Can a DJ be alpha-widowed?

[Konada]

With all a majority of women being trash, what happens if we find a girl who ticks all the possible boxes of a good LTR dumps us? Does it set a baseline standard for what we accept or no less for future LTRs?

By this, I mean a woman who is:
1. Attractive
2. Submissive
3. Sexually pleases you whenever you want
4. Not afraid/self-aware to admit she fvcked up
5. Able to communicate openly like an adult
6. Treats you like a king

 

[Desdinova]

The way I see it, it really boils down to this:

One-itis for a man is a curable malady. One-itis for a woman is a terminal disease.

I honestly believe that men can move on much easier from ended relationships. It's a woman's addiction to a high level of emotion and emotional transition that prevents them from truly getting over things. A good example is smoking. It's been scientifically proven that women have a much more difficult time quitting smoking than men. I honestly believe it's because women form an emotional bond with smoking. It's that reliable friend who is able to transition them from feeling irritable to feeling calm. It's similar to a man who can move her from one emotion to another. Women are addicted to the transition of emotions as opposed to feeling one emotion constantly (such as being happy).

what happens if we find a girl who ticks all the possible boxes of a good LTR dumps us? Does it set a baseline standard for what we accept or no less for future LTRs?

For the man who is able to qualify a woman based on things other than her looks, it helps us define what we will and won't tolerate in a relationship. In other words, it just makes us less tolerant of 5hitty women because we know there's better out there. I wouldn't call that being "alpha-widowed" though. It's like going from living in a nice house to a total dump. We know we can do better, and we know we should work at doing better because it's more enjoyable.

 

[ThisNThat]

The way I see it, it really boils down to this:

One-itis for a man is a curable malady. One-itis for a woman is a terminal disease.

I honestly believe that men can move on much easier from ended relationships. It's a woman's addiction to a high level of emotion and emotional transition that prevents them from truly getting over things. A good example is smoking. It's been scientifically proven that women have a much more difficult time quitting smoking than men. I honestly believe it's because women form an emotional bond with smoking. It's that reliable friend who is able to transition them from feeling irritable to feeling calm. It's similar to a man who can move her from one emotion to another. Women are addicted to the transition of emotions as opposed to feeling one emotion constantly (such as being happy).



For the man who is able to qualify a woman based on things other than her looks, it helps us define what we will and won't tolerate in a relationship. In other words, it just makes us less tolerant of 5hitty women because we know there's better out there. I wouldn't call that being "alpha-widowed" though. It's like going from living in a nice house to a total dump. We know we can do better, and we know we should work at doing better because it's more enjoyable.

Actually, there's a study out there (You'll have to Google it, Psychology Today is but one) that men take a longer time to get over it, but their emotions are a bit more in check. Women, however, take less time to get over a guy, but the initial impact nails them emotionally more so than a man.

Men tend to repress their grieving and take a 'fake it until you make it' approach...some men become dogs and go for every hookup...but they are terrified of intimacy and run like hell if a woman wants anything more. Alternatively they party with their guy friends to drown their sorrow or bury themselves in their career or their hobbies—anything to keep their mind off their loss and their pain

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

I think the closest a guy comes to that is the über hot chick who fvcked your brains out that you also partied your azz off with.

A combination of hot looks, hot sex, the high of a new relationship combined with partying (life in the fast lane partying).

You never forget that for the rest of your life.

-Augustus-

 

[RangerMIke]

It takes men longer to get over a break up then women. Women are emotional, all she needs to do is change her mood and she's fine. But 80% of the time when a chick breaks things off, she already has an orbiter lined up. If she monkey branches to what she considers a better man, she is over the break-up... I have seen this time and time again. You hardly ever hear of chicks killing themselves over dudes... happens all the time with men.

Having said that, the way to keep yourself from becoming an emotional basket case is to understand these basic axioms with women. BTW this is sh!t we learned when we were 8 years old.

1.) She's not your girl... it's just your turn. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, but when she says you're done, you get off the ride and find another one, let the next dude have his turn.

2.) When a chick is b!tchy, she has lost interest. Do not waste time with women that do not like you anymore. Instead of trying to fix 'things', just fvcking dump her and move on. Do not tolerate women that are not fun.

3.) Unicorns are not real. I do not care how much you think a chick is perfect, she is not.... What you are feeling is just a chemical reaction that drives males to bond... it blinds you to negatives. You should ALWAYS focus rationally on the things you do not like about any chick you are dating. If you have to sit down and make a list every day of sh!t you do not like, do it.

4.) Women are not loyal... it is not in their nature. If a better man comes along and gives her attention, she will think about cheating on you. Her willingness or not of actually cheating on you is a function of her social conditioning and upbringing. But do not think the girl you are with is any different from other women, because she isn't. If you find a loyal woman... who will not cheat on you... AND she falls out of love with you... she will stay, but she will turn your life into a living hell. She'll put on 50 pounds, and morph into a nagging b!tch.

5.) Women are happier with men they perceive are better than they are. The more she thinks you are better than she, the longer you will last.

 

[ThisNThat]

I'd have to disagree with #4, an over generalization, I mean, I have personal friends that have been married for 20+ years, loyalty on both partner's parts. No one has ever cheated. Of course, I've known some women to be disloyal, but I usually hear men tend to cheat more prevelantly than women.

Granted, some women do cheat...but, cheating to men is easy as falling off a bike for them. lol Their gender is well known for it...since they are in it to spread their seed.

But the #1...DEAD on! lol

 

[nismo-4]

Enter the judge.

It takes men longer to get over a break up then women. Women are emotional, all she needs to do is change her mood and she's fine.

Depends on the man. A man can change his mood too. Also, men have more trouble getting dates, LTR's, and sex.

But 80% of the time when a chick breaks things off, she already has an orbiter lined up. If she monkey branches to what she considers a better man, she is over the break-up... I have seen this time and time again. You hardly ever hear of chicks killing themselves over dudes... happens all the time with men.

Agreed. The only time a woman gets hurt over a break up is if a super high caliber guy like a NBA superstar dumps her. Have pity for her next orbiter, he won't measure up!

Having said that, the way to keep yourself from becoming an emotional basket case is to understand these basic axioms with women. BTW this is sh!t we learned when we were 8 years old.

Here's an axiom. Guard your heart. Don't open it. Never let your heart into dating a woman.

1.) She's not your girl... it's just your turn. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, but when she says you're done, you get off the ride and find another one, let the next dude have his turn.

The higher your caliber, the longer your turn.

2.) When a chick is b!tchy, she has lost interest. Do not waste time with women that do not like you anymore. Instead of trying to fix 'things', just fvcking dump her and move on. Do not tolerate women that are not fun.

Depends how b!tchy she is. Just use radio silence. If she comes around and is compliant, good. If not, hopefully you can not only erase, but also replace.

3.) Unicorns are not real. I do not care how much you think a chick is perfect, she is not.... What you are feeling is just a chemical reaction that drives males to bond... it blinds you to negatives. You should ALWAYS focus rationally on the things you do not like about any chick you are dating. If you have to sit down and make a list every day of sh!t you do not like, do it.

Correct. God damn Disney movies.

4.) Women are not loyal... it is not in their nature. If a better man comes along and gives her attention, she will think about cheating on you. Her willingness or not of actually cheating on you is a function of her social conditioning and upbringing. But do not think the girl you are with is any different from other women, because she isn't. If you find a loyal woman... who will not cheat on you... AND she falls out of love with you... she will stay, but she will turn your life into a living hell. She'll put on 50 pounds, and morph into a nagging b!tch.

If things go south, go ghost.

5.) Women are happier with men they perceive are better than they are. The more she thinks you are better than she, the longer you will last.

You always have competition. How many guys read articles on how to beat out male competition for a woman?

Read between the lines.

 

[RangerMIke]

I'd have to disagree with #4, an over generalization, I mean, I have personal friends that have been married for 20+ years, loyalty on both partner's parts. No one has ever cheated. Of course, I've known some women to be disloyal, but I usually hear men tend to cheat more prevelantly than women.

Granted, some women do cheat...but, cheating to men is easy as falling off a bike for them. lol Their gender is well known for it...since they are in it to spread their seed.

But the #1...DEAD on! lol

You have to take #4 with #5. If a women thinks you are better than she is... she will stay with you, but it isn't loyalty... it is only that you are her best option. Women are emotional... they feel love different than men. The men a key component of 'love' is loyalty. To chicks a key component of love is your ability to.meet her needs.

 

[RangerMIke]

Enter the judge.



Read between the lines.

There are always exceptions, but as a general rule:

A woman is what she feels.

A man is what he rationally understands.

Breakups are emotional... all a chick needs to do is find another dude that pushes her buttons and she's good to go. Because she is a chick and if she happens to be a even a little attractive she can get validation from men.

Dudes tend to spend WAY too much time over analyzing what went wrong. There is no rational explanation for what chicks do, so any attempt to figure that sh!t out is time wasted.

Self actualized men understand this... so they just move on to other chicks and do not allow themselves to get too attached to any one girl.

 

[nismo-4]

There are always exceptions, but as a general rule:

A woman is what she feels.

A man is what he rationally understands.

Breakups are emotional... all a chick needs to do is find another dude that pushes her buttons and she's good to go. Because she is a chick and if she happens to be a even a little attractive she can get validation from men.

Dudes tend to spend WAY too much time over analyzing what went wrong. There is no rational explanation for what chicks do, so any attempt to figure that sh!t out is time wasted.

Self actualized men understand this... so they just move on to other chicks and do not allow themselves to get too attached to any one girl.

A chick doesn't even have to be attractive. Just online and have a pu$$y.

You shouldn't over analyze anything. Until you're a senior analyst of a fortune 500 company, don't do that sh*t.

Yes, you can get dropped for the most illogical reasons. Just like why a company won't hire you. Infinite reasons. I lost a date for my junior prom behind a game called The Legend of Zelda: The Wind Waker. A Gamecube game I never owned and thus we couldn't talk about it. Maybe she wanted to date somebody working for Nintendo. Don't care cuz I deleted her number and called up someone far prettier, and had a great ass time.

It's so easy to not get attached. Just lock up your heart and emotions. The minute it's unlocked, you've lost.

Remember, no woman is that attractive and you can always do better.

 

[El Payaso]

It takes men longer to get over a break up then women. Women are emotional, all she needs to do is change her mood and she's fine. But 80% of the time when a chick breaks things off, she already has an orbiter lined up. If she monkey branches to what she considers a better man, she is over the break-up... I have seen this time and time again. You hardly ever hear of chicks killing themselves over dudes... happens all the time with men.

Having said that, the way to keep yourself from becoming an emotional basket case is to understand these basic axioms with women. BTW this is sh!t we learned when we were 8 years old.

1.) She's not your girl... it's just your turn. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, but when she says you're done, you get off the ride and find another one, let the next dude have his turn.

2.) When a chick is b!tchy, she has lost interest. Do not waste time with women that do not like you anymore. Instead of trying to fix 'things', just fvcking dump her and move on. Do not tolerate women that are not fun.

3.) Unicorns are not real. I do not care how much you think a chick is perfect, she is not.... What you are feeling is just a chemical reaction that drives males to bond... it blinds you to negatives. You should ALWAYS focus rationally on the things you do not like about any chick you are dating. If you have to sit down and make a list every day of sh!t you do not like, do it.

4.) Women are not loyal... it is not in their nature. If a better man comes along and gives her attention, she will think about cheating on you. Her willingness or not of actually cheating on you is a function of her social conditioning and upbringing. But do not think the girl you are with is any different from other women, because she isn't. If you find a loyal woman... who will not cheat on you... AND she falls out of love with you... she will stay, but she will turn your life into a living hell. She'll put on 50 pounds, and morph into a nagging b!tch.

5.) Women are happier with men they perceive are better than they are. The more she thinks you are better than she, the longer you will last.

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