Can a nasty relationship with a BDP woman damage you permanently

[GeoMan]

BPDs most definitely damage you temporarily at the very least. But in the end you are a much stronger and enlightened man for it. NOW, I wouldn't suggest going out and purposely finding one of these trash bags so you can be enlightened. If you have never been with one, lucky you, you have an easier path to enlightenment: just listen to those of us who have had to learn the hard way! We aren't fudging our stories.... If you still have faith that women/humans can't possibly be this bad, like I did at first, slap yourself on the face and wake the fvck up! In particular, look at the stories shared on here about these toxic rotten carp cvnts that are all so similar. That's one thing women just suck at in general is being different... The type of women we speak of in this thread are all the freaking same, even down to the words they choose and the allegations they make.

Yea kinda realized women in general go absolutely evil and jump boats when **** ain't sweet no more and they start loosing attraction in a LTR. But at least I'm only 20 and learned one of life's most important lessons. Now to get rich and handsome and threat these slots like crap in my 20's *evil laugh*

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

BPDs most definitely damage you temporarily at the very least. But in the end you are a much stronger and enlightened man for it. NOW, I wouldn't suggest going out and purposely finding one of these trash bags so you can be enlightened. If you have never been with one, lucky you, you have an easier path to enlightenment: just listen to those of us who have had to learn the hard way! We aren't fudging our stories.... If you still have faith that women/humans can't possibly be this bad, like I did at first, slap yourself on the face and wake the fvck up! In particular, look at the stories shared on here about these toxic rotten carp cvnts that are all so similar. That's one thing women just suck at in general is being different... The type of women we speak of in this thread are all the freaking same, even down to the words they choose and the allegations they make.

This is so correct. I was reading about BPDs and narcissists after my relationship with one ended and it was scary how accurate all articles were.

Luckily, I found out that she was digging my grave behind my back before I got emotionally invested, so it was an easy transition.

 

[Infern0]

Nah you'll be buzzed off it for a while, 6-12 months is the usual amount if it was a "regular" bpd relationship, more extreme ones can take longer.

For me it took 12 months, i think i could have sped the progress up though but i wallowed in it for longer than i really needed to, but after the depression lifted i had a new view on things and more motivation than i've ever had to become the best, strongest version of myself so that crap don't happen again

its a process though so dont feel bad about it

 

[Lozboss]

Yeah I'm about 5 months out of a BPD and I'm just focusing on me. Will be another 4 at least until I'm fully right.

 

[GeoMan]

Lol you goofed man. The ONLY way to keep these awful creatures around is to treat em like dirt and never give them validation no matter how much they say they want love - they don't. And the ONLY way to stay sane is to become a narcissist or psychopath to remain emotionally detached and remember who she really is at the end of the day - a ****!n nut job.

I'm sure you've done your research - live and learn dude. It ain't your fault - there's no saving them. And the average (or sane) guy doesn't stand a chance at not getting their heart ripped out.

Rest easy knowing she will live a chaotic empty life with nothing to fill the bottomless void in her soul but d!cks and fiths: on an endless quest to feel alive by doing anything she can to get attention from anyone that will provide it instead of taking responsibility for her own happiness and actions. She knows she is a hopeless worthless unstable unaccountable irrational hyper-emotional ticking time bomb that will eventually end up with you in jail or dead - of course with her rationalizing she's the victim. Be glad you got out now - you know that your 10000x times better than that fvcking retard.

You'll be good dude; Laughing to yourself Sooner than you think...

I went to pick up breakfast at a restaurant we would always go to and saw her with her new boyfriend. I flipped. Me anger went to 100 real quick. I went up to them got between them grabbed her shoulder and told her she was a b1tch. Made eye contact with dude and he looked away. Grabbed my food and left. I know I should've ignored it but I couldn't handle it. I feel like an idiot. Kinda feel like i punked him tho cause he didn't defend her what so ever. Man it's been a year since we first started talking tomorrow and I realize how different everything is. I've really lost myself for a year :/

 

[christoff522]

its been 6 months since I endured a nasty relationship full of drama cheating and emotional abuse from my ex and I still feel very depressed at times. It's like I can't fully bounce back to the man I was before. I've become very bitter with woman and feel like there all slots. I don't get excited to try and talk to other girls. I know it's something I have to get over or it'll ruin my life. Has anyone had this problem before and fully bounced back?

As someone who suffered this sh*t, I can tell you that you WILL get over it. I was bitter, I felt I couldn't bounce back, I was obsessed with thinking about everything that happened. Then she got pregnant with another man's baby - my biggest fear - and a few weeks later deleted her from facebook.

Anyway, that was a big step for me. But the biggest help is distance from them..just stay away from her. Don't rush into dating if you're not ready, just talk to other girls, flirt, and enjoy their company. Trust me, it's been six months for you now - give it another six months and you'll feel way better, give it another year and you won't care in the slightest. Just avoid contact, if you can keep a little eye on her social media, you will see her play little games, you'll notice that if she gets a boyfriend certain SM will be devoid of any images or mention of him, whilst others will be all about him and her.

Just remember that every day you ignore her, or avoid her is a day where YOU are recovering. Theres no rush to do anything, just take your time and you will get back to your old self - or an even better, stronger new self. You've simply taken a nosedive in self-esteem and are insecure.

Just for context - she ended things in June of 2014 - It's now October 2015 - I'm as clear headed about it all now as I've ever been.

 

[GeoMan]

As someone who suffered this sh*t, I can tell you that you WILL get over it. I was bitter, I felt I couldn't bounce back, I was obsessed with thinking about everything that happened. Then she got pregnant with another man's baby - my biggest fear - and a few weeks later deleted her from facebook.

Anyway, that was a big step for me. But the biggest help is distance from them..just stay away from her. Don't rush into dating if you're not ready, just talk to other girls, flirt, and enjoy their company. Trust me, it's been six months for you now - give it another six months and you'll feel way better, give it another year and you won't care in the slightest. Just avoid contact, if you can keep a little eye on her social media, you will see her play little games, you'll notice that if she gets a boyfriend certain SM will be devoid of any images or mention of him, whilst others will be all about him and her.

Just remember that every day you ignore her, or avoid her is a day where YOU are recovering. Theres no rush to do anything, just take your time and you will get back to your old self - or an even better, stronger new self. You've simply taken a nosedive in self-esteem and are insecure.

Just for context - she ended things in June of 2014 - It's now October 2015 - I'm as clear headed about it all now as I've ever been.

I noticed that! Why do girls do that. New boyfriend all over Facebook but Twitter no mention what so ever.

 

[christoff522]

I noticed that! Why do girls do that. New boyfriend all over Facebook but Twitter no mention what so ever.

Its much easier to focus the attention to one main site (for instance facebook), than have to go and clean up multiple sites (twitter, instagram, etc etc) if theres a breakup. It also allows the girls to hook in new potential men and manipulate them, get validation (likes) and maybe even some on the side action. For BPDs its absolutely imperative that they have outlets away from their main guy. If they didn't they would go stir crazy. For the entire length of a BPD relationship you can be certain that they had other relationships ongoing as well.

 

[Infern0]

Its much easier to focus the attention to one main site (for instance facebook), than have to go and clean up multiple sites (twitter, instagram, etc etc) if theres a breakup. It also allows the girls to hook in new potential men and manipulate them, get validation (likes) and maybe even some on the side action. For BPDs its absolutely imperative that they have outlets away from their main guy. If they didn't they would go stir crazy. For the entire length of a BPD relationship you can be certain that they had other relationships ongoing as well.

I have to second this, it's a shameful admission from my afc days but after i broke up with my BPD she replaced me within days, and after a month of NC i got sucked back in again, she started up an emotional affair with me within 2 weeks and it got (and stayed) physical for the entire length of her relationship with the new guy.

I thought i was being "alpha" and just using her but i was kidding myself and had spun that narrative in my head to protect myself from the reality which was i was trying to win her back. looking back she was also probably cheating on me with him for at least 2 months before we broke up, i have no proof but i'd be surprised if she wasn't tbh.

Anyway feel bad for that guy she was with, he was spending mad cash on trying to keep her happy and the relationship was a fraud from day one on her side.

run away from these chicks, they are a guarenteed loss.