use tom's of maine then if you are that far out with this... I use the cleaning products and still live to tell about it... I think you answered your own question MY MAN!

 

[loveshogun]

If you're showering every day, or even at least 5 times a week, and you're not doing blue collar all day every day, then I wouldn't be too worried about her comment.

If FIVE women said this, then I'd start changing habits.

As for your original question, Neil, I'm gonna lean towards no - if a woman doesn't like your natural scent, then she won't like being with you.

However, note there's a difference between liking you enough to sleep with you and liking you enough to stay with you. A girl doesn't necessarily have to like a guy a whole lot to sleep with him.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Natural scent is not to be confused with body odor. Natural scent is the subtle and unique smell of your skin compared to others, it's all about the oils from your skin. Natural scent is not the scent released when you are working out for example, that's just BO caused by bacteria breaking down your sweat. If you smell like sweat you are dirty, and being dirty like that is not healthy. It's not hygenic and far worse for you than steam from a shower or the fragrance from soap or deodorant.... and it's disgusting dude! If you can smell yourself when your just sitting posting on Sosuave for example you have a problem!

 

[bigneil]

Natural scent is not to be confused with body odor.

Yes, I think I may have formally proven that with this example. She must have loved one and hated the other. It was probably more of an organic lifestyle issue.

It's not that I didn't wash. I usually take baths with Cider Vinegar and sea salt and use natural soap, with showers every few days. That actually detoxifies. Salt neutralizes chlorine and vinegar kills bacteria. I probably need to scrub the oil off me with soap more than I do, but that's of questionable health benefit for sure.

 

[SgtSplacker]

You cant let all the useless statistics get to you dude. I can guarantee that someone has found just about anything imaginable to man either beneficial or toxic at some point in time. Just the other day I read it was bad to drink too much water while I have at least 100 health nut friends that swear drinking water is healthy. You have to pick the lesser of two evils mannnnn!

We know whats really good and bad for us, and it has to make sense. You tell me eating a triple Wendys burger dripping oil is bad? OK I believe that. Now you tell me that there's chlorine in bath steam and I really doubt it's to the level of really being toxic enough to make me sick. I'd be worried if I worked in a bath house for 10 hours a day, sure. But my two 10-15 minute showers a day are not going to make me sick in the least, actually quite the opposite.

Go to the store buy some Sure or Mitchum and a moisturizing bar and take a good shower and wash all that vinegar and sea salt off bud. I hope you have an office job...

 

[Leporello]

When I lived in Vietnam it was 90 degrees and humid every day. Finally a girl I was seeing gave me deodorant. BURN. She was still sleeping with me, though.

So yes. Just because a girl likes you doesn't mean your farts smell like roses to her.

 

[tomato]

I met a girl a couple years back who I felt the strongest mutual attraction with. We had sex the first night and for months after. She said she hadn't been so attracted to anyone in the longest time. Then when it eventually ended she told me I had awful body odor and needed to shower more! I never saw her again after that.

It seems like a huge contradiction that she would:

A) Be so attracted to me early and often.

yet

B) Be so repulsed by my natural scent.

Note I do not use scented soap, perfume, detergents and deodorants.

I've been reading lately about how women screen men based on their scent (an indication of DNA and immune system matching for offspring as they seek their opposite). But it seems that should happen right away.

Have you ever had a woman who loved you tell you that you had BO?

funny you say this, my ex used to love my smell at the start and then when things got worse its like she started to notice I smelt bad sometimes (which obvs everyone does at some point.

I think its a bias thing - initially she has a +ive bias and just ignores bad smell and only notices the good............then as attraction falls a bit the bias goes and she actually starts to notice the bad.......not only that but even if she does notice it early she wont say it because she wants you...

So I think it is a sign

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Can't even lie. Axe body wash smells good as anything. I make sure to wash with some of that everyday. When you smell good you feel good.

I couldn't mess with a chick with bad odor. It's just laziness. It takes 5 minutes to get in the shower and then spray on some perfume. and I've actually dropped multiple plates because they couldn't get their breathe in order. Like damn, I don't even want to kiss the girl. Screw that.