Can a girl and a guy be legitimately best friends?

[DJ_Dork]

Originally posted by Anonymous56
My question is....can a girl and a guy be legitimately best friends without any romantic interest? The reason I ask is because I am really really being unecessarily jealous over the fact that my girlfriend's best friend is a guy who she has known since she was 12. She said she is like a brother to him.

He actually moved away but was in town this week. She went out to see him last night and for some reason It really made me insecure even though I definately shouldn't be.

yes.

other guys in this forum got some issues thinking the guy friend might bang her.

if she has been close friends with him for more than 2-3 years without any action - they are just friends and good friends at that. the only problem i have with gf's best friend being a guy is that the best friend replaces me in some aspect on an intellectual level. however, i get to be the one that gets access to her "assets" and that is all you should care about really.

 

[NewMan]

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My ex-girlfriend has this good guy friend who gives her missed calls virtually everyday. Missed calls as in just one or two rings and that's it. No talking at all (at least I never heard them talking)

Naturally, I asked her about this and she tells me they're only good friends, and nothing else. It did make me irritated on numerous occasions and ask her questions, because these missed calls happen quite often when I'm with her.

So, she went back to Spain for holidays (she's Spanish) and I asked her if she met up with this good guy friend of hers. They live in the same town. She told me no . I found this really strange - for a guy friend to be giving her missed calls everyday and not meeting up for a round of coffee or something. Perhaps they did; she didn't tell me this because she didn't want me to get worried or paranoid- god knows.

I did have suspicions that she may well be cheating on me. But I tried to look on the positive side- that she was phoning me almost everyday, telling me that she loved me, communicating online almost everyday etc.

But you just never know women, ....she could well be having someone on the side.


What do you guys make of this?


Xenopus


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This is weird.

She's your Ex - I'm glad of that for you.

I'd bet she meet up with him... and probably fvcked him.


As for the original poster.

She was his friend from 12 Yrs old. No issue.


If she'd just meet him - it would be different.

 

[becker]

Re: whoa..

Originally posted by Meffid Man
Man,

I must be the only dude whose completely on the other side of the spectrum. Here's my story...

Around 2 years ago, I was with this girl for a little bit. But she also had the infamous "best guy friend". The ex's mom and I joked around they always argued like a married couple. He was cool and I'm wasn't the jealous type. He was super AFC and I was at the time also, so it was perfect match...lol. We actually became friends and started hanging with each other. The girl tells me he's like a brother, which seemed true everytime i saw them together. Well, the girl and I broke up (of course due to my AFC actions).

Flash forward about 8 months. I no longer make contact with any of the ex-gf friends (even the infamous "best guy friend"). Then a friend of mine calls. This friend still keeps in contact with this girl friend of the ex.

Friend: Guess what?
Meff: ???
Friend: You know that one ex of yours. Guess whose she with?
Meff: What ex???
Friend: The one with the guy friend.
Meff: Ok???
Friend: She's with that guy friend now.
Meff: lol...That's good. I'm happy for them.

What else could I really say. I figured they would hook up eventually, because if I recall correctly, they were both LSE. So the match is cool, but yea..I guess the opposite can happen sometimes too.

Meffid

Yeah, I believe this can certainly happen in narrow circumstances. Basically, she had to at least have SOME initial attraction to him, and just decided to keep it on the friends level for one reason or another, but probably not because she wasn't attracted to him.

Women don't always just LJBF a guy because they aren't attracted to them. Sometimes they may do it because they feel they aren't ready for a relationship, but still wants to keep the guy around because she could see him as a potential guy if the opportunity ever arises. There could be many reasons.