Atom Smasher has a pretty compelling story.
Of my friends that are virgins, one is a hopeless case that will end up as that 40 year old man and the other is improving every day due to character and willpower differences that Bingo mentioned. Also, hate to admit it but the one improving is better looking and gets attention from women unprovoked, as well as lives in a more robust area for picking up women, which could account for the differences. Negative vs positive feedback loops.
Strangely enough, the more bitter one actually has had more lifetime success with women though....mainly crawling his way out of the friend zone after kissing womens' a$$es...so even his experience is counterproductive lol.