Can a man start at 40?

[Motsl]

On a woman's site I saw this question posed and as usual BS fluff answers. Curious what the real answers are.

For a man who's never dated, kissed, had a relationship or sex at 40, what are his chances with women?

My take is he has extremely little hope. No I'm not that guy. I currently have a girl.

 

[GS750]

Depends on the guy. If he has the ability to correct whatever it is that's holding him back, then yes. If he's good looking that might help too haha.

 

[SmooveMooves]

No.

 

[Mike32ct]

Nothing is impossible, but it would be difficult for such a guy, and he would have to have modest expectations for "success."

Women are like (today's) employers. They don't want to train someone. He has to know what he's doing right off the bat.

But, with lots of work and the right help, he could probably get a 5 or 6 gf that is older than him. But he'd have to work out, get new clothes, learn to dance, etc.

As for the awkward sex part, he should just lie and say he's been in a long dry spell of a few years. Women can accept that. They will never accept that he's a virgin lol.

 

[Motsl]

Nothing is impossible, but it would be difficult for such a guy, and he would have to have modest expectations for "success."

Women are like (today's) employers. They don't want to train someone. He has to know what he's doing right off the bat.

But, with lots of work and the right help, he could probably get a 5 or 6 gf that is older than him. But he'd have to work out, get new clothes, learn to dance, etc.

As for the awkward sex part, he should just lie and say he's been in a long dry spell of a few years. Women can accept that. They will never accept that he's a virgin lol.

5 or 6, lol. 3 or 4 would be hard enough. One in a million that he could even get it done with a 3 or 4?

 

[sylvester the cat]

A man can start in his 80s if he so wishes.

 

[Suspens]

Yes.

Start here

 

[Motsl]

Yes, a man can start at 40.

He would have to immediately immerse himself on a site like this, go out and basically just learn on the fly.

I think some guys here could take a 40 year old virgin and have him getting weekly lays by 41.

...provided he was committed to changing some things about his way of life.

On paper. Every single guy I have ever met who couldn't get anywhere with the girls always fit the same profile. Nice guy doormat. The guys were a variety of heights and careers, but every one was a doormat nice guy. I tried to help these hapless guys but couldn't. These guys always screwed it up. Awkwardness, misreading signs and more than anything else handling the unexpected such as her going suddenly cold on him, these guys kept doing it wrong. These guys expect girls to behave logically like guys. They get discouraged from failures and don't want to try anymore, so I wouldn't be shocked if some got to 40 dateless. There's good tips here but I just don't know if they can navigate them. Should these guys try or accept they will never know what a naked girl looks like?

 

[LMFAO]

The more you leave it the more of an upward battle it is.

Many guys have very dry spells in their 20s and only pick it up in the early 30s. 40s is more extreme but yes it is possible if you work hard enough at it. Men at 40 are on average at a much better position than women at the same age as they accumulate status and wealth, whilst women's looks go down the sink and their vaginas turn into mammoth roadkills. It is absolutely true that women don't want to train a guy, they want someone who knows what he's doing. So expect to fvck it up with the first couple of girls but will pick it up in time.

 

[Yorkex]

Yes he can , he just have to be willing to break old habits and learn on the fly.
At 40 , he "should" have his life together which can be a bonus because today's girls are easily attracted to money. The key is to flash not spend.

 

[mangotot]

Poor guy. Must have lots of things that are not right if he still hasen't got laid by the time this age is reached.

 

[skinnyguy]

Sure why not.

You just have to believe in yourself. If you think it's too late you're fvcked. Having the attitude that you're a great catch works wonders.

 

[logicallefty]

Wish I could rep ya, but I can't

I tried to rep Espi as well.

I was 31 when I started browsing here and before that my goose had only swam in my first wife's pond. But in the last 10 years he has ventured out and been in many waters.

 

[bigneil]

As Lester Burnham (age 42) said in American Beauty (1999), one of my top 5 Desert Island Films "It's never too late to get it back".

My best period has been age 40 to date. MUCH better than 35 to 40. Slightly better than 26-34 (my prime years physically, but lacking the financial resources and dating experience).

However, something fundamental must change to make a major improvement. It has to come through healthy living, and gradually.

It should start with diet. In fact, it should start with a rigorous fast. Can you go 1 day without consuming anything but water, herbal tea, medicinal herbs (and maybe some vaporized weed)? No alcohol, tobacco, coffee or prescription drugs. Then, start bicycling and doing push-ups and chin-ups.

Then, you will need practice. Pay a few escorts for dates and/or sex. Ask them for suggestions. At age 40, to really correct the problem, go straight to the source and ask women (but don't expect the particular women you ask to be interested). Sacrifice a few women to learn the truth.

As a backup plan, ask guys (pay them if needed) to ask the women the truth. Find out the truth and go from there. Everyone has flaws and our flaws are what make us more human and lovable so don't aim for perfection.

 

[guru1000]

As long as you possess a heartbeat, there is always a chance to change.

 

[kukuku]

no, no way in hell. for him to get to forty without a girl is unfathomable unless hes an unmotivated socially inept beta with god knows how many other negatives. not happening. even if he was 30 its not happening.

 

[Solomon]

I became aware of the PUA community at 35 and have since met and laid more women than in the previous 20 years.

Never too late. Does no good to believe otherwise.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Espi again.

:rockon:

 

[mangotot]

He must of had a pretty fvcked up life to find himself in such a situation. He can definitely do it but apparently things get harder as you get older.

 

[Bingo-Player]

yea you can

but it depends largely on the character and willpower of the man

by 40 your average male will be deeply conditioned by society and various other bulls*it

i would say 1 in 20 could probably cope with being told everything they know is built on sand

 

[kukuku]

yea you can

but it depends largely on the character and willpower of the man

by 40 your average male will be deeply conditioned by society and various other bulls*it

i would say 1 in 20 could probably cope with being told everything they know is built on sand

at 30, doubt that 1 in 20 can get out of this. at 40 lol